The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

You've submitted questions. Jayson's got answers! This Ask Me Anything episode addresses feelings of inadequacy and mismatched sex drives.   SHOWNOTES: Why We Sometimes Feel We’re Not Enough & What To Do About It [2:00] What To Do When Your Partner Has A Different Sex Drive [6:00] How To Submit Your Questions [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Ask Me Anything ep...

 Have a partner, friend or family member with an addiction? Feeling discouraged about their ability to change? Well, often times at the core of addiction ... is a relationship problem. SHOWNOTES: The Connection Between Addiction And Prior Relationship Issues [2:00] Tips For People Who Love An Addict [4:00] Why Trying To Help Save Them Is A Bad Idea [7:00] Addressing The Addict In Your Life St...

Society often glorifies the caretaker to a saint-like status. But, it’s important to know when caretaking reaches the point of actually being more harmful than helpful.   SHOWNOTES: What is Caretaking? [1:00] The Caretaker Blindspot [4:00] Slipping From Being A Caretaker And Into Codependency [7:00] Action Step [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about ca...

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? Are you spending a fortune cleaning up after your failed relationships? In this episode, Jayson answers your questions about DPIR® and breaks down why the course is so worth it. Click here to apply.    SHOWNOTES: Think About WHY You Were Anxious About Going Back To School [1:00] Some Important Questi...

According to professor and therapist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, engaging your partner in conversation about their past experiences is one of the best things you can do to keep your relationship sexy and exciting. Listen in to find out why! Who is Dr. Alexandra Solomon? [6:00] Alexandra Defines "Relational Self-Awareness" [8:00]  Are Some People Just More Interested In Self-Awareness? [10:00] How...

You know those couples where the woman handles almost everything and the man, well ... kind of kicks back and acts like a teenager? That's the mother-son dynamic and in this episode, you'll learn how to escape that relationship trap and figure out why it happens in the first place. The Mom-Son Dynamic From A Woman’s Perspective [3:00] The Mom-Son Dynamic From A Guy’s Perspective [5:00] How to...

As grand prize winners of a recent Smart Couple podcast contest, Heather and Thomas got to sit down for a free session with Jayson. In this emotional and inspiring interview, Jayson helps Heather and Thomas dig into their past to find answers they've been seeking for years. Heather Lays Out Her Side Of The Story [8:00] Thomas Connects With Heather’s Past [20:00] Find Out WHY Your Partner Reacts Th...

 A lot of things you take personally in relationship have very little to do with your partner. Those issues are really the result of YOUR past, YOUR triggers and YOUR perspective...So says long-time Boulder, Colorado therapist & expert in the field of Child and Adult Attachment Theory and Models, Dr. Diane Poole Heller.  How The Therapy Field Chose Diane [7:00] Why The Attachment Model I...

We all want a little reassurance. And that's okay! But as Jayson's wife Ellen Boeder points out, if you're needing reassurance because you feel jealous, the issue you should address is the insecurity in your relationship. Is Monogamy The Problem Or Insecure Attachment? [1:00] The Power Of Reassurance [5:00] Two Impediments To Reassurance [10:00] Navigating A Jealous Partnership [13:00] For the ful...

What does it take to build a strong team-style partnership? Why do so many entrepreneurial types rely on teamwork in their careers, but struggle to be a team player at home? Renowned therapist and co-founder of The Couples Institue, Pete Pearson, leads Jayson through a body-mind exercise that demonstrates ways to control reaction to stress in conflict and improve teamwork.  What Cat...

Are you just defaulting to monogamy? Ever GENUINELY asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster and public speaker, Dan Savage, says we should all ask ourselves these questions regularly. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've accepted that it's impossible to fulfill all your partner'...

It's fair to say that relationship is a journey to discover and learn the answers to one love-related question after another. So, what better way to celebrate this in our 200th EPISODE than to answer as many of your love related questions as we can! SHOWNOTES:  200th Episode Contest Details! [2:00] Doing Partnership With Emotionally Unavailable People [11:00]  How To Hold Your Partner's...

Couples therapy legends Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt were told by THEIR therapist that they were the couple from hell . Since then, not only have they mended, they've gone on to write multiple best-selling books that have revolutionized the therapy field.   SHOWNOTES: Understanding "Connection" [8:00] What Does 'Imago' Mean, According To The Word's Inventors [15:00] Harville & Helen's Respon...

Having awesome friends is great. Having awesome friends that are ALSO on the personal growth path IS BETTER! Personal growth powerhouses Reuvain Bacal, Will Vanderveer, Keith Kurlander & Jayson Gaddis are longtime friends with a quarter century of coaching & self-improvement experience between them. Listen in on their convo!   SHOWNOTES: Who Are These Guys? [9:00] The Value Of Community [13:0...

We all have a tendency to avoid things that are difficult but Human Connection Specialist and dating coach, Mark Groves, knows where there's pain there's gain. Let's take a look at our wounded, angry warrior sides and see what they have to teach us about loving well!   SHOWNOTES: Are You Fixing People to Boost Your Control? [8:00] Overusing of the "Narcissist" Title [16:00] The Value of Acces...

Who knew saying the words "I'm insecure" could be so sexy!?! It's time to uncover those insecurities, let go of the entitlement and celebrate where you're really at on your growth path.   SHOWNOTES: Why Insecurity Gets a Bad Rap [2:00] Call B.S. on Your Insecure Friends! [5:00] What Does it Mean to be ”Entitled” [6:00] Your Action Step - It’ll Make You Look Sexy! [9:00]   For the full Sm...

Coaches Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban are a great example of a couple getting it right in the face of some serious challenges. Listen closely and you can snag some of their most helpful relationship tools!   SHOWNOTES: Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin’s Love Story [5:00] Advice for Couples When Step-Kids Are Involved [11:00] Why We Fail To Stand Up For Who We Are In Partnership [25:00] Primal F...

Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WOW, was she a treasure trove of insight. Not just theories and concepts, but insight that can be used every day. SHOWNOTES: Who is Ellyn Bader? [3:00] Anxiety vs Growth-Promoting Anxiety in Relationship [7:00] Three Different Decision-Making Stra...

Right now, researchers and the public are fascinated with brain science and Dr. Dan Siegel is a legend in that department. Jayson and Dr. Siegel dig in deep in this one, discussing autoimmune disease, rewiring the brain, GMO food, struggles in the therapy field and so much more.d and so much more. SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Important to Have Healthy Adult Relationships for Good Health [12:00] D...

A new study shows child abuse should be considered the second largest cause of illness in the U.S.. And yet, our diagnostic system ignores trauma completely. Listen to what trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has to say about that and get his insight into turning traumatic pain into personal power!   SHOWNOTES: Bessel Responds to The Allegations Against Him [10:00] 2nd Largest National Health P...

 Men are getting their world's rocked by the #MeToo movement and the rapid change in gender norms. In this episode, Jayson taps into Adam Gilad's valuable insight on men in the modern world. SHOWNOTES: Who is Adam Gilad & What is Going on With Men Right Now [3:00] Men and the #MeToo Movement [8:00] Why Does the #MeToo Movement Make Some Men Defensive? [11:00] Why Male Identity Ultimately...

This year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA was a dream for a relationship research and brain science nerd! If you geek out on that stuff, you'll love hearing the highlights Jayson and his therapist partner, Ellen Boeder, have in their personal conference notes. SHOWNOTES: Antonio Damasio Highlights [5:00] Dan Siegel Highlights [8:00] Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt Highlights - Safe...

If you're like most people, you spend FOUR HOURS A DAY on your phone and check it ONE HUNDRED TIMES! Is all that time improving your life and the lives of others? If you use social media and want to hear a unique story about rebuilding after a separation, this episode is worth every minute!   SHOWNOTES: Who is Mark Shapiro? [5:00] Some Social Media Fails [12:00] Mark’s Extreme Social Media Ex...

  In this episode, Jayson breaks down the three stages of long-term relationships, why they matter and what it takes to advance beyond the three stages to the ultimate partnership phase we all desire.   SHOWNOTES: Relationship Stage One: Infatuation [4:00] Relationship Stage Two is Challenging! [8:00] Earning the RIGHT to Get to Stage Three: True Love [9:00] Jayson's Fourth Stage: Love 3...

Ever heard of a freak accident rocking someone's world and totally changing them for the better? Gay Hendricks has one of those stories! If you're interested in the mind-body connection and seeking purpose, a forever partner or a new you...listen closely and Gay may just share all the wisdom you need, without experiencing your own life-altering mishap.   SHOWNOTES: The Gay Hend...