The Irish Mummy Podcast | Work Life Balance

Today we talk with Alexis and Alan Tanner, parents to 5 children and hosts of the “Parenting In Real Life” podcast. We discuss how to talk to kids and not get angry at them, but instead to talk calmly. Good parenting isn’t necessarily easy parenting, and it’s OK to try harder with them and be tired. Alexis tells us that her and Alan are naturally very patient people, but having children has defini...

In this episode we talk about the things that we want, but cannot currently afford and how those things may change over time. We talk about the house that we want and the different things that would either make it look nice, or make it more functional and make living a lot easier/convenient. Some of the things we want include getting chickens, a veggie garden, a poly tunnel, a treehouse area, and...

Today we discuss success that compliments, not competes with motherhood. You don’t need to choose between motherhood and success, but you can achieve both. Rosie explains what success looks like to her, which includes finding joy in what she’s doing and not putting any limitations on what life could look like. She has made sure to build her business in such a way that it complements her children r...

We start off today talking about how sometimes we have certain expectations of our children and when they don’t meet those expectations, we get frustrated and start thinking we need to maybe punish them, when in fact punishing them for innocent things they’re doing can just frustrate your children. Sometimes we forget what it was like to be a kid and thus put a higher standard on children than wha...

In this episode we talk to Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board certified coach, and the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching. She’s the author of Exaholics, Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love, and is the host of the Love Happiness and Success podcast. We talk about the common things Lisa sees in marriages with problems and t...

Today we talk about childhood trauma and the impact it has on children. Adam tells about an experience he had in high school, getting made fun of because of his weight and sort of nerdiness, and then the impact it had on his thinking. We talk about how much pain he went through and how this affected his desire to go to school. Eventually Adam felt he became the bully, or the very thing he loathed....

The Common Mistake Most Parents Make | Children Absorb Information Like A Sponge In this episode we discuss a more serious topic, the common mistake most parents make. We talk about the power of influence on the lives of your children and how much of what you say and demonstrate to them will be reflected in their own lives. Sometimes we or other people say things to our children as a joke, but we...

Today is a sort of follow up to The Day of Disgust episode and we discuss health and exercise after pregnancy. There’s a 2 week period right after giving birth when you are trying to get your bearings and to understand again what life is like without being pregnant. After those 2 weeks of trying to just survive and adjusting to life with a newborn, then Rosie began her new routine. Rosie tells abo...

In this episode we discuss communication and the importance it plays between you, your spouse, and your kids. We talk about how much we talked when we were dating, and then how much things changed once we were married and very comfortable around each other. Adam learned a lot about how women communicate when Rosie started educating him that women often just want you to listen instead of fix the is...

We start off by talking about what kids do to stall and have you stick around when you’re putting them to bed, and then we apply this to our own lives. We discuss how we often get stuck in life and how it’s usually all in our own heads, and then what we can do to get unstuck. We talk about social media and how much it can be a trigger for anger or unhappiness, but removing yourself from so much of...

We start off today talking about the time after you have your baby and are still consuming a lot of calories. Rosie started noticing after a couple of weeks that her legs seemed a bit swelled up and after talking to a specialist and looking over the healthy portion of her diet, they realized she had too many healthy fats, but not enough protein, which was making her more hungry. We talk about the...

Today we discuss motherhood and how it’s something that many of us love, but loving motherhood in no way means that it’s easy. We talk about taking care of your newborn, which tends to be a harder stage for Adam than for Rosie. We mention the app called The Wonder Weeks and the great use it has been for us in knowing about the beginning stages of our newborn. We discuss the fact that it’s easier t...

Today we discuss something we like to call the social mummy experiment. We start off by defining social, which has to do more with social media, and if you do not have a business online, it’s mainly just social for you. Rosie found that when she cut down on the purely social interactions she had on social media, the house became much more harmonious and the kids were a joy to be around, but she re...

Rosie and Adam discuss how we can be more successful in life and also how to avoid following the wrong examples. Sometimes we don’t know what to prioritize and sometimes we model off people who we think are doing it correctly, but behind the scenes they aren’t doing things as great as we thought. Oftentimes when we look at someone else’s life we’re just seeing the “trailer” for it, but when we see...

Adam and Rosie discuss how your business can affect your personal life. Sometimes we feel a need for recognition, along with the fear of failure. This can cause one to focus more on their business than their personal life. We need to be careful not to just be doing busy work as a business owner. It’s more about being efficient and getting results. For Rosie, having kids has helped her to not follo...

Adam and Rosie talk about how COVID has made them leave their typical living place. They’re moving back to Ireland soon in order to seek more stability. Don’t be afraid of making the wrong decision, or of trying new things. It’s hard to know what’s working unless you’ve tried something else. Their kids were sad to leave Ireland when they left before, but now they’re sad to be leaving Portugal. The...

Adam and Rosie discuss how there is much conflict right now about capitalism and whether it is good or bad. Adam grew up in the middle class, but at 18 went into finance. He saw how hard the wealthy work and the majority of them worked really hard for what they have. For a lot of the wealthy, it wouldn’t make sense to cap their wealth because they wouldn’t be able to continue to improve their prod...

Writing every single day has a greater impact on your life. “Journaling plus action plus reflection and growth is gonna take you the way you want to be.” Journaling is a reflection on your life and helps you know where you are in life. Journaling will help you actually shape the direction and detail in your life. Journaling is a book to future generations and it can be a window into the past to he...

Today, we talk about the key things Rosie does for labour. We talk about eating gummy bears for a quick, easy to digest burst of energy, as well as diffusing essential oils and applying them to the body. We discuss other things that aid the birth, such as walking around, and listening to music on a portable speaker. She says that she wishes she had the music up a little louder, and that she hadn’t...

Today’s episode is about Rosie’s experience having a home birth in Portugal. We talk about how in Ireland, home births by the Health Service Executive as part of the public health system. In Portugal, home birth is completely through private funds, and is very uncommon. We talk about finding the right midwife, and how COVID-19 made the idea of a home birth more appealing. We talk about the process...

This episode is about using time around the dinner table as an opportunity to connect. We talk about how eating can make conversation with young kids easier, because of easy eye contact, discussion with everyone, and adding an element of familiarity and comfort to sometimes difficult conversations. We talk about the importance of eye contact, and explain how you can pick up on how your kids are fe...

Today, we talk about keeping score in marriage. We explain how Adam has been taking on more responsibilities with the kids because Rosie is very late in pregnancy. We explain how much trouble can be caused by feelings of entitlement, fatigue, and notions of an imbalance in responsibility. We discuss how being at home with kids can be very tough and exhausting. We also talk about our system of an a...

In today’s episode, we discuss the importance of recognizing that every mother’s approach to motherhood will be different. We talk about the importance of seeking out education on motherhood to be able to make educated choices as you are trying to meet the unique needs of your child, as well as your own needs. We suggest that experienced mothers should try to guide and mentor like-minded young mot...

Today, we discuss how life can bring you joy through challenging and difficult experiences. We begin our discussion by sharing a story of a young couple who were notified that their baby would not live very long out of the womb, and they decided not to terminate the birth and enjoy the few hours they had with their baby after birth, despite the heartache that followed. We talk about how our greate...

Today’s episode is a candid discussion of what it means to be married. We talk about the serious and sacred nature of the marriage vows and promises, and discuss how the success of that long-term relationship is more about commitment than chemistry. We emphasize that family units are the foundation of society, where more is done for the successful development of good citizens than anywhere else. W...