The Introspective and Hot Podcast w/ Kat Blaque

Transphobia and dating are subjects that come up pretty frequently and one of the most intense debates is about whether or not lesbians are transphobic for not wanting to sleep with trans women. I dont personally think so, but im fairly used to women pursuing me romantically. If we listened to this discourse, we'd believe that never happened but I often find myself rejecting cis women despite...

In this episode of the call-in, we speak to a few people of various genders and they give their perspective on gendered pricing structures at events. We speak to a trans man who once enjoyed getting freebees for being seen as a woman, a post op trans woman about her own experiences and two cis women about their own experiences in these practices in both vanilla and kink settings.  Support the show...

From clubs to kink parties, I discuss the concept of "women get in free" in the midst of a reckoning in the LA area where some of these places are being shut down because of sexual assault allegations. They often say when you get in for free, you're the product. Support the show If you enjoy the podcast, help support it by joining my Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/katblaque

Hypersexuality is a common response to sexual violence, but many folks would assume the opposite. In this call in show I open the floor up to a wider range of people to discuss their own experiences with hypersexuality after sexual violence.  Support the show If you enjoy the podcast, help support it by joining my Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/katblaque

When you've been assaulted, the assumption is frequently that you would become more modest, less sexual and very protective of who you allow into your physical space. This idea is often predicated on the idea that sexual violence only occurs when someone seems receptive to it. This is an obvious fallacy, but the hypersexual response to assault is still very confusing to many. For me, I wouldn...

When you're black, you're often raised with this idea of black love. My parents directly told me not to date outside of my race. However, as a trans woman, I've found this to be pretty complex and I discussed that in the last episode. Now I open the floor to folks who  have had similar, but also different experiences pursuing black love when you're black, trans and/or queer.  S...

As someone with several long term relationships with white men, I'm often criticized for not having relationships with black men. This has often put me into a position where I'm having to measure if I'm willing to stick to my general standard of a man who wants to claim me, or shift my standards "for the cause". It seems as though some people would rather me be in a secret...

This week, our call in show is all across the board. We speak to bisexual black men who've slept with Crossdressers, Dfab NB folks who've dealt with it head on and a transgender man who points out the fact that part of the problem is that submission is very rarely framed as masculine. So let's dive in with an open mind! Support the show If you enjoy the podcast, help support it by j...

As a transgender woman, I'm frequently put in positions where I've been approached by sissies or crossdressers. While these two fetishes aren't exactly the same, I do find that they tend to relate in terms of how many men practice these fetishes. When femininity is framed as a shameful, negative, disgusting thing and men fetishize that, its hard for me to decouple that from standard...

In my original podcast, I said that black men quite frequently don't seem bothered by Race Play and I was lucky enough to have several black men call in and give me their perspectives. Some who boldly embrace race play, others who roundly reject it. Both straight and gay men tell me why they've entertained Race Play and why some of them never will again.  Support the show If you enjoy th...

Black Women call in and tell me about their experiences with Race Play! From a woman who almost joined a Plantation manned by a white master, to a sex worker who charges extra for race play, these perspectives are fascinating and shed light on how race play impact black women, especially sex positive ones.  Support the show If you enjoy the podcast, help support it by joining my Patreon: http://ww...

(Re-run) Race Play is a type of BDSM play that dips into racial fetishism and objectification in the way other types of play often dip into other problematic things that are very much a real part of our daily lives. I try not to kink shame, but race play is rarely consensually presented to me as a black trans woman so naturally, I've got opinions about it.  Support the show If you enjoy the p...

Last week I discussed my complex experiences with men who read me as a DFAB NB person who were really disappointed when they discovered that I didn't have the "right parts". The collateral damage of a man with fairly heteronormative sexual interests rebranding themselves as some shade of queer lead me to have a deeper conversation about DFAB NB folks who are often being dismissed by...

One of the most fascinating issues I've had with dating in this new consciousness around gender is that some heterosexual men have stopped understanding that "transgender woman" doesn't mean "non binary person who was designated female at birth". In this podcast, I tell two stories that reach the same conclusion: that some heterosexual men have started to simply shift...

in this call in show, several different people tell me their stories of the negative experiences they've had with Dominants. A Domme also decides to call in and share her experience being a less than stellar dominant.  Support the show If you enjoy the podcast, help support it by joining my Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/katblaque

This week's theme is shitty Dom stories and boy do I have one for ya!  Support the show If you enjoy the podcast, help support it by joining my Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/katblaque

In this episode, Black Women call in and give me their perspective on the palpable whiteness of the BDSM community. Using my story of the white rope artist who tokenized a woman of color in a photoshoot, we discuss the many nuances of being one of the few black women in a BDSM space. From race play fetishism to the obvious preference of many dominants, we discuss how the whiteness of these spaces...

A few weeks ago, a popular rope artist who predominately does rope on white women, posted a picture of a WOC who bottomed for them and in the process tokenized them in a way that made them feel uncomfortable. They didn't consent to being the token in their feed and in the process of trying to show off for doing rope (finally) on a WOC, they managed to get their race wrong. This lead to a huge...

As discussed last week, being tokenized sucks pretty hard, but it's something a lot of us have done and had done to us many times throughout life. In this episode, we have a gay man call in about being the gay bestie to a woman dating a homophobe, a lesbian who was tokenized by her not quite out ex gf, a black woman who let white cosmetologists do her hair (and by do, I mean ruin) for clout a...

I used to tell people that if they're curious about an experience outside of their own, they should befriend people of said experience. I regret that advice as I start to reintegrate into society, I'm having experiences with being tokenized. One stood out to me as quite painful as their desire for social media performance was starkly contradicted by their avoidance of me in meat space. ...

"Unicorn Hunting" is a term reserved for predatory couples who seek out, often, but not always, bisexual women who are interested in participating in a threesome with a man and a woman in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with wanting a threesome, but more often than not, unicorn hunters manipulate women into sexual situations they wouldn't consent to if they understood wha...

A "unicorn" is (generally) a bisexual woman, open to having a sexual relationship with, (generally) a heterosexual couple with a bisexual or bi curious woman. A woman who will magically be attracted to both parties and is open to exploring sexually with both. This is an incredibly popular fantasy, but, as you can imagine, often doesn't reflect reality. As we've established seve...

Some folks are polyamorous, some folks are monogamous and some people are somewhere on the spectrum. As a polyamorous person, I identify myself as polyamorous because of my aversion to monogamy, but everyone has their own perspective and that's what this discussion is about. From a gay pup player discussing his own self discovery of polyamory to a woman in the middle of a lesbian throuple, wh...

Years ago, I ended a monogamous relationship with a person I loved more than anything so that I could live more happily and honestly. Because of that, I have a hard time understanding people who claim to be "ambiamorous" or "polyflexible". People use these terms to express that they are open to monogamy AND polyamory, but for me it's very hard for me to not see that as an...

The "kink at pride" discourse happens every single year often between people who don't actively go to Gay Pride.  So I thought I'd open up to lines to actual Pride Attendees to discuss their feelings. We speak to sex workers, asexual folks, trans men and gay men who've been goin to pride for decades. We speak to people who agree and disagree and the conversation is quite f...