The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

You may think that after years of marriage, intimacy should get easier. After all, you know one another better than anyone, you have a routine. So why is it that for so many couples, sexual intimacy becomes more complicated with time? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why initiating sexual intimacy isn't always intuitive—even in long-term relationships—and what you can do about it....

Want to learn how to reliably ask for sex in a way that leads to connection instead of rejection? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores this often-overlooked skill. She speaks directly to high-achieving men who struggle with initiating sex and offers a grounded, compassionate approach rooted in respect and emotional intimacy. Once you learn how to ask for sex well, it will transform yo...

Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? Learn how igniting your marriage through relationship coaching enhances everything in life. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell interviews her client Sebastian Smelko—an accomplished lawyer, and a devoted husband and father—about how relationship coaching helped him and his wife turn their "roommate-style" ma...

Ever wonder what power couples do differently to thrive in life, and love? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks with Rono Smith and Sierra Sullivan—relationship coaches and visionary partners—about the secrets that transformed their business partnership into a deeply connected marriage. You'll learn about their Epic Date Formula, how intimacy fuels purpo...

What if deeper intimacy begins by facing the emotions you've been avoiding? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why avoiding emotional pain is blocking you from true pleasure. Discover how emotional numbness doesn't just protect you from hurt—it also dulls your capacity for joy, passion, and connection. Learn what it really means to embrace Uncompromi...

Is it possible for a long-term marriage to become more fulfilling over time, better than the early years of dating and the newlywed phase? (We're talking all aspects of marriage, including sex!) In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Drs. Alexandra and Rodd Stockwell share their real-life journey through many phases of their marriage—from tending small children, to the early years of de...

Intentional love isn't just a goal—it's a daily practice. Ling and Lamb, married content creators, beloved influencers, and authors, exemplify this through their blend of playful pranks and honest conversations. In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell chats with Ling and Lamb about how they've mastered the art of blending humor, culture, extreme differences in upb...

Craving more presence, passion, and real connection in your relationship? This episode is your gentle nudge to slow down, truly show up, and deepen intimacy in a meaningful way. In today's episode, Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the issue of modern technology and other common distractions that pull us away from meaningful moments—and shares simple but powerful tools like deep br...

AI offers surprising insights on a whole range of topics, and in this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell describes how to use the principles of AI to improve communication and connection in your marriage. Dr. Alexandra suggests that talking to your partner the way you need to in order to get the best results from AI—with clarity, specificity, and enough details to ma...

What happens when a couple navigates libido mismatch—and how can they reconnect without feeling broken or disconnected? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks with somatic sex therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, MA about overcoming desire differences and reigniting sexual intimacy in marriage. Drawing from her own suffering in a sexless marriage, Susan shares how emotional awareness, communicat...

Whose needs should you prioritize for a lasting marriage—yours or your spouse's? What if there's a "third" that matters even more? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares personal reflections on the occasion of her daughter's wedding, while detailing the powerful concept of "the third"—viewing the marriage itself as a living entity, distinct from each person in it. By prioritizing the rela...

Is altering your state of mind the key to deeper connection and high performance? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks with the "Father of Biohacking" and Founder of Bulletproof Coffee, Dave Asprey, about how meditation, biohacking, and consciousness boost personal growth and improve relationships. Drawing from his new book Heavily Meditated, Dave shares tools like the "reset process" to...

Are you experiencing true sexual fulfillment—or are you just rushing to the finish line? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell teaches you to slow down and savor each moment, in order to enjoy more pleasure and connection during intimacy. Using the analogy of enjoying delicious chocolate cake, she explores the power of anticipation, mindfulness, and prolonged arousal. Dr. Alexandra shares actio...

Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize. In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the cru...

Are you and your partner drifting apart, despite loving each other deeply? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how planning and scheduling "intimacy dates" can save your relationship (and totally uplevel it!) by fostering deeper connection and closeness, especially for busy couples juggling work, family, and other responsibilities. Emphasizing that in...

Do you ever feel like a third wheel in your marriage, after the birth of your children? You are not alone. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the common phenomenon where fathers, sometimes mothers, struggle with the change in relationship dynamics that occur when parental responsibilities take center stage; she sheds light on how to navigate these ch...

It's essential to understand that experiences of sexual shame vary greatly, depending on the person and circumstances. Addressing the range of feelings openly is vital for a healthy relationship. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is joined by April Lampert and Amy Baldwin of "Shameless Sex" to discuss the intricacies of sexual shame, its impact on relationsh...

As a listener, you know I rarely record bonus episodes. But I'm too excited to share this so I had to turn on the mic. Today I'm introducing you to "INITIATING," my program for educated successful men who want more and better sex. Are you ready to learn the game-changing strategies that will completely change the dynamic between you and your wife? Join me, starting this Monday, April 7th for INITI...

People often talk about the importance of "prioritizing your marriage," but what does that actually mean? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell addresses the common tendency to overlook nurturing emotional intimacy, amidst busy careers and family life. She emphasizes that making time to spend together as a couple is essential, but it's only the beginning of what...

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell and her husband, Dr. Rodd Stockwell, discuss ways men successfully initiate intimacy with their wives. Drawing on their own experience being married for 29 years, they share how their intimacy dynamics have evolved over the years, and what changed for it to become as wonderful as it is now. They also discuss how their commun...

There is a nuanced art to cultivating intimacy in relationships, and in this week's episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks specifically on the topic of how men can initiate sex and intimacy with their women in ways that foster connection and increase passion. Emphasizing the qualities of confidence and leadership, Dr. Alexandra discusses effective ways for a man t...

Making assumptions impacts intimacy and connection in marriage in crucial ways. In this week's episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell discusses why assumptions are dangerous; she teaches that the act of getting curious and asking questions is a small but powerful alternative to making potentially inaccurate assumptions. Opening up about true feelings and desires will cre...

Affection is one of the most valuable ways to connect in a relationship, and in this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks about its importance and how couples can revive affection in marriage. Whether affection in your marriage is dwindling, or you're looking to establish it for the first time, this episode provides a roadmap to enhance your emotional and physica...

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell and Pamela Madsen dive into the complexities of maintaining passion in long-term relationships. They explore the crucial components that are required to rekindle desire and excitement in marriage, especially when things have grown stale over time. Pamela Madsen shares her expert insights on why nurturing your own body and de...

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the complexities of mismatched sexual desire in long-term relationships. Highlighting the power of emotional intimacy as a pathway to sexual connection, Dr. Alexandra emphasizes that deep emotional bonds can enhance and elevate sexual experiences in committed partnerships. She also highlights the power of non-sexual...