the Informed Simplicity podcast

Listen on YouTube Listen on iTunes : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-informed-simplicity-project/id1427537186 Learn more about Deliberate Practice here : https://www.dpfortherapists.com/tonyrousmaniere Contact me at InformedSimplicity@gmail.com P.S. If you enjoyed this episode check out my lecture on how to become a master therapist.  

Get the book here . Find Linda Weiner here .  Contact me at InformedSimplicity@gmail.com Listen on YouTube P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my interview with Peggy Kleinplatz  She's another amazing sex therapist.

It's only when we feel free to give up hypervigilance that we can give someone our full attention. That requires us to feel safe. Contact me at InformedSimplicity@gmail.com Listen on YouTube P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my interview with Deb Dana . She's the therapist popularizing Polyvagal Theory.

"I think it's the listening. You listen you here. You do not actually let one detail go. You're completely there. And this is why as therapist we need to be accountable. We need... to look after our own physical and mental health. We need to be alert  all the time. We can not actually bring outside issues into our work. We have to be there 150 percent." -Eri Vlass Listen on YouTube Contact me at I...

"Sex is always contextual. It's about about the relationship. It's always about the hopes, and dreams, and fears of each of the people involved in those sexual relations. It's always complex and that's where the media gets it wrong. ...it's never what it seems to be." Peggy Kleinplatz.       Listen on YouTube   Learn more about Peggy and get trained here optimalsexualexperiences.com   Contact me a...

"Thank you for what you do...The fact that you listen is a huge deal." Jennifer Allen.     Contact me at InformedSimplicity@gmail.com Listen on YouTube P.S. If you enjoyed this  check out this interview with Katheryn Sneed.  She also talks about her experience as a client.

As therapists we have to always be mindful of how safe our clients feel in our presence. This is not always easy to determine. But now we know. There are innate cues and Polyvagal Theory tells us what they are.   Contact me at InformedSimplicity@gmail.com Listen on YouTube P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my interview with Deb Dana . She's the therapist popularizing Polyvagal Theory.

 "Connection is always, always, always a long term solution...Empathy and connection techniques are just the more powerful techniques." Contact me here: informedsimplicity@gmail.com Watch here on YouTube P.S. If you enjoyed this, make sure to check out this episode on How to Become a Supershrink. The two are thematically linked.   

 "A lot of learning comes through failure. That's been a good teacher for me." Contact me here: informedsimplicity@gmail.com Watch here on YouTube Learn a more about Ryan Rana  here.  If you want more from Ryan check out his podcast on EFT here , on Leadership here , or his video chat with former ISP guest Anabelle Bugatti Here .  P.S. If you enjoyed this, make sure to check out this episode on Ho...

"One can imagine how revulsion at the physical signs of suffering, of disease, might have had a benefit in reducing contagion, but it comes at the cost of reducing our capacity for empathy and compassion, which can be very useful in building community." -Paul Ekman "Emotions Revealed"   Contact me at Jocrharris@gmail.com Listen on YouTube P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my other short on John G...

 Not only is it okay to make mistakes or to fail at something, but it's good in a way. If your not, if your not making mistakes and you're not failing your not growing." Contact me here: Jocrharris@gmail.com Watch here on YouTube  Learn a more about Josh here Check out Josh's book here Also, check out  https://theartoflearningproject.org/ P.S. If you enjoyed this, make sure to check out this episo...

My research findings were not unique. The late sex therapist Bernie Zilbergeld studied 100 couples...to [his] surprise, his overwhelming finding was the unimportance of technique. What [mattered?] The sexually active partners had a closer friendship and were committed to making sex a priority.   -John Gottman "What Makes Love Last"   Contact me at Jocrharris@gmail.com Check out more about Gottman'...

 The Charismatic {Speakers}: This is the kind of person who spends all their time talking. Lecturing. Weaving shimmering webs of ideas into the air. They’re often quite eloquent and charismatic; listening to them can be great fun. Which is precisely the problem — because in the end, passively listening to someone talk is a really inefficient way to learn. We learn by doing, exploring, discovering...

"Attunement and responsiveness are hot topics, and the subject of a fair bit of research, in psychotherapy. The former refers to a therapist’s ability to pick up on the nuances of interactions with clients...The latter concept, responsiveness, refers to doing the right thing at the right time, adjusting interventions on the fly to fit the unique and evolving circumstances of the client and therape...

Don't get into a power battle, but if you do get into a power battle get back out of it. What I realized is there's not a rule that says once you're in one you have to stay in it. A lot of people feel like once they start down that path they have to stick it out to the bitter end... and it turns out that's just not true. Contact me here: Jocrharris@gmail.com Watch on YouTube here:  https://youtu.b...

    "The most important thing of any storytelling is you can't be the hero of your own stories. Nobody wants me to stand on stage for 30 minutes and talk about what a great person I am. So if anything heroic happens in my stories, generally I'm telling about someone else doing it or I'm watching someone else do the heroic act." Contact me here: Jocrharris@gmail.com  View on YouTube Find Bil online...

About a month ago a friend and fellow therapist asked me to give a presentation to his chapter of GAMFT. At first I didn't know what to present on, then it dawned on me. Since day 1 I've been trying to follow in the footsteps of Milton Erickson. While my journey has been roundabout to say the least, what it's left me with is one question "how do you become a better therapist?" As I collected my th...

  "For me humility is super important. Humility, I think a lot of people think, means humbling yourself and bringing yourself down, But it's also about bringing yourself up. it's about right sizing where you fit."  View on YouTube Contact Jesse at: jas945@drexel.edu Learn about the ABFT here .  P.S. If you enjoyed this episode, check out my conversation with Debbie Pridemore . She's another attach...

  "It's a matter of utilizing, not analyzing, what the client is bringing to you, what exists in the total weave of the therapy situation, learning how to join into that moment rather than trying to instruct in some cognitive about how to get out of that situation."   View on YouTube Learn More about Jeff here. Learn about the Milton Erickson Foundation here .  P.S. If you enjoyed this episode, ch...

"[Attachment] it's a protection systems that's built into our bodies, so when that's in distress, like with a couple, and you don't know if that person has your back, you don't know if you're safe with that person, or that person becomes a threat, then we go into survival mode. Literally our body goes into a fight-flight freeze response because we don't know if we're safe, we don't have that other...

"We go through life underestimating the goodness of human beings and we overestimating the negative and then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy." Learn more about Alan here:  www.alanberkowitz.com Get his EXCELLENT book here:   http://www.lulu.com/shop/alan-berkowitz-phd/response-ability-a-complete-guide-to-bystander-intervention/paperback/product-4843519.html   P.S. If you enjoyed this check o...

Watch on  Youtube: , follow on  Medium:, Listen on  iTunes: "It can't be imposed on someone. It's for everyone who's interested in a better life."   Connirae Andreas is the last of the mavericks. There was a time in the world of psychotherapy when the field was advanced by people unafraid to ask bold questions and make even bolder moves. Much of modern day hypnosis and NLP was born during this tim...

Hello!  I'm pleased to announce the Informed Simplicity Project! This project is all about mastery in the field of psychotherapy. Part of this project will be same- I'll still be interviewing amazing guest in the field of psychotherapy. And part of this podcast will be very different. You'll have access to book reviews (such as Anne Herrington's Mind Fixers) and curated content from around the web...

"I hear so many political pundits and talking heads now and when they talk about reconciliation or why there's is disproportionate levels of income and crime rates and all of these things now and they'll point to things such as 'well it's because of single motherhood' or 'lack of fathers in african america or minority communities'... okay that's fine, but that didn't just happen overnight. There's...

If you really want to be a superior therapist then you got to keep getting trained. And you can, and it it will show up... I really care about not just being a good therapist, but an amazing therapist. Anabelle Bugatti first popped onto my radar through her interview with George Faller . They spent an hour dissecting the nuances of working through client anger in ways which validate and transform...