The Heart Is A Muscle Podcast

A chapter is closing for Josef and I. Oregon Jordin and Oregon Josef no longer exist (except, I mean, 4th-dimensionally in our inner world but that is a whole other conversation). Now it is time for California Jordin and California Josef to come together and see for themselves what magic is waiting for them and between them. In this podcast, we reflect upon our last chapter, and get real about the...

Gift giving can be a weird sticking point in relationships. You don't always know what to get your person, and it can also breed resentment if a gift is expected. Not to mention sometimes a gift lands and sometimes it really doesn't. This can get awkward for both the receiver and the giver. But boy, when a gift really lands...SUCH a great feeling! In this episode, Josef and I talk about our experi...

This is an episode for the masculine in all of us that is trying so hard to get his shit straight but the harder he tries the more wiggly it gets. I speak in jest but honestly...this is a really hard spot to be in, for the masculine especially. In this episode, Josef talks vulnerably about some of the stuff that he is going through and YA'LL -- you don't want to miss it!! Enjoy :)

Sexual revelations, ya'll! I (Jordin) am having a WHOLE experience with the masculine INSIDE of me (energetically speaking of course). And this is causing profound ripples of healing for the feminine inside of me. I'm experiencing new sexual experiences that are outside of my trauma and I just didn't think it was going to be possible. In this episode, I tell Josef all about it and get his take. En...

Sooooo...we're moving! To Orange County, CA. Josef got a job down there and hey, I can work from anywhere so we are going on an adventure :) HOWEVER, we'll be spending 7 weeks apart from one another - this episode is one week in, reflecting on what has changed -- we were both surprised how MUCH changed so quickly. Also, we are doing this transition a little unconventionally and asking ourselves th...

Having a "conscious relationship" does NOT mean both of you have become totally enlightened and transcended your humanity and have ascended to two spiritual beings in perfect communion with one another. Honestly, barf. In our humble opinion, the juiciest "conscious relationships" make room for ALL of you and ALL of your partner. They are messy. They are real. They are human. In this episode, we ta...

Relationships are hard when both of you are stressed out and in "go" mode (aka, being do-do heads). Josef and I have both been do-do heads for some months now and it has definitely changed things in our relationship. In this episode, we talk about how to navigate a relationship between two do-do heads in a way that still fosters connection and that sweet, sweet lovin' we all want. Enjoy! :)

Recently our minds have been blown by the realization that tantrums can actually be SUPER productive in relationships. AND, not only that, they can actually give your relationships some juiciness that you can't get when you are, for instance, using non-violent communication. In this episode, Josef and I share what we've learned about having a productive tantrum in your relationship! Enjoy :)

I (Jordin) am going on an important journey. A journey back to my pussy. My radiance. My authentic feminine expression. This has come with a lot of fun times but also...there is so so much trauma to work through around this which has been challenging and emotional to navigate. But Josef has been with me every step of the way, reading all the books with me, listening to all the polarity lectures, a...

Josef and I are both making some big moves in our lives which is great and all but also...stress. This is the first time in our relationship that both of us are really going for it at the same time and it has definitely required us to pay close attention to how stress is affecting our relationship. This episode is all about how we are navigating higher levels of stress in our relationship. Enjoy!...

"Trauma Horizon" is a term Josef came up with and together we are coining as a term to describe the trauma you are actively working through. But it's also so much more. And it plays out in relationships in so many ways. (Hint: Knowing not just your own but also your partner's trauma horizon is suuuuuuper helpful in staying connected through it.) Join Josef and I as we explore this cutting edge top...

"Change is inevitable" is a cliche but it is also super fucking true. And change = uncertainty And if there is one thing our parts hate the most, it is uncertainty. Because I mean fuck, it's UNCERTAIN . If one or both of us changes or our circumstances change -- for better or worse -- what's going to happen? Who will we become? Will we continue to evolve together or grow apart? Navigating change i...

Jordin's got a lot of parts. Josef also has a lot of parts. This means there are sooooooo many different relationships within our relationship with one another. Different parts of us might like parts in the other or they might be terrified of them. And everything in between! In this episode, we talk about how these mini relationships within our relationship play out. Enjoy! - Josef + Jordin

Money and relationships, ya'll. Let's get into it.

What it looks like to climb the polyvagal ladder in healing relational trauma. First comes the grief... Then comes the RAAAAAAAGE. Jordin details a recent (massive) breakthrough she had with her parts and their relational trauma that has allowed her to admit something she's never been able to admit before. All this and more in this week's episode! Enjoy :) - Jordin + Josef

What happens when one partner is ready to be more vulnerable than the other? What happens when one partner wants to get closer in intimacy and the other partner thinks your level of intimacy is just fine? What if one partner wants to get some outside help and the other doesn't? This is a super common scenario in relationships + you don't have to be afraid of it! In this episode, we give our take o...

Can we just not with the "dog house" and the "I'm in trouble" dynamic in relationships? It's such a common dynamic that we see all over sitcoms and the media. But it's a really unhelpful dynamic in relationships, especially relationships wanting to thrive. In this episode we talk about why the entire dynamic of "being in trouble" with your partner is so toxic & what to do instead :) Enjoy! - J...

Basically, Jordin micro-dosed and derped around in the woods for a while and learned a few things. She shares what she learned in this episode. We also talk about our relationship to psychedelics as well as the role they have played in our relationship. Fun stuff! Enjoy! - Jordin + Josef

It is super common to feel like you are "too much" for your partner. Especially when, historically, expressing your needs and emotions has led to criticism or withdrawal. I've heard so many people ask, "Is it okay to expect this need to be met in my relationship or am I asking too much of them?" This episode unpacks all that and more. Enjoy :) - Jordin + Josef

We all have masculine and feminine parts inside of us. (This isn't about gender, it's about energetic polarity.) There is something the masculine needs from the feminine to feel like he is thriving. And there is something the feminine needs from the masculine to feel like she's thriving. So we created two episodes that cover each topic :) This one is for the feminine! By the way - this can apply t...

We all have masculine and feminine parts inside of us. (This isn't about gender, it's about energetic polarity.) There is something the masculine needs from the feminine to feel like he is thriving. And there is something the feminine needs from the masculine to feel like she's thriving. So we created two episodes that cover each topic :) This one is for the masculine! By the way - this can apply...

We all have masculine and feminine parts inside of us. This episode dives in on the masculine/feminine polarity, how it relates to surviving/thriving, and how to navigate our internal polarities as well as the polarity of a relationship. And of course, all wrapped up in a real-life vulnerable conversation in a real-life relationship. So much good stuff inside this episode! Enjoy :) - Jordin + Jose...

We may or may not have been high while coming up with these 8 steps. Enjoy :) - Jordin + Josef

What happens when one partner is interested in healing and growing and the other partner doesn't feel that is a priority? When one partner wants to get coaching or therapy on their relationship and the other is actually against that idea? When one partner doesn't want the other partner talking about their relationship with their coach or therapist? This is a super common occurrence in relationship...

Our patriarchal society keeps women in a tunnel vision of physical appearance that blocks us from seeing our inherent power clearly. Here's how Jordin is breaking out of that and how Josef is showing up as the healthy masculine (hubba hubba). Also some notes on jealousy & the importance of hanging in the tension. Enjoy friends :) Jordin + Josef