The Healing Hotgirl Podcast

Detachment is a huge part of my journey now more than ever. My thing is once you're in my life, I want you here all the time. These three shifts have helped me to entertain the idea that some people truly are here for a season, and even learning to be okay that the outcome of a project didn't sway my way. Detachment is easier said than done, but I do hope that this helps you to gain some p...

Let's discuss the monster called 'Settling'... He shows up in many of our lives when it seems like we need faith the most. Today, I shared two common reasons behind when I noticed that I was settling.  If this sounds like you, I hope this episode brings you peace of mind that you're not alone. I hope that this episode teaches you a new perspective or way to look at settling. - - -...

Growth can be a stickys situation. It can feel like you're doing everything right, but you don't see anything blooming... TRUST that it's there! That seems like a hard thing to do while you're in it, but I know...like YOU know that you got this Maybe you're doing it right. Maybe you're handling it well. Maybe all you needed was to persist and keep going... - - - -  Announce...

It takes 21 days to form a new habit... What happens if you don't make it to the 21st day mark? What if you don't make it past the first week? Today we discuss possible reasons why you might be losing momentum. These have shown up in my life previously, and I truly wanna know if there's anyone out there like me. I've learned to stop tormenting myself when I have to try again, and l...

Who said you had to have it all together mama? Because YOU DON'T . Today, we debunked the idea of perfectionism. She shows up in many of our lives whether we see it or not. Maybe you haven't acted on your passion because you feel you need the right equipment. Maybe you haven't taken the leap and shifted careers because you don't know who all over there first 👀 All in all, Perfecti...

The downloads have been downloading... Today was more of a brain dump bonus episode of things I think you should hear. I shared four gems ( and of course some more in between ), from being more intentional and honoring my season, to learning self control and focusing on my own journey. You may want to grab your notebook for this one, and create some affirmations surrounding these topics if you rel...

Do you still beat yourself up about all of the things you said you'd have accomplished by now? Do you not allow yourself to wear something because of your body? Do you feel less than because you don't have a certain amount of money? If so, you're allowing numbers to control you, and that's okay because I have too. There's one huge step ( it has 2 parts ) that I want you to do i...

Sis, my whole platform is built on transparency, but I felt so ashamed to tell y'all I felt this way. I've been in a funk for the last few weeks and I couldn't shake it because I wasn't willing to face this. To hear my name and the word 'fail' in the same sentence is triggering AF. I thought admitting this feeling meant that all the work I'd done was lost or erased, BUT...

Sis, I got caught up! 😳 I got caught in romanticism, where I thought healing was so light and easy, UNTIL I started doing the real work. I'm learning so much in such a short time span, but one of the key lessons has been GRACE. This is our FIRST time healing. This our FIRST time understanding and working to stay in alignment. If it was meant to be perfect, there would be no room for improveme...

Sis, you still out here telling people you forgive them, but holding what they've done against them? 👀 Not in this next season. Today, we're putting ourselves on the hot seat. I want you to ask yourself : What're some things that we can let go of now ? What are some things we can stop replaying in our minds, forcing us to experience that same pain? Have  I  truly  forgive n ____ for _...

Have you ever jumped through hoops to get people to like you? Over-extended yourself to please the wrong people? Or constantly saught outside validation instead of self validation? Well, You're probably a people pleaser. But it's okay because now that you know, we can make some changes. Check out these five harsh truths I've learned during my shift from seeking validation to self valid...

Sis, I DARE YOU to say YES! We always hear that we should start saying 'No', but when do we say 'Yes' again? 'YES' to life! 'YES' to love! 'YES' to new and aligned opportunities! I was in a space where I was saying 'No' to what no longer served me, but I was also saying 'No' to things that would. Now the whole reason that we say NO to what do...

You could hide your light if you want to, but ME? I'm finna turn up!' I often speak about feeling like I had to dim my light for love, for acceptance, or attention. Since being in my DND Era, I'm noticing every little detail about me! The more I shined my light and stepped into my power, the more some people were bothered by it. Being a people pleaser in recovery, I was bothered that t...

This DND Era came to COLLECT hunny! I can honestly say it got me all the way together, and FAST! I've unpacked so much in this first month that I'm so eager to see where else we bloom to. I learned that I was harboring so much (STILL), that some relationships were rooted in pain and trauma, and I also learned to accept myself FOR MYSELF, exactly where I am. There's so much more, but th...

Last week we discussed the changes and routines we've implemented, and this week we're focusing on making it stick! 📌 Let's be real, Discipline used to be a curse word to me. ( similar to the word change ) As I'm diving deeper into discipline, I'm learning more about my repetitious cycles of craving new experiences, but feeling unworthy, and the excuses that pile on after usin...

I've been hesitant on developing a routine because I saw it as a limitation, but now I'm in a space where routines help me thrive! Being in my DND Era (Do Not Disturb), has allowed me to show up for myself in more ways than one. I'm able to block out distractions more easily, to focus on watering my own plants, and to continue adding mini-routines to improve my mental health over the l...

'Don't Be So Secure In Your Insecurity That You Miss Out On What God Has For You...' WHEW! We all have dreams and plans, but when it's time to take action - we're so easy to give up because insecurities barged in the room. I love content creation, but I focused so much on how others viewed me that it crippled me. I allowed it to stop me from doing what I love. I'm in a spac...

Have you ever counted yourself out, or watered yourself down because you felt there was someone else more qualified in the room? ME TOO, SIS. It happens!  Let me reassure you that if the opportunity was given to you, it's meant. Seize your moment. Bask in what you prayed for, and soak up everything there is to know about whatever you're diving in to. I can tell you this all day, but it&#39...

Sis, didn't you get the memo? We are no longer shrinking ourselves to fit these aesthetics we see.  We're embracing our lives and our journeys to the fullest extent. We're finding the beauty in our journey, in our highs and lows, and we're showing the world the beauty of life from our eyes.  Should we dive deeper with this topic? Let us know on instagram ( The Official Healing HotG...

"Focusing on yourself is easier said than done when you haven't been the focus for so long...." Girl! AMEN!  We're always focusing on ourselves until someone needs us. We're always focused on our own internal growth until we see someone else in the same field, in the spotlight.  Now you feel as if you're running out of time, OR that you'll never get there BUT we both...

In our first episode we discussed letting go of what no longer served us, and embracing the new beginnings ahead of us. Who would have known that this new beginning had some guilt attached to it.  Have you ever felt guilty for starting fresh after an old relationship? Or for making a new friend at college when you have old ones back at home?  I recently started experiencing that gut-wren...

Sis, if you’re human .. it’s likely you’ve had the thought that you weren’t doing enough.  A lot of times this thought can arise when we're under so much pressure. One day our goals feel so attainable, while other days may feel like they may be passing you by.  Whether it’s chasing perfectionism, feeling like I need to know all of the answers, or watering down your authentic self - it al...

'If you're healing, there's absolutely no room for happiness...' Who said that?? IDK, but I can tell you who thought it, ME! Let's debunk a reoccurring thought I had that held me hostage for so long. I went into isolation to learn that I can make space for happiness, and that happiness was actually all around me - I was just looking in the wrong spaces.  Once I started to look at myself, at m...

This is the season of improvement and intention. I have so many of the same goals, and I have for a while now - because I never acted on them. I wanted a career change, but never made time for it. Closing out 2022, I decided to grab the reigns and take action. I held myself accountable for standing in my own way, clarified the vision, then built habits that help support me in those areas. (In this...

This past week I found myself saying 'I just wanna be happy...' way more than usual.  I didn't believe healing and happiness could co-exist. I felt I had to choose one in order to be successful, but too much of either - is overwhelming. Whether I self improved myself into exhaustion, or built new roadblocks to protect myself from past pain - I didn't see any room for joy. Until I did.  I...