The Happiest Lives Podcast

One thing is for sure: life can be uncertain.  This can lead to anxiety, overwhelm, and worry, even for believers. Holly Snell, the author of Dancing On My Ashes, joins us on today's podcast, reminding us of the one thing we can count on when life throws a curve ball.  If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com . That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay con...

It’s time to wake up and start living.  You can break strongholds, have better relationships, achieve greater clarity, improve decision-making, feel better, and face what has been holding you back. The Happiest Lives Academy will unlock the extraordinary tools and coaching you need. If you have been wondering what it is like to be inside The Happiest Lives Academy, I give you all the details of th...

Today, we finish the series 5 Worthy Transformations as we talk about Breaking Strongholds. If you have begged, pleaded, and prayed for deliverance from a stronghold in your life, this is for you. Discover a path to shattering the limiting strongholds of ingrained thoughts, behaviors, and emotional patterns in your life.  If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com . That’s...

Ever wondered how to enhance your emotional intelligence to improve your relationships and conversations? That's exactly what we're diving into today. We start by investigating the 'Talk Table,' a tool that helps us create room for more authentic emotional connections. We also uncover the significance of being comfortable with our emotions, leading to a more profound understand...

This is part 3 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations.   Are you tired of the constant self-doubt and confusion that arises from indecisiveness? In today's episode, I help you squash your insecurities through understanding powerful decision-making.  Imagine making a decision and having your own back.- no more second-guessing.  When you embrace the freedom to make choices, knowing that there i...

This is part 2 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations .  Imagine a life where you could feel anything and use it as fuel to grow personally and spiritually. We delve into this intriguing concept, exploring how our beliefs and attitudes toward emotions can shape our experiences. We discuss the mechanism of  'buffering' - the behaviors we often use to sidestep discomfort- and the potential...

This month begins the series Five Worthy Transformations .  Have you ever wished you could declutter not just your physical spaces,  but also your emotional and mental space? Here's your chance.   In this episode, I  guide you on how to tidy up your life from within. We use the simple act of cleaning out a closet as a metaphor for organizing your mind, emotions, and will. We'll help you...

Join me for the last week in The Heart Scan Series as we learn how to  PRESS ON despite unwanted emotions.  You can come up with a beautiful plan for change, but when it comes time to implement it, you may not always feel like doing the things.  Even if you have identified the new thoughts and feelings to fuel the actions, if you don't take action, your beliefs are useless.  Together, we vent...

Today we discuss  step 3 of The Heart Scan Process: ENGAGE.  Are your emotions ruling your life or shaping your relationship with God?  Take a step back as we explore  the profound connection between our feelings and our faith.  We unravel how our emotions act as an invitation to foster a deeper understanding of ourselves and fortify our bond with our Creator.  I introduce the Four P’s for navigat...

Ever wished you could hit the pause button on life's overwhelming problems and breathe? Welcome to the place where that dream becomes a reality. We're continuing our Heart Scan Series with step two of the process: RENEW. Together, we'll explore how to quiet the storm of fear and confusion and channel our problems into something far bigger than us. Let's uncover the biblical tru...

Today, we begin The Heart Scan Series, where I introduce you to The Heart Scan Process, my ultimate tool for creating a better life and relationships.  I spotlight the first step of Heart Scanning, EXPOSE, where we bring what is hidden into the light.  I show you how to constrain, focus,  organize, and look at a problem so you are no longer spinning in feelings such as overwhelm, despair, confusio...

This is our last episode in The Relationship Foundation Series .  Ever struggled with the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing? Felt the burnout and resentment from constantly sacrificing your own needs for others? It's time to unveil the truth behind this draining behavior and discover healthier, more fulfilling alternatives. In this revealing episode, we dissect the complex world of people-p...

Welcome to part 3 of The Relationship Foundations Series.   Are you certain about your loveability? What if we told you it's not about becoming more loveable but about realizing that your loveability is already absolute and unchanging? Join us today on Happiest Lives podcast as we take a deep dive into the profound connection between our capacity to love and our relationship with God. We&apos...

In this episode, we continue the series Relationship Foundations as we dive into the subject of  Boundaries.  Because relationship boundaries start in your mind, having a clear picture of where you end and another begins is crucial as you decide how you want to respond in your relationships. Sometimes we may need to declare a boundary and enforce a consequence for violations; however many times we...

Join me for part two of the series, Relationship Foundations , where we look at the core concepts that will change the way you approach the people you love.  This week we talk about Desires and Wants.  What do you truly want in your relationship? What if your partner doesn't want the same thing?  How should you feel about your wants and desires when they seem to cause you pain?   Dealing with...

Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and fuel your relationships? This episode promises to take your understanding of relationships - with yourself, others, and God - to a whole new level.  Imagine an engine where each part is connected, all contributing to the overall function. The same goes for our relationships; our thoughts, feelings, and actions are all required to keep the engine smoo...

What if the key to success lies in our failures? Buckle up for a riveting conversation where we dissect failure and how it shapes our identity. This episode is the last in our series on Being & Doing, and it's a game-changer!  When we stop perceiving failure as a setback, we experience it as a stepping stone to resilience, confidence, and determination. After listening to today's pod...

Your aspirations reflect your core values and dreams, while goals are the building blocks to realizing your aspirations. Join Jill Lillard, MA LPC as she explores these concepts in a spiritual context, discussing the role of faith in shaping our lives with intentional and disciplined goal setting. This episode is part of the series on  Being & Doing, and unveils the importance of daily practic...

What if you could unlock the secret to living a  life fueled by emotions on purpose? As we explore the relationship between Being & Doing, we delve into why we want what we want and what it is that we think will make us happy.  You will learn how to feel on purpose, owning your emotional experiences.  In this episode Jill shares valuable techniques for identifying the desired feelings and sens...

This episode is part of the four-part series on Being & Doing .  You will learn why we do certain things and why we may not do what we want to do.  I introduce The Heart Scan Process as a way of gaining a deeper understanding of your life and creating change. You will discover: Relatable examples of clients who are unhappy with their actions not aligning with their values and not achieving des...

The Hallmark of happy couples is NOT that they never have disagreements or regrettable incidences. What sets the "masters of marriage" apart from the "disasters of marriage," as Gottman likes to classify them, is Repair Attempts. If you can have a fight but come back together and effectively move forward, learning from your last conversation that didn’t go well, then you are on...

Do you have issues in your marriage where you don't see eye to eye? When the topic comes up, do you lock horns and get stuck in hurt? Nothing is wrong that you have a "problem." However, if you become gridlock over it,  you may decide, "It's better to deal with this on my own,"  a thought that ignites the cascade of distance, loneliness, and isolation.  Though the fig...

Here I explore four habitual ways of engaging that shut down communication and can destroy your relationship. If you want better conversations, I will show you what to do instead. This is part of the Better Conversations Series. If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com . That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.t...

The Talk Table is a conversation tool that will allow you to stay calm, listen better, and effectively share.  Learn four tips for using this tool so you can create better conversations.   This is part of The Better Conversations Series.  If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com . That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with m...

This episode is part of The Better Conversations series. We have the amazing opportunity and capacity to exchange thoughts and feelings with others.  However, sometimes conversations don't go as planned,  and we decide that conversations can be hard. In this episode, I tell you the ONE reason your conversations are hard and give you three tips for creating Better Conversations. If you want to...