The Grammar of Us

In this episode, we delve into the complex interplay of parenting styles and their profound impact on a child's emotional development, particularly in relation to narcissistic traits. Drawing upon research, expert interviews, and relatable real-life anecdotes, I explore the critical factors contributing to the emergence of narcissism in children. My discussion highlights the distinction betwe...

Welcome to today’s episode of The Meg Hulme Show, where we explore the nuanced dynamics of relationships and the difficult decisions that often accompany them. At the heart of many interpersonal conflicts lies a fundamental question: when should we fight for a relationship, and when is it time to walk away? In this episode, we will delve into the crucial indicators that can help guide you in this...

In this series, I will delve into the myriad ways emotional maturity influences communication, conflict resolution, and overall relational dynamics.  Emotional maturity is a person's ability to manage their emotions and life stressors in a healthy and age appropriate manner. Emotional maturity plays an important role in relationships, as it helps us resolve conflicts and enter into satisfying...

In today’s episode, I am exploring advice given by my dad and various other people in regards to how successful couples have made it. Top of the list is respect followed closely by good communication skills and consideration.  As they say, the highest form of love is consideration….. considering how a decision is going to impact your partner. Working collaboratively as a team, and making decisions...

In today's episode we're diving into a range of topics.   Taking back your power starts with naming what’s happened to you.   Well talk about patterns of behaviour which are deeply ingrained in our culture, family ecosystems and societal ecosystems and which we've normalized which are NOT normal - they're abusive!   Once you’ve communicated something several times and it’s been...

A few reminders to take into 2025 with you.  Whether it's an intimate relationship or a relationship with friends, make sure you're being valued, respected and appreciated.   Don't settle for being an option when you should be a priority.  Leave toxic relationships or friendships.  Set boundaries.  Let go of people who are out to sabotage your happiness.  Be discerning about the com...

In today's episode we offer some essentials which can make a gray divorce easier on adult children. Remember: Divorce is okay. Breaking up is okay. Starting over is okay. Moving on is okay. Saying no is okay. Being alone is okay. What is not okay is staying somewhere you are not happy, valued, or appreciated. That’s not okay. Gray divorce for those not in the know is getting divorced in later...

In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of motivation through a curated collection of inspiring quotes designed to uplift and encourage listeners in their pursuit of personal growth and resilience. Drawing from the wisdom of some bad ass women who are inspiring and motivating people across the world to focus on healthy love and relationships, each quote serves as a beacon of hope,...

I think that too often the person who initiated a divorce or separation, is seen to be the villain. But I don’t think that should be the case. It takes courage to get to the point to walk away from a relationship that you have invested in. It takes two people to fall in love in the same way that it takes two people to fall out of love.  Relationships change and evolve, and it’s in the everyday mom...

If you have to ask for it, it  loses its value.  Whether that’s loyalty, love or support.  I read somewhere that the secret to any great love is the acceptance that it is ever-changing and ever-evolving.   You move together then apart and then together again.   There are lows which are so low you can’t recall how it started and then there are highs where life is everything you ever wished for.   T...

Navigating the holiday season Modern Family style.   Divorce is hard especially knowing how to navigate the holiday season as you introduce a new partner to the family structure.   In this episode I offer some top tips on how to navigate this very tricky situation at this very emotionally loaded time of year!   Support the show Thanks to our sponsor Pleasure & Intimacy: https://pleasureintimac...

The new good looking is:  integrity;  emotional availability;  self awareness;  generosity;  kindness;  accountability;  vulnerability open-heartedness. Support the show Thanks to our sponsor Pleasure & Intimacy: https://pleasureintimacy.com/  Shop intimate pleasure toys and lubrications for solo or partnered pleasure.  Pleasure & Intimacy are stockists of the world's premium pleasure...

In this episode I speak about fixing a relationship that's broken, whose responsibility that is and knowing your worth.   It takes courage to be vulnerable.  To drop the mask of bravado and let go of the ego and sit with someone and say 'I messed up, I want to fix this with you'.   When someone ends a relationship with you, don't chase - walk away not to control or manipulate b...

Impermanence.  The only constant is change. Welcome to my rebranded podcast! I'm Meg Hulme, your host, and I’m thrilled to take you on a journey where we explore the profound intricacies of love, connection, relationships, and life itself. As a couples therapist and relationship coach, I am passionate about fostering genuine conversations that cut through the noise of everyday life.  In each...

Female narcissism is more common than we realize and no, it does not have much to do with someone's Instagram profile but more to do with their lack of empathy, compassion and manipulation tactics to get what they want at any cost.  In this episode we’ll explore the red flags that often go unnoticed in female narcissists: their self-centered nature, heightened need for admiration, lack of emp...

Narcissism entitlement, and toxicity are all intertwined.   One of the key building blocks of the definition of narcissism is entitlement.  Entitlement can be defined as the belief that one is deserving of or entitled to certain privileges.  Merriam Webster, 2018 What is interpersonal toxicity?  A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. A re...

Emotional abuse is a quiet kind of violence. No bruises, no fists, just words and silence that make you doubt everything—your worth, your sanity. It creeps in slowly, until you're questioning yourself, blaming yourself. The outside world sees nothing, but inside, you're unraveling. The worst part is, you don’t even realize how broken you’ve become until it’s too late. That’s the damage—i...

In the past year and a half I have taken a deep dive into learning about emotional bullying.  It is a terrible experience to go through. Whilst you don't see the scars, the scars are there and it can take years to overcome an emotionally abusive experience.   Don't let anyone make an excuse for someone else's bad character and the way they treat you as a scapegoat for their insecuri...

In today's episode we discuss 7 patterns in couples who made it. Boundaries with family and friends.   They were friends!  They had been through really dark times.  They let each other be themselves.   They had difficult conversations.  Communication is lubrication!   They fought.  Yep!  Even the healthiest of couples argue! How do you argue, repair and recover? They made light of each others...

Narcissism is the buzzword of our time. In today's episode we dive in to discuss what narcissism is and what type of people tend to have these personality traits and how they function in relationships.   Support the show Thanks to our sponsor Pleasure & Intimacy: https://pleasureintimacy.com/  Shop intimate pleasure toys and lubrications for solo or partnered pleasure.  Pleasure & Int...

How you’ll know you’re in a healthy relationship  ❣️Emotional maturity. Both of you can be vulnerable.  Deep emotional intimacy.  ❣️They don’t avoid conflict.  They navigate conflict in a healthy and constructive manner and are able to repair skillfully.   ❣️They support you through all of life’s ups and downs & are able to have open and honest conversations. Look out for the green flags and r...

The goal is to meet someone to build a relationship with that's both fulfilling and sustainable.  Dating in 2024 takes courage. It can all be so confusing, frustrating, and at times quite  exhausting. Don’t even get me started on the dating advice constantly dished out by meddling family and friends and complete strangers. You don’t need that shit in your life to add to the confusion and chao...

In today's episode we dive into Attachment Style Theory.  What are attachment styles?  Attachment styles or types reflect how you behave in a romantic relationship and are based on the emotional connection you formed as an infant with your primary caregiver—often your mother.  Secure attachment Anxious attachment Avoidant attachment Disorganized attachment Remember, this is not a diagnosis an...

Conflict in any relationship is inevitable.  What is the difference between conflict avoiding couples and conflict engaging couples?  Communication.  Black and white thinking.  Flooding.  Turning conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection and intimacy.  Support the show Thanks to our sponsor Pleasure & Intimacy: https://pleasureintimacy.com/  Shop intimate pleasure toys and lubrication...

Check out our Friday quickie episode.  You are amazing and you deserve to be treated with love, respect and kindness.  Check out our latest episode + we offer some tips on how to manage and navigate a relationship which you're unable to leave be it with an intimate partner, parent, child or friend on how to navigate that difficult relationship. Thanks for joining us and supporting us on this...