The Everyday Feminist

Caring for the home is an equal opportunity job—anyone can do it! Check out this episode to learn some mental, emotional, psychological, and practical tips and tricks for getting your home organized, so you can feel good living in it!

Lois and Stephanie revamped the list of abusive “seduction” techniques described in their last episode to include healthy, enjoyable (and even exciting!) legitimate methods of healthy seduction and relatedness. Check it out and spread the love!

Robert Greene's disturbing book, "The Art of Seduction," has likely contributed to the unhealthy relational dynamics between men and women.  In today's special Valentine's episode, Lois and Stephanie deconstruct this dangerous "art", offering insight into the ways in which it misuses psychological phenomena to do more harm than good, especially to women.  If you have been strategically manipulated...

Any relationship expert will tell you that good communication is the key to a healthy relationship. But what, exactly, is good communication? In this episode, Stephanie and Lois discuss the technical side of talking and texting, and explore how to create satisfying reciprocal conversations at home and beyond.

What excuses keep you from making your new year’s resolutions happen? Do you get caught up in a cycle of “trying” that, ironically, keeps you stuck? If so, listen in as Lois and Stephanie explore ways that you can turn your trying in doing in 2023!

Creating *holiday magic* takes planning, effort, and persistence.  In this episode, hosts Lois and Stephanie sift through the mountain of added mental, emotional, and physical work that women do around the holidays...and offer some suggestions for how to shift the holiday experience from full-of-woe to full-of-wonder.  

Curating a holiday experience for others to enjoy often represents the effortful work of women. In preparation for Thanksgiving, Lois and Stephanie explore the concept of domestic and relational effort: what it means, who provides it, why it gets avoided, and how it can be reframed to better serve us all.

Do you sometimes feel cursed by your own competence ?  Can you get things done when no one else seems able to, leaving you doing all the work?  If so, then this episode is for you.  Lois and Stephanie deconstruct strategic maneuvers of incompetence that people use to keep competent, conscientious women overworked, tired, frustrated, and feeling invisible. They also explore some ways...

"We have begun to raise our daughters to be more like sons.  But few have the courage to raise our sons to be more like daughters."  -Gloria Steinam Under a patriarchal system, as boys develop, they are encouraged away from warmth, relating, and emotional awareness/expression, and equality, and are instead encouraged toward power, dominance, anger, and hierarchy.  In this episode, h...

In the US today, women are frequently instructed (often with good intentions) to take better care of themselves.  In this episode, hosts Lois and Stephanie break-down the concept of "self-care":  is it a helpful suggestion and sign of support, or is it an impossible capitalistic Western oxymoron?  Check it out and see what you think!

We all make mistakes in our relationships. However, in relationships between men and women, women are generally thought to be the caretakers and healers of relational problems. In this episode, hosts Stephanie and Lois discuss the unnecessary feminizing of forgiveness and explore ways that our daily actions at home can close the empathy gender gap.

"Hermeneutic Labor" is a new concept described by modern feminist philosopher, Ellie Anderson.  It describes the multilevel, multisensory, anticipatory relational maintenance work that women routinely and unconsciously do on behalf of men.  In this episode, Lois and Stephanie break down hermeneutic labor and discuss it's widely-accepted everyday counterpart, women's intuition.  

In the second episode of the "Equal Relationships" series, hosts Lois and Stephanie discuss the many levels of of UNDERSTANDING that women want and need in their relationships...and they review the many simple ways that you can give it to them.  Why?  Because The Everyday Feminist craves understanding and the empathy, love, concern, care, and, ultimately, respect that it demonstrates. ❤️

In light of the US Supreme Court's recent eradication of women's reproductive rights, The Everyday Feminist has been wondering...what does it mean for a woman to be "independent" when her freedom is being restricted?  To answer this question, hosts Lois and Stephanie explore qualities associated with independence - and the cultural double-bind that surrounds independence for women.  They also come...

We all need to be supported in different ways and to different degrees.  In this episode, hosts Lois and Stephanie discuss relational & domestic support -- including how to give it, how to get it, and how it can benefit us all.  If you need more support in your life, if you want to learn more about how to be a support for someone else, or if you want some tips for building a supporti...

The Everyday Feminist cannot ignore the current threat to legal abortion in America, not even on Mother's Day.  In this special episode, hosts Lois Volta and Stephanie Heck speak with guest, abortion policy expert and author of " Labor Strike " and " Without Apology: The Abortion Struggle Now ," Jenny Brown. They discuss the history, future, and role of abortion in America, as well as the col...

Welcome to the inaugural episode of The Everyday Feminist !  Press "play" to meet your hosts, Domestic Consultant and Entrepreneur, Lois Volta, and Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Stephanie Heck...and to learn what the show is all about.  Who is The Everyday Feminist? What does she stand for? And how can we all learn from her? Listen in and let her give you permission to speak out!