The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen

This week I'm talking about the Entitlement Gap. It's the idea that men feel entitled to promotions, jobs, support and power and women do not. I read about it in The Female Lead's study, which is here. And I wrote about it in a Medium article, here.

Bryan McFarland is an entrepreneur and the founder of 3x5 Life. At 3x5 Life they make daily productivity cards to keep track of tasks and celebrate wins. The cards are analog, so you don't have to go into your phone to check what is on your schedule or To Do List. They're in sight, to remind you of your tasks. And they also contain morning gratitude and afternoon win prompts, to keep you focused o...

You can pre-order my next book, Advocate to Win-10 Tools to Ask for What You Want and Get It, here . Then send my team the receipt at heather@advocatetowin.com and you'll get the course with the ten tools for free!  Twenty years as a defense attorney will make you defensive. It's part of the job after all. But I've found the more defensive I am, the worse I do, in the courtroom and also in life. A...

Alain Hunkins is a keynoter, a facilitator, a coach and a leadership expert. He's also the author of Cracking the Leadership Code-3 Secrets to Building Strong Leaders. You can find his book and all things Alain here.  https://www.alainhunkins.com/ Alain's book choice is The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits/ His song choice is Firew...

My clients want to become better advocates for their teams, their ideas, their products or their bank accounts. They come to me to learn how to build credibility, use evidence, ask better questions, hone their body language/tone of voice and argue if necessary. And I give them the tools to become an extraordinary advocate. But we begin with their core values. Because when you know your core values...

Elizabeth is the co-founder of the Omega Institute and the author of many books including New York Times best seller Broken Open-How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow. She is one of Oprah's Super Soul 100. Her new book Cassandra Speaks-When Women Are the Story Tellers, the Human Story Changes is an eye opening look at the stories we've told.  You can find all things Elizabeth here: https://www.eliz...

What you see is what you get. That means if you change what you see, you'll change what you get. In this solo episode I explain how changing your perspective can change your life, and how asking this one question is the perfect start.

Suneel Gupta is the founder of RISE, on the faculty at Harvard and went from being the face of failure at the New York Times to the New Face of Innovation at the New York Stock Exchange His book Backable-How to Convince Anyone to Take a Chance on You is one of my favorite books of 2021 so far!  You can get it here. https://www.backable.com/ His book choice was The Legend of Bagger Vance and you ca...

Lara is a coach and the author of Author Your Life-How One Writer Changed Her Life Through the Power of Storytelling and How You Can Too: https://www.authoryourlifenow.com/ Her book choice was Loving What Is by Byron Katie: https://www.amazon.com/Loving-What-Four-Questions-Change/dp/1400045371 And her song choice was OK Go's This Too Shall Pass:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qybUFnY7Y8w&noredir...

Leslie Ehm is a former TV host, chief fire starter at Combustion Training and author of Swagger-Unleash Everything You Are and Become Everything You Want You can find Leslie's book here https://www.leslieehm.com/ You can find her book recommendation, The Self Employed Life, here: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-self-employed-life-jeffrey-shaw/1137309578 And her song selection here: https://op...

Most of my clients come to me to learn to advocate for themselves, their business, their careers, and their pocketbooks. But before they can advocate, they have to believe. Before they can advocate for their worth, they have to know it deep in their soul. This week I share ways that you can start to know your worth. And then the fun begins.  Here's a link to my calendar if you want a free mini ses...

Samhita Jayanti is the founder and CEO of Ideamix, a community of people who want to nurture their passions and ideas into purpose.  She is passionate about entrepreneurship, and in this conversation she defines what that means and how it applies to you no matter what you do.  https://www.theideamix.com/ Sam's conversation with her co-founder is here . Sam's books were: Everything I Never Told You...

Your Inner Jury listens and chooses. She doesn't judge. So many of my clients and listeners still think that your Inner Jury is there to criticize and judge you. So in today's episode, I dive deeper on the role of your Inner Jury. She listens. She chooses. And those choices make your life.  If you'd like to work with me, sign up for a free consult here.  https://calendly.com/elegantwarrior/15min

Emma Isaacs is the founder of Business Chicks, a global, thriving community that operates in two continents and eleven cities. A business owner by the age of 18, property investor by 19 and millionaire by 23, Emma is a true entrepreneur. In this episode we discuss focus, failure and being worthy. We also discussed being pragmatic and not dramatic--which was my greatest takeaway from her fabulous b...

In this episode, Heather explains how dangerous doubt can be and gives two ways you can have less doubt and more confidence, today.

Sara is a coach, certified wilderness guide and the author of Walk Through This: Harness the Healing Power of Nature and Travel the Road to Forgiveness.  Find her here:  https://www.saraschultingkranz.com/ Sara's book choice is The Body Keeps the Score https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 And her song choice is Belong https://genius.com/X-ambassadors-belong-lyrics

In this episode, I share why I hate "Imposter Syndrome" and why I think you should embrace "Aspiring" instead. I also share the ways that belief can overcome Imposter Syndrome. If you want access to the free webinar you'll find it here: https://heatherhansenpresents.com/

Dr Lois Frankel is the President of Corporate Coaching International, an executive coach and internationally recognized expert in leadership development for women. She's the author of the best selling Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office. Her recent audio book, Nice Girls Don't Speak Up or Stand Out, is a must read for any nice (or not so nice) girl. Here's the study about women being unethical...

In this solo episode, I share a practice that has changed my life. Just like lawyers cross examine opposing witnesses to attack their credibility, you can do the same to your negative thoughts. Beliefs are thoughts that you have evidence to support and that you repeat. When you cross examine your negative thoughts, they have a hard time becoming beliefs. And when you choose what to believe, you st...

Jill is a business owner, author and recovering academic. She's also one of the best communicators I know. You can find her and her book here. http://www.thedynamiccommunicator.com/ Her book choice is here: https://www.amazon.com/What-Would-Google-Do-Reverse-Engineering/dp/0061709697   And her song choice is here on the Elegant Warrior Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lhgP6mjF0...

In this solo episode, I dive into the differences between comparison and competition, and let you know which one is going to make you more healthy and happy.  I also let you know about my Cure for Imposter Syndrome webinar. If you want access to that, just email me:  heather@elegantwarrior.com

What are the deeply held core values that guide you when you are making the hardest decisions? Do you spend your time focusing on those values or floating from idea to idea with no real purpose or end goal in mind? My guest today is Brant Menswar, the author of Black Sheep: Unleash the Extraordinary, Awe-Inspiring, Undiscovered You.  He wrote this book to help people identify what matters most in...

Do you ever feel like a fake? That you don't have the experience or credibility you need to do the work you're doing and you're afraid someone is going to find out the truth? We often call that impostor syndrome and I am here today to tell you that it is doing nothing to serve you. The first time I defended in the courtroom I knew I had zero experience but I didn't let that stop me. I used other e...

Do you know how to ask for what you want? Negotiating is an art, and my guest today is going to teach us how to ask the right questions to get what we want most. Alexandra Carter is the author of Ask For More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything and I absolutely love the approach she takes to negotiating with yourself and with others. She shares the language you need to use when asking questions to...

Do you get caught up in what is going on in other people's lives? I know I do, and it rarely results in anything good. I want to talk to you today about O.P.B. — other people's business. Too often we allow other people's business to distract us from what matters most in our own lives. We waste time focusing on what someone else is wearing, doing, earning, or experiencing when we could be spending...