The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen

You need to hear this episode. Danielle and I are both "recovering trial attorneys", but we arrived at different times and ways. Have you ever felt like you were doing the wrong thing, but didn't know how to make a change? When your work/family/role is your identity, changing it can be a huge challenge. And no matter who you are or where you are in that process, this conversation will help. You'll...

In this episode of the podcast, Heather welcomes Urs Koenig, a former United Nations peacekeeper and NATO military peacekeeping commander, who is also the author of "Radical Humility: Be a Badass Leader and a Good Human." Urs discusses the importance of humility in leadership, proposing a shift from traditional heroic leadership to what he calls "now leadership," which is centered on radical humil...

In today's episode of How to Advocate, we're talking about complacency. Whether you're an individual leading yourself or a leader within an organization, complacency is a problem. When people are complacent they don't engage and they certainly don't invest. They don't collaborate and they don't grow.    But how do you overcome complacency? The answer is BELIEF. In this episode, Heather shares the...

This week Heather shares the 3 Es of an Advocate–Energy, Empathy, and Evidence. She shares how you can use these three Es to build belief. There are examples of how to use these 3 Es in corporate life and family life. Enjoy! Register here for the Feb 16th masterclass on How to Be the Strongest Energy In the Room.   Join the Belief Builder's Academy here.     Join The Self Advocacy School before Fe...

Advocating is overcoming doubts and building beliefs. Ultimately, it's the ability to ask for what you want and get it, over and over again. After 25 years of studying the art of advocacy, Heather Hansen has identified three simple steps to ask for what you want and get it.  1-Know what you want. 2-Ask for it, out loud and with delight. 3-Master the art of the ask.  In this episode, you'll learn t...

There are many tools you can use to advocate for anything you want, and today we're focusing on one of the most important tools-Evidence.    Whether you're a leader advocating for change, a salesperson advocating for your product/service, an individual advocating for more resources or a partner advocating for more support, you can use evidence to build beliefs and win.    You build belief through...

In this episode, Heather shares why we must all think of ourselves as advocates. She explains that leading, selling and serving are really advocating. Advocating is building belief, and when you learn to do it well-you win.  You'll hear about: Advocacy in various contexts. 0:02 Recognize the importance of advocacy in various contexts, including supporting TV shows, selling broccoli to children, an...

This is a new season of The Elegant Warrior, and it's called How to Advocate. No matter what you want this year–better health, more money, better relationships–you will have to advocate to get it. You'll need to advocate for more time, more resources, more money, better boundaries, and more help. In this episode, you'll learn the tools to begin.  But before we begin, it's important to remember tha...

In today's episode, you'll learn what it means to advocate, and why you must master the skill if you want to win.    Heather will share: -the formal definition of "advocate" -her definition and how it all relies upon building belief.  -the 3 steps to advocating for yourself and what you want.  -why you must believe in order to do steps 1 and 2.  -how evidence plays a role in advocating -the role t...

I had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Gladys McGarey today. Dr. Gladys McGarey is a 102-year-old doctor and author of The Well Lived Life: Six Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age. In this episode, she shares how to be truly alive, the importance of your true nature and how to spend your energy wisely. Dr. Gladys McGarey is no ordinary centenarian. A true trailblazer, she is recognized a...

In this episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, we're diving into the importance of standing up for yourself and unlocking your fullest potential. I've learned from my experience as a trial attorney that standing up for yourself goes beyond just avoiding being taken advantage of - it's about asking for what you want in a way that gets results. I share a story from my early career where I stood up...

Today's guest is Cait Donovan. Cait Donovan is a Keynote speaker, one of New York City's leading burnout experts, host of "Fried – The Burnout Podcast," author of the book "The Bouncebackability Factor", and an acupuncturist with a master's degree in Chinese medicine.  This was a great conversation about burnout, resentment, and boundaries. We discussed: Feeling not good enough. 2:00 The biggest c...

In this episode of "The Elegant Warrior," we have a special guest, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt, an accomplished physician, author, and advocate for women's empowerment. Sasha is the founder and CEO of Brave Enough, a platform dedicated to helping women set boundaries, say no, and take control of their time. In her book, "Brave Boundaries," she shares valuable insights and strategies for establishing bound...

In part 2 of my How to Believe series, I will explain the next step to believing in yourself and I'll share how I recently used this to go on a trip I'll never forget.    ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ How to make yourself believe first The power of evidence and storytelling (the Santa Claus experience) How we can both collect and create evidence to build belief Why we may need to take the leap and do the thin...

We've heard it many times, we have to believe in ourselves and our abilities. But no one really talks about how. In this episode, I want to teach you how to believe.   ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ The two steps to believing The real reason why you don't know what you want Four types of belief styles, and how to identify which one you have Why evidence is an important part in believing   Join the  Advocate wi...

Author and psychologist Michael Banissy offers insight on the new science of human touch, and the impact it has on our physical and mental health, relationships, and more.   ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ How the pandemic and going on lockdown was the inspiration for his book How a self-hug during a stressful scenario can be just as beneficial as a hug from somebody else What happens when we don't receive enou...

If you're feeling trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety every time you make a mistake, constantly seeking external validation and approval to avoid being wrong, then you are not alone! Many individuals struggling with the fear of being wrong find themselves stuck in this painful emotion, unable to fully embrace their true potential. Despite their efforts to avoid making mistakes, they may s...

For the holiday week, I'm re-releasing one of my MVP (Most Valuable Podcast) episodes. Author Oliver Burkeman explains how we can all gain a new relationship with time and stop pushing ourselves to fit it all in.   ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ Why our time is finite The reality behind procrastination Why we should focus on enjoying the things we have time for and not the things we don't   References Mentione...

Society often tells us (especially women) that we must be humble and not speak about our accomplishments, but how can that serve us in getting what we want? Author and speaker Lisa Bragg shares why waiting for someone to notice your work is just not enough in today's noisy world and how to brag the right way.     ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ How she fought against the conditioning to hide her successes in or...

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your personal and/or professional life? I'll explain the main obstacle getting in your way and how to overcome it.  ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ Why you first need to persuade yourself that you deserve the boundary you want to set  How you can confidently state your boundaries, and not ask for them How to change your own perspective around your boundaries   Listen t...

Robyn Moreno, former media maven turned modern curandera, shares her journey to healing, saving her soul, and tapping into her ser.    ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ How she realized she was experiencing susto (soul loss) The 5 cardinal directions in Curanderismo Different ways to build a relationship with your ancestors   Robyn's book recommendation, Woman Who Glows in the Dark by Elena Avila   ~ ABOUT ROBYN...

There are 3 reasons you're not getting what you want, and today Heather will tell you what they are. She'll also tell you what to do to overcome them.   ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ How you can be grateful and still want more What it means to "ask out loud" How to "master the ask"   Register for the live Masterclass "How to Ask for What You Want- And Get It" on June 14th at 4pm ET! (Replays available if you...

Former CEO, Alisha Fernandez Miranda, shares the life lessons she learned when she decided to quit her career and spend a year taking unpaid internships at the dream jobs of her childhood.    ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ How she was molded by the example of immigrant parents How she overcame the guilt of wanting something more How making a "selfish" decision made her a better wife and mom   Alisha's book rec...

Do you believe there is value in selfishness? In this episode, I will be making the case on why you should choose selfishness. ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ The stigma behind selfishness My personal experience of how not choosing myself negatively impacted my relationship 3 steps to work on your "selfishness muscle" Sign up for my email list and receive my 3 Tips to Ask Someone to Advocate for You  here !   S...

Maddy Ellberger, DBT therapist , explains the difference between CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and how you can use both in your daily life. ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ Collecting evidence vs creating it How mindfulness feeds into DBT And vs. But, Could vs. Should What three questions you should ask yourself multiple times a day Maddy's book recommendation: Maybe Y...