The Dynamics Of Everyday Life

We all know the days when we take a deep breath and metaphorically put on our armour.  It’s not fun.  But why are we doing this?  What’s happening when we feel like we need to defend ourselves against people, situations or the world in general?  In this episode I’m exploring why we might be reaching for our shields and what steps we can take to learn how to...

Pain is something that all of us will go through at some point in our lives, and for some of us it will be chronic.  However, this isn’t talked about very much and most people will rely on painkillers and what their healthcare provider tells them to do.  This might work – and it might not, and can leave us feeling bewildered and alone in what steps to take next.  In today’...

Don’t go to the DIY store for milk.  Seems simple doesn’t it?  If only it was as easy as it sounds.  In this episode I’m exploring why we will often look to get our needs met in places and people that aren’t right for us, and the corresponding upset that this can cause.  Fortunately we don’t have to be destined to stay on this roundabout forever.  ...

Why do we do things over and over again, even though we tell ourselves that we are going to do things differently?  Why is it so hard to make changes that we know we want to make?  In this episode I dive into another of Freud’s concepts; the compulsion to repeat.  By looking at the theory and applying it to what we are doing in our own lives we can start to get a bit...

Today I’m thinking about a moment that many of us will have experienced and would most likely rather forget – that of being the last one to be picked for a team in our PE classes.  It seems to be something that hasn’t been left behind, despite our best efforts.  I’m interested in what the reasons for this might be.  Why do we still worry about if we are going to be ch...

In this episode, we tackle the daunting topic of redundancy after 50, with my guest Tom Parkin, who shares his journey from a stable career to an unexpected redundancy at 51.  Tom's story is not just about the struggles, but also the resilience and value experience brings, offering hope and strategies for those in similar situations.  Join us as we uncover how an apparent setback can lea...

Are there people in your life that you struggle to get along with? Maybe you find yourself questioning who you are in the relationship.  There are many factors that can affect our friendships and in this episode I want us to look at one of the biggest ones, transference! I’ll help you understand why we project the things we don't like on other people and how we can manage this so that we get...

School plays an important role in helping us find people with similar interests. It also provides us with enough time to build great friendships. But when it's over and we enter the real world, it can be challenging to find and maintain friends. Today, we’re exploring ways to cultivate meaningful friendships as adults and how to identify potential obstacles. Here are the highlights from this episo...

Covid changed the world in many ways, including how we work. Remote working has become popular but as much as it has its benefits, it also has its downsides. We’re spending more time in a virtual world which can affect our bodies and mind.  Today's episode will help get us to reflect on remote working and find out if it’s really good for us! Here are the highlights from this episode: (04:03)...

Welcome to episode one of The Dynamics of Everyday Life, where we’re diving into the world of the unconscious. In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers of our identity, exploring the hidden drivers of our behaviours and reactions.  With a dash of humour and heaps of insights, we uncover the secrets Freud and Jung left behind, shedding light on how the unseen parts of our psyche shape ou...

Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life, where we delve into the art and science of maintaining relationships.  This episode shines a light on our very own defence mechanisms.  From the comfort of our everyday friendships, to the challenge of navigating stormy relational seas in metaphorical high heels and a bikini, we're exploring the common thread in all our relationships: oursel...

Welcome to The Dynamics of Everyday Life, where we're setting off on an incredible journey into the realm of psychodynamic theory with me, Julia Rogers.  I'm here to take the seemingly complex concepts of psychology and break them down into digestible, relatable bits that can apply to our daily lives.  Together, we'll uncover the mysteries of our inner selves, navigate the intricacies of...