The Divorce Devil Podcast

First of all, we didn’t make this podcast to make light of COVID.   We realize it is a very vicious virus that has maimed and killed millions of people.  This is our surfacy take on comparing COVID to divorce and divorce recovery.  It is by no means making fun of or disrespecting the brutality COVID has inflicted on our world today.  Topics of: Rachel has COVID Take care of yourself You can’t heal...

We were pressed for time today so we had to improvise.  The subject is kinda like a Disney movie.  Go back in time and listen to some podcasts about ourselves.  Interesting?  We were actually able to go back in time and talk about some of our favorite episodes so far.  Did we get to five each?  Probably not.  But if you know us by now, that’s our nature.  It’s a short one, so enjoy.  Have fun in V...

Welcome to the first podcast of 2023.  Spicy nice - the art of telling people ‘off’ and getting them to stay in their own lane in respect to their relationship with you.  Kelly is back on the mic with us again.  Becoming a regular, she lends her unique brand of thinking to the subject.  Discussions of: Just the tip The world today is too intolerant Spicy nice dial Everybody can’t take the 12 inche...

Now that Christmas is over - Rachel and I discuss what has, did and could possibly go right and/or wrong along with some sprinklings of new year’s resolutions.  This podcast was all over the place, but a blast as you will hear.  Dealings of: Old Black Santa Everyday is Christmas Judging people on their effort Let’s be more kind in 2023 There are stupid questions Hanging with Mr. Cooper at the Mini...

It is the Christmas season and the season and reasons for divorce recovery.  Christmas and divorce, what a duo.  Rachel and I discuss our successes and failures during the divorce recovery / Christmas season.  Discussions of: Control G.I. Joe New and old traditions Every day is Christmas I lost Thanksgiving and Christmas Blending traditions KISS for the holidays and birthdays The more simple the l...

Welcome to the mic Dawn Dais, her new book (coming out next month) deals with her personal struggles, wins, and failures throughout her divorce journey.  She has written a few other books dealing with the shit no one tells you.  (Her website is below)  We were excited to get Dawn on the podcast due to the fact we are all and have been on some of the same journeys. Our discussions of: The importanc...

This podcast was way deeper than most.  First, we had to agree on the definition of discernment and further along, how to fix it.  This one was a doozy.  For the first time, we both came with actual notes!  Rachel’s definition of grasping or comprehending something that is obscure was pretty deep.  Discussions of: Peeling back the onion-like layers (DD095 - DD098) The four steps of discernment Car...

This was an extremely hard podcast to stay on point.  The conversation went back and forth from getting married, being married, going through a divorce and post-divorce.  There are so many interconnections between all four.  So, we did the best we could to stay on point.  We think the central theme that turned up was communication.  Communication is the key for men and women to stay closer in what...

With Thanksgiving as of yesterday, Christmas is just around the corner.  Whether you are going through a divorce right now or are freshly out of your marriage currently - the holiday blues can come to the forefront.  We discuss ways to alleviate those blues and handle some of the holidays with intentionality and vigor.  No one says you have to be sad during the holidays - start creating your own m...

These are the feelings you have about your past and the things that have happened to you, which often have a negative effect on your behavior and/or attitudes.  They may include but are not limited to: I failed I hate my life I’m going to die alone Nobody cares about me I’m so ashamed It won’t get any better than this Fear, pain, sadness, anger  Guilt, depression, shame, insecurities, grief, mistr...

Well, I never thought I’d be at this moment recording the 100th episode.  When I started this in 2016, I never realized that there would be 100 episodes.  I pretty much thought it was a passing thing.  Then I met Rachel cold-turkey on Divorce Devil 036 - and a match was made in Divorce Recovery heaven.  Without her Tasmanian Devil-type tenacity podcasting every Thursday, we would have never reache...

First, sorry for the lackluster audio, but the message makes up for it.  Our remote software didn’t really work that well.  Well anyways - the top 6 attitudes that can definitely derail your divorce recovery!!!  With the six being ANGER, NOT LETTING IT GO, BEING TOO SELFISH, NARCISSISM, FEELING OF IMPENDING DOOM, FEELING OF FAILURE, and TOTALLY OVERTHINKING THINGS.  Topics of: No Shave November Ve...

This is the fourth and final series on peeling back the onion-like layers of divorce recovery.  We try our best and succeed in tying all four sections together in this podcast.  Hopefully, people can go on from here and realize they can start to give fewer f*cks and start to enjoy their new reality.  Coming to grips with it all and starting is the endgame here.  Topics of: Dealing with your trauma...

In part three of peeling back the onion-like layers of divorce recovery, we get down to the nitty-gritty.  This episode was retitled to ‘The Art of Giving No F*cks’,  from figuring out what comes next because you have to basically give no fucks in order to figure out what comes next.  Learning how to be selfish with your time, talents, and communication works really well here.  Weeding out the flu...

Part 1 - the shock of it all Part 2 - settling down and getting your footing Part 3 - figuring out what comes next Part 4 - coming to grips with it all and starting to heal Part 2, hmmm?  Now you realize that the sh!t is real and in your face… time to settle down and get busy getting yourself together.  It’s time to figure out what f^cks matter.  Stop recycling the things that didn’t work.  Take n...

Welcome to the first installment of four discussing the subject of the layers of divorce recovery.  We feel that the first step of course is shock.  Those of us who have gone through this - we know this is true.  Sometimes it slaps you in the face like a Mac truck.  We try our best to break down that first stage in order for others to recognize, accept it and go through it and start the healing pr...

Welcome back our old friend Peggy.  Not on the mic since Divorce Devil 039, it’s nice to have her back for a visit.  We all three chimed in on things we haven’t healed from.  Discussions of : I’m never going to have a 50th wedding anniversary Triggers Verbiage and tone can be triggers When do you tell your story and how much I like big sticks and I cannot lie Christian guilt Second generational di...

What can we say?  The Zombie Hoe Phase.  Pretty self-explanatory?  We debated on this subject to the fact that was it even a phase.  But, yes, it damn is!!  Not everyone goes through it.  But most people do go through the Zombie Phase.  The Hoe part is sometimes just extra.  Subjects of: You don’t know you are in it until you go through it You start to look like a zombie Divorce is a virus Digging...

With a lot of effort and misdirection in between, we finally get to the fourth and final stage of ‘I just signed the divorce papers, and I’m legally divorced!  Now what?’ This episode has a lot of our hearts and soul in it.  Topics of: To infinity and beyond We ain’t judging Changing into a different person Set boundaries Your dating picker sucked Heal in yourself and know who you are Squirrels or...

After watching How to Build a Sex Room (HTBASR) on Netflix a few weeks ago both of us decided that it would be awesome if Lisa Lane from episode 8 would be on the show.  It was just a far-reaching thought at the time.  Sitting at home weeks ago bored, I decided to look up her Instagram and send her a message - who we were, our podcast, and a sample of our show.  To my surprise, she responded withi...

The podcast starts off a little crazy (as usual) before we settle down and get after the subject at hand.  Enjoying the new and ‘working’ technology in the Divorce Devil Podcast Studio, we dropped some of our sometimes skewed, unique, and different knowledge about divorce recovery.  Stage three is the time period of 6 months to 1 year.  We feel that things should be getting clearer on your intenti...

Just a slight departure from our 4 part series, 'I signed the divorce papers, what's next?'   Welcome, Tracy Ann Moore-Grant from the Amicable Divorce Network.  Frustrated by mean and nasty divorces, Tracy started the network to help both attorneys and clients.  Attorneys are vetted and accepted into the network to practice amicable divorcing.  Clients can be referred to attorneys or professionals...

This is the second podcast in the series dealing with effects, consequences and happenings in the second stage of four dealing with divorce-recovery after signing the papers.  Even though we feel it is not as intense a stage at stage one, it is nonetheless a very important one to focus on.  With better thinking, more logical decision making, and being more intentional in stage two - it can be the...

Welcome to the first of four installments of divorce recovery stage healing.  We discuss our first stage, appropriately named Stage One - it consists of the exact moment you sign your divorce decree papers and a few days later.  It is the most intense of the four stages.  Once again, Rachel made the podcast very interesting and fun by actually doing some homework.  Mentions of Divorce Squid Games,...

Welcome A.J. Grossman, J.D. to the mic.  A.J. runs an online presence called Leap Frog Divorce.  It’s quite a different law firm/enterprise.  They specialize in divorce dispute resolution.  They also focus on the compassionate component of divorce - unlike almost all the other divorce lawyers I’ve met and heard about.  At the end of the podcast, we did call him the Compassionate Lawyer.  Take a li...