The Diary of a Discarded Daughter - Offering Hope & Redemption Where Pain Once Ruled

Send us Fan Mail God's Sovereignty in Your Suffering – A 52-Week Journey from Pain to Purpose Childhood rejection leaves wounds that aren't always visible. Long after the abuse ends, the abandonment stops, or the neglect is over, many of us continue believing the lies our pain taught us. We begin to wonder if we're unlovable, unwanted, forgotten, or invisible. But what if those aren...

Send us Fan Mail Episode 2: Abandoned But Not Forgotten by God God's Sovereignty Over Our Suffering – A 52-Week Journey from Pain to Purpose Have you ever felt forgotten? Forgotten by family. Forgotten by friends. Forgotten by the people who promised they would never leave. Perhaps you've wondered if God has forgotten you too. In Episode 2 of our series, Discarded Daughter, Lisa Schafer...

Send us Fan Mail Join Lisa for Episode 1 of a transformative 52-week Christian podcast series designed to help survivors of abandonment, rejection, abuse, trauma, and broken relationships discover healing, forgiveness, and purpose through God's Word. In this powerful opening episode, "God's Sovereignty in Your Suffering," Lisa explores one of the most difficult questions believ...

Send us Fan Mail So much happening in the Christian Drama Queen Solutions ministry. A few announcements: 1. NEW PODCAST SERIES: God's Sovereignty in Our Suffering Join us for an unforgettable 52-week journey through healing, forgiveness, identity, restoration, and purpose from a biblical perspective. In this powerful podcast series, we'll explore real-life struggles through the lens of S...

Send us Fan Mail In this powerful podcast episode, the host dives into the hidden emotional impact of man-made holidays and the unrealistic expectations they place on women—especially during Mother’s Day. From social media comparison and mom guilt to perfectionism, mental load, and the pressure to be the “perfect mother" (or perfect child), this honest conversation explores why holidays that...

Send us Fan Mail In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Finding Purpose for a Painful Past, God's Sovereignty , we explore how God can redeem even the most difficult chapters of our lives. If you’ve ever wrestled with questions about why certain hardships happen or wondered how your past could possibly serve a greater purpose, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and honest...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you feel called to share a message—but everything seems to rise up against you? In this episode, Lisa gets real and shares the spiritual reality of being attacked for just doing the work God gave her to do. She realizes if she's not facing resistance when you're trying to walk in purpose, then maybe the enemy doesn't see the work and calling as a t...

Send us Fan Mail Modern culture constantly tells us to “know your worth” and find value within yourself—but does the Bible actually teach self-worth? In this episode, Lisa explores the biblical perspective on worthiness, identity, and grace. While society promotes the idea that we possess inherent worth that deserves blessing, Scripture presents a different reality: our hope, identity, and accepta...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Lisa explores a hard but necessary question: Why is the corporate church so uncomfortable with hearing about your suffering? Many believers are still walking through chronic pain, trauma, loss, or unanswered prayers. But when that suffering doesn’t resolve quickly or turn into a clean testimony, it often makes people uneasy. And when they try to speak about it, th...

Send us Fan Mail The last episode opened up this concept of not just saying we've forgiven our abusers, but actually infesting loving kindness into them, and setting aside our desire for retribution or even closure. We've seen biblical examples of showing love before actually feeling love, but this week, Lisa shares two personal experiences where God was able to use her choice to act lov...

Send us Fan Mail Lisa didn't come up with this idea. A popular Christian author told her story on a popular Christian network and the message resonated. But is there a Biblical account of someone needing to forgive and seeing the importance of sacrificing to do so. Find out and share your opinion.  Ready for some more Christian Drama Queen? Sign up for my newsletter via my website:  https://c...

Send us Fan Mail Ugh! The whole idea of "having the mind of Christ" is overwhelming to think about, isn't it? It's one of those "I know I should but it just can't be done...can it?" sort of things. In this episode, Lisa shares how difficult it was for her to be humble before one of her kids after thinking her unloving behavior was justified. After all, he had inf...

Send us Fan Mail When Lisa and Beth met for the first time, it was obvious they were sisters—not only in Christ, but also in experiences of abandonment and redemption. In this episode, Beth shares her story of being kidnapped by family at a very young age and how the Lord brought healing and hope back into her life. Since they are both veteran home-educators, they discuss some of the ways their se...

Send us Fan Mail A very special episode, indeed! Today Lisa discusses the value two amazing women imparted to her at a time when she felt she had no value or purpose. Like many discarded daughters, we don't see the hope and future promised to us in Jeremiah 29, but God sends messengers to lead the way back to faith and purpose.  This is my dedication to Jodi Lamb and Barbara Watson Jones, bot...

Send us Fan Mail The church always has the best of intentions. But parents of children who have struggled with physical or emotional trauma can tell you, their ignorance can inflict unintentional harm.   Kristen Brock is a speaker, coach, trainer/facilitator, and host of the podcast Jesus, Justice + Mercy. As a solo mom of three sons, two through adoption from foster care, she weaves lived experie...

Send us Fan Mail This is an amazing interview, if I do say so myself.  Recognizing trauma and grieving our loss of relationships, our expectations, our plans, is crucial for the healing process to begin. In this interview, Lisa and Stacy talk not only about understanding the damage that our perpetrators have also lived through, but also about equipping victims to understand the process to forgive....

Send us Fan Mail As a victim of childhood trauma herself, Lisa is not being insensitive to the pain and shame that comes with suffering. But we can't avoid the command of the Lord to forgive. Would God command us to do something so difficult if He couldn't enable us to do it? And who's really getting hurt when we hand on to our bitterness? In this episode, Lisa shares the earth-shat...

Send us Fan Mail What a surprise to find out (during what was supposed to be the happiest time of my life, welcoming our new baby into the world) that I had terrible thoughts of rage, abuse and despair. But that's how many of us tossed aside or abused at a young age behave later in life, because we haven't dealt with our anger. And who are me mad at? Let's be honest now...is it the...

Send us Fan Mail Discarded Daughters struggle to see their Heavenly Father honestly, as protector and provider, as a safe place to run and hide. And make no mistake, good works and Christian activity are suppose to be a response to an intimate walk with the Lord, not a replacement.  Note the podcast name change! Please share with those discarded daughters you know who need to find hope and healing...

Send us Fan Mail Forgiven is NOT the Same as Forgotten I love being in fellowship with other believers. I love worshipping in song and praising Jesus with all my heart. So—I DO attend church. But some days are just harder than others. And for Discarded Daughters like me, Father's Day can be tough. It's not that I'm still angry. I'm not still bitter. But God gifts each of us wit...

Send us Fan Mail If you feel called of God to ministry or business and still need to keep it "all together" on the home front, then this is the episode for you! Aliese is one of the first guests I've brought to the Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen Podcast.  Aliese Halcomb is a Christian mompreneur on a mission to help other Christian mompreneurs! After becoming a mother, she...

Send us Fan Mail A few months ago, I was invited to share the Forgiving the Unforgivable subject on Tapestry Ministry Network with Stephanie Morin Sherwood during their live Facebook group broadcast called Woven In Wednesdays. It's a bit longer than my usual broadcast but I touched on most of the concepts behind the Biblical journey in my published studies on Amazon.  Find Tapestry Network on...

Send us Fan Mail Lisa never claims to have all the answers. This became abundantly clear when she read through someone else's post on Facebook, expressing their comfort with cutting someone out of their life. We all deal with toxic relationships, and have probably had to simply turn our backs on someone we used to believe was a friend. But what would Jesus do? And whatever He would do, does H...

Send us Fan Mail Scripture has provided a resounding "NO!" in answer to the questions of whether we are unloved or unwanted (see parts 2 & 3 of this series). But what about the question of whether we are worthy? Deserving blessing? When feelings of unworthiness express themselves to the extreme, we can become self-abusive, prone to self-medicating our pain or succumb to addictions. W...

Send us Fan Mail This is part III of the series I'm doing regarding the emotional baggage that keeps Christian Drama Queens like me, abandoned and recovering from childhood trauma, awake at night. Am I as unwanted as I've convinced myself I am? Where is God on the subject? Am I truly the last thing on His mind? And why wouldn't I be?  The new Freedom Christian Radio stream starts th...