The Dame Debate

#020 Well leave it to us to go down some rabbit holes! Today we get into the theory of Mate Value and why, as genuine women, we try to alter our appearance and our minds to be a certain way. Everything from fake lashes (seemingly harmless, right?) to our beliefs. Through this journey we take a ride on the wild side an consider if we should be considerate of our partners feelings when responding to...

#019 We dive into the aspect of self-compassion as it's described in the book Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin . The approach we take is how we look at this for ourselves and for each other. The book lists three different parts of self-compassion and we really look at them, ask the hard questions and really dissect it. There are parts of this definition of self-compassion we agree with and the...

#018 Today we sit with our good friend, Tyler, who is a female by the way, and we get into everything from how to handle sticky situations and conversations to why we are the way we are. We bounce all over the place but it's a true, genuine, fun time and I think you're really going to love it! Tyler and Gail met through their Master's program and stayed in touch through a book club tha...

#017 This episode really digs into what it means to live a purpose driven life, the questions we sometimes ask ourselves in regard to the purpose of our life here on earth and just overall how we handle the ebbs and flows of life. We believe there is a reason for our existence but sometimes we struggle to fully understand what that is and we wrestle with that on this episode.

#016 This episode we get into our thoughts on if we are able to show pure happiness for someone upon hearing some exciting news - for example, someone you know well announces they get a new job, are you immediately happy for them or do you resort to envious emotion of wanting what they have or do you have a mixture of both? We ask all of the questions of each other and hypothesize why we react the...

#015 OUR FIRST GUEST! Adrian Lovett - from Dallas, TX living in Oklahoma City, 29, married and a dog mom! We are so excited for you to hear Adrian's perspective on being a genuine person, what it means to her, how she learned to be this version of herself, our take on some of her view points and some good laughs along the way. Find Adrian on Instagram @adrianwlovett to learn more about her.

#014 Perception is such a big topic for us and we could have definitely taken this episode into many episodes and we may even circle back on it in the future. Perception is a way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something - a mental impression - and sometimes people perceive things differently. We get into the different areas of life where we have experienced difficulties due to a diff...

#013 We decided it was time to dig into the big topic of fear and failure, the fear of failure, what fear means and why failure is something we fear. We talk ourselves in circles while also making perfect sense. We give examples, we touch on imposter syndrome and we even talk more into childhood development (surprise)! We go down some weird paths that are unexpected - like why men are afraid to fa...

#012 This episode really gets into narcissism - we look into how the majority of people have tendencies, the origin of the word and degree of severity. We talk about how to identify a narcissist and determine if you are being manipulated in work, friendships, family or a romantic relationship. Gail and I have both dealt with our fair share of narcissistic men in our dating careers and we talk thro...

#011 We dive into the "Let Them" theory, from Mel Robbins. We look at the positives and negatives of the theory, how best to apply it and some exceptions to the rule. The theory is backed by the way to achieve peace in life. We consider it a fascinating way to approach situations in life but not all situations. sources: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-70 - Hollman, L. (2020,...

#010 We are looking at the quote "Love does not hurt. Stop convincing yourself that you'd rather be in pain with someone than be in pain without them." This is our last episode of this series where we analyze specific self help quotes - the good and the bad - and tweak them a little bit to capture their true meaning. This one we take down a bit of a rabbit whole on the idea that love...

#009 We dive into the quote "Not everyone thinks like you. What makes sense to you doesn't necessarily make sense to someone else. Communicate." We see this as more of a reminder and think through all of the times we thought others should think like us. It's a simple thought that we have to remind ourselves regularly because we can get stuck in our own worlds and heads. This epis...

#008 This is a solo Gail episode where she comes at this weeks quote from every angle possible. The quote: "Falling for the potential of who someone could be instead of who they actually are will cause you grave pain and disappointment. The sooner you let go. The faster you'll heal." Everything from potential in children to significant others and friends. The aim is to try to see it...

#007 Looking at another life motto: "No one owes you anything. You are the leader of your own life. Work for what you want. That makes you the most powerful person you can be." We dive into what this phrase really means, how it pertains to our own lives, what it could mean for yours and analyzing some word usage (ie. the word "that"). Self care phrases are all the rage these da...

#006 Well nothing new here, we dive deep into some key phrases people like to throw around as motivation and encouragement. The two sayings are "It's no one's responsibility to make you happy. Stop giving up your power by expecting someone or something to change your life." and " No one owes you anything. You are the leader of your own life. Work for what you want. That make...

#005 We are diving into the world of selflessness this episode. What does it mean? Are there good sides to selfishness? And what is the true definition of humility? We go down some rabbit holes of things we are dealing with in life, currently, and we are interested on your take! Things like making plans, declining plans, texting etiquette with friends, obligations, making plans, breaking plans and...

#004 WOW! We really get into so many hot topics and it gets real - people pleasing, the agreeability spectrum, the hierarchy of needs, successful aging, desperate energy, and how we really need to self please rather than people please - to name a few. We talk about reality tv, romance books and getting old. This episode is truly how we converse and we are excited for you all to be apart of it! Boo...

#003 We talk a lot about growth and this episode we focus on what that means to us, the research we have done on the topic, the Zone of Proximal Development, how we experience growth and proven ways to understand ourselves better. We get into the psychology behind journaling and understanding our emotions. What does all of it mean? We don't necessarily have the answer but we try our best to gi...

#002 Today we get into truth telling, resilience, healing, practice makes perfect, exposure therapy and how you are the only one you can control. This truly is an episode that goes through a lot of topics like a friendly conversation. We really get into it and talk through some vulnerabilities we each have. We ask each other some hard questions and how that in some way this conversation helps you...

#001 Welcome to our first episode where we introduce ourselves, dive into the why behind the podcast, the explanation of the Yin & Yang significance and reflection on cultivating meaningful friendships with others who are both like minded and have opposing views to our own. In the discussion about the Yin & Yang symbol, Gail references Lao Tzu, L. E. (1997). Tao te ching (pp.vii-xix). Word...