The C.S. Café

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we're discussing how the 1970s Blaxploitation era redefined the art of dating. It passed down the notion that dating is mere transactional and that if a man spends money on a date then he is owed a woman's body. Well, that doesn't get us to a lasting relationship with that mindset now does it? We have to return that notion ba...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! How many many women wished they could have dated young under parental supervision? In this episode, we discuss raising teenagers especially young women. We tend to have a long leash on our young men but yet a shock collar on our young women. We expect them to choose wisely when they become adults but their emotional state haven't even been developed y...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we get into emotional regulation. What sets a person off? How did you learn to self deescalate a situation? Everyone isn't raised with the tools to do so early hence why we have prisons and diversion centers filled. We all know that even the best of us weren't taught how to regulate our emotions but by adulthood it shouldn't...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 7/7. In this episode we get into the hard part of relationships. The ending. When does does us part. How do you move on when you have more love to give? The anger you feel about the other dying without you? The pain you feel about losing the other? The guilt you feel about wasting time. It's all part of grief and as soon as we start to let that par...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 6/7. In this episode we shed a light on empty nesters. What happens between a couple when the kids have recently left the nest? How do you refocus on each other when you don't have to set an example for someone watching you? Learning to date each other or just date when there's no excuse to fall back on can be challenging but it's a good...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 5/7. In this episode, we focus on connective intimacy. In a relationship we get so bogged down with work, chores, kids, that we forget or just plain out don't want to connect with each other. Whether it be just touch, a massage, a back rub, or sexual intimacy all of it is needed to recharge the other. I get it a relationship is not all about sex bu...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 4/7. In this episode, we talk about rekindling passion between lovers. A lot of us have passion within us but pouring into one another is where we trip up time and time again. We become too focused on "hooking up" than igniting that passion between us. Passion and seduction starts outside of the bedroom. You just have to observe it to find it....

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 3/7. In this episode, we come to a halt as most relationships do. For whatever reason, your relationship is at a stalemate. Arguments become frequently. One or both feel like they aren't being heard. When one or both try to end it but struggle to. Where do you go from here? Ask yourself is this worth fighting for? Block out the noise and the observ...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 2/7. In this episode we delve into that part of love where you're always on each other's mind. Whether it be love, lust, or concern, that someone is revolving around your center. We love that for you. Thinking without making the thought an obsession is healthy for you. Go ahead now! Paint a picture of your significant other mentally and hold t...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 1/7. In this episode we start our "Love Through Stages" series. Let's take it all back to the beginning of your relationship. First dates till the making it "official" stage. How were you when it was time to get ready? Were you the one who had everything laid out or just picked out something the day of? Do you remember how the f...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 4/4. In this episode, we talk about the back and forth reconnections of a child with a parent battling addiction. It's not our job to save them but we often grow up wanting to. Wanting to know if we're worth more than those few minutes of high. The constant reconnection can be draining. The end game isn't always a happy ending. Just know...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 3. n this episode, we take you on a journey of reconnecting with parents after divorce. Sometimes the missing parent always says, "You'll know when you get older" like there's more to the story than what you physically see. The parent raising you really don't have to fill your head with anything negative about the other. The act...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 2. In this episode, we take you on a journey of reconnecting after lockup. Many children have trouble reconnecting after a parent has been released from the penitentiary. It's gets harder reconnecting after your whole childhood has been missed. Where do you begin? Do you even try? Let's get into it. Tune in now! Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 1. In this episode, we start a news series of parental alienation. This episode goes out to all of those who have been adopted and tried to reconnect with your biological parents but it didn't go as you thought it would in your head. Tune in now.  Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 3/3. In this episode, we get into the last straw. When you've exhausted all options do you divorce or stay in it. If you're staying in it what made you stay? Sometimes divorce isn't an easy decision. You think about the multiple concepts that you're saving at once. Let's get into it. Tune in  Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Pt 2. In this episode of the series we get into learning things about the other spouse but you learned it in secret. What happens when we want to ask someone about something we've learned but we didn't hear it from them? Maybe you did her it from them unconsciously but not when they were awake. We toil with ourselves about bombarding the other pe...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Part 1 of 3. In this episode we go on a journey of one woman's thoughts in staying or divorce. We talk about the strains of being with someone who's emotionally detached and cannot verbally express their own feelings or life. Come on this journey as we go through this 3 part series. If you've ever been in this situation we loved to know your...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! We've seen the chaos the United States is in. Every choice has a consequence and every action has a reaction. Even idled actions not chosen has a consequence. In this episode we take a look at consequences. Not every choice has a direct consequence. You may want to get rid of one thing lawfully but forget that there are many things attached to the fac...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! It's Black History Month! In this episode, I wanted to uplift the heritage and culture of black folk. Love can be described far more than just two people having intimate relations. Black love is all around us from sacrifice to ever memory made with children and grandchildren. Black love can be seen throughout history whether we were in love, loved the...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode, We call women front and center. This piece is dedicated to any woman who needs a pep talk, an "I understand", another match lit. Being a woman is so much more than our aesthetics, vocal tonality, and body language. Being a woman is going through so many obstacles and mental blocks that men will never understand. Womanhood and mot...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we talk about adult friendships. As we age we start to really dissect and reevaluate our friendships. Some of us grow apart but do we really have to though? We talk so much about communication but drop the ball when it comes to those who were there by your side at one point in time. I'm not talking about the ones who were toxic and nee...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode, we discuss the women's sect with love. A lot of women are out there who've never experienced love. They play games with it. They demand financial gain before trusting it. They try to put love in submission with the silent treatment and so many other childish tactics to mask their lack of poor communication. There's so much t...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we break down the men's version of love. I've talked to a lot of men about love and their first time they notice that they loved someone. Our first love could start as early as pre-k or as late as adulthood. This doesn't mean the more intimate love we all talk about but love in general. When was the first time you knew love?...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! People talk about love like learning a new vocab word and saying it excessively. That doesn't mean you know how to use it properly. Often times we think we're "in love" but you never truly love someone until you "choose to love them". Marriage isn't always the good times. That what the vows prepared you for. Do you really...

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! How many of you got that one person that vents about their problems but ever solves them. It becomes a dumping ground upon your mental health but does nothing to them. Sometimes you have to put a pause on people who just vent just to vent. Tell me about your good times, accomplishments, goals, etc. If all they have to bring to the conversation is negatives...