The Courageous Mumma

This week I answer some of your questions that have been sent to my blog. Come and hear How and when to use Consequences (and when not to) How to lean in when we feel like leaning away  And what does it mean to raise children who manage themselves   Do send your questions to thecourageousmumma.gmail or find me on my blog, pop here And for those looking to buy the book Parenting For Life at the spe...

My guest this week is a Psychotherapist from Sydney, Hari Candlin. She teaches on Emotional Coaching - how to connect with your child. How to ensure they feel safe to share with you. How to respond without taking over. We chat about anxiety, trauma, social media and how to form a deep connection that will last a lifetime.   pop here to find Hari   In the podcast Hari mentions building a family cul...

Today, we're talking about drugs and what to say to our kids.   George Orton chats to Tony France, who's an expert in all things drugs, drugs-related, adolescence, trauma or addiction related.   George asks Tony" what's out there? whats' the landscape like? what do we tell them? what should we know? He's a psychotherapist with a difference and this conversation is a great way to get ahead of the d...

Do you ever wonder what lies behind the exponential rise in anxiety among today's young people. Have you heard of micro-traumas? The clues are in the small print.

When my children were young I looked to parents who had gone before me to glean what I could from their parenting. If I liked the behaviour and values of their children, I wasn't shy to ask questions and get advice. I needed it. We all do.  This week I'm chatting with coach, seasoned parent and wise mother of four, Tania West. She's full of great advice, humble enough to share where she went wrong...

Communication is easy to mess up. We're not always listening as well as we think we are. What better way to avoid the pitfalls than chatting with the CEO of a Communications company?   If you're enjoying The Courageous Mumma, you'll love the book Parenting For Life. For your copy at a special price for listeners pop here here   Whether you're a CEO or a sole-trader - to find out more about Tim and...

Lots more inspiration for families who want to grow together. This week we look at how to get them chatting about the different values and how to harness that into a ten or so values or sentences. The process is bonding for the family and is as important as the outcome.   If you're enjoying thecourageousmumma you'll love the book. To get your discounted copy pop here If you'd like the script from...

How do we help our children to know what their own values are? How can we create a set of core values as a family?  This week we look at 9 steps to establishing a selection of values that feel so important to them that they'll actually live by them. If you'd like to find this in text, pop here (it uploads about two days after the podcast drops) If you'd like a copy of my book, either pop to the we...

I think we are lead to believe lies -  little cultural messages that we imbibe as parents, that shape us.   If we want to raise children who thrive, who have high self-esteem and are emotionally intelligent, we need to be countercultural and go against the cultural grain.   So here goes for some truth-busting today.   Pop across to the website to get the transcript: here I love hearing from you. D...

Here's a tool that will help you to stay empowered under stress and prevent you from that downward spiral of concern. It's a life-changer.  If you're enjoying the podcast you'll love the book delivered to your door and you'll love the discount too. Link to book     If you'd like to read this weeks podcast, here it is in text: Link to blog   I love hearing from my listeners. Here's my email: Madele...

Here's a positive, empowering way to look at the future...   Have you asked yourself some of the big questions about where you're heading? Where your children are heading? Where your relationships are heading?   This week we look at some great ways to set the trajectory in the direction we want it to head.   Here's the blog if you want to follow it written down... click here   Here's the link for...

Would you love to stay gentle at the same times as keeping clear boundaries in place? I'm chatting with a dad this week who 'walks the walk' - humble enough to know where he goes wrong, but strong enough to know where he's going. I found his insight inspiring - and his sense of humour!   With strength and gentleness your kids will feel loved and safe. They'll know your expectations and limits clea...

What do we do now and in the tweens and teens when they're behaving rudely and uncooperatively? How do we stay calm and help them to express themselves in a kinder way? This week we look at tools for refining; tools for connection and ways to respect ourselves so that our children do too.   BOOK If you would like to look at the book and buy your discounted copy pop here   BLOG and here for the tex...

Watching our children behave aggressively can be alarming and upsetting. Biting, hitting or being disrespectful can be dealt with effectively and even calmly.  This week I respond to some questions I have been asked and leave you feeling empowered - and able to empower your children.   The blog to match the podcast here my contact: madeleinestani@icloud.com Parenting For Life Book here

For our own sakes (and others) we need to check in and make sure that we're getting the fuel we need to keep going. It's a busy life parenting so we're focussing this week on a few top tips to keep ourselves in good mental, physical and spiritual shape. 

Here's a new aspect to parenting. It might not be our parenting, but fostered children and fostering parents are in our community and at the school gates. Abuse and neglect are around every corner. It's always helpful to understand the life of another, so this is an aspect of parenting we thought would be informative for our listeners.    Fostering information: Here Parenting For Life book: Here ...

Some good tips on how to boost your relationship and some good laughs too. How to spot the danger signs and some really cool neuro insights that explain why we react the way we do sometimes.   Psychotherapist Margy Wakefield talks us through the insights: find Margy   Find the blog to match the pod and have all the salient points in text right here   I love hearing from you. Keep the questions and...

Sometimes there are hidden secrets to our children's characters. Finding out the true meaning to extrovert and introvert can be so revelatory it changes the way you parent and frees them up to be their unique selves.    It also takes the angst out of family life.    Find more information on this weeks subject plus a link to my book go to my website:   www.thecourageousmumma.com   Personality test:...

Great ways to replace conflict with our kids around our technology and restore peace. Yes it's possible! Creating fair boundaries and managing them peacefully. And just maybe there are some antidotes to that addictive on-line world madeleinestani@icloud.com

A clear guide to why our kids are so in love with their tech. What they're doing on it. Why they're psychologically vulnerable. How to help them through it and avoid addiction, without falling out with them on the way. And - which sites to avoid. Madeleinestani@icloud.com

What is causing anxiety among children and young people? Why is it on the rise? And how can we help our children to process, face their fears and grow, whilst acknowledging their fears?   Caroline Kelly is a counsellor to teens and young people and talks us through some of the challenges today's young people face. She's also a guest blogger on thecourageousmumma.com this week, pop across and read...

Do you ever feel that you don't have a voice or that some of the people around you aren't feeling confident about using theirs. Or do you know someone who's voice is too dominant and doesn't leave space for others? Everyone's voice is important and when we understand what strengths different people bring and what strengths we bring - and our children bring, we can find where our voice fits and how...

Our children are going out into a world that is has unprecedented social interaction. In order to cope they will need to build up their sense of value and esteem from their primary belonging group - their family. They will take their values from the group they most belong to - as lovely as their friends are, they're not a reliable source for establishing their core strength just yet. Home is the p...

There will be many wrestles for our children's attention and many groups that may seem more appealing at time than the family. But we can sow in some ways that help them to put deep roots down so that when the storms of life come in, they are deeply secure. 

ACCESS THE LEARNING TOOLS teamlightson@explorium.co.uk. 3 day LightsOn course (reduced to £20) https://www.explorium.co.uk/jam FB: The Lights On Mum   RACISM; I’M LISTENING! I’ve asked people of different ages and races to contribute to a list to help us to begin to understand racism. This is a great overview and explains the common expressions used: https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/1S5uckFH...