The Courageous Mumma

When our children resist our well-intentioned boundaries, it can be the beginning of the battles. What if resistance was an opportunity? Could it be a place to grow trust and bond?   Come and find out! It's great to be back and welcoming you to Season II - I have so much in store for you. I love hearing your feedback: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

stomping up stairs? banging doors? chat back? resistant? got louder or gone quieter? What's that all about? Come and find out   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

Wish your kids would listen? This will make a massive difference   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

We all want healthy attachment for our children.  We want them to feel confident to take on challenges and know that there are loving arms waiting for them after their adventures and challenges.  But that can go a little wrong when our needs muscle in front of theirs. Yet, we can go their whole childhood without knowing we've muddled their needs with ours. Here is a really clear and concise way to...

Have you ever had to grieve a season?   Did you see it coming?   Is there a change ahead?   One thing that’s for sure is… CHANGE   Sometimes we see it coming, sometimes it’s sudden, like it was for us last week.    For the book, pop  here To enquire about consultations, book  here  

Here are a few ideas I wish I'd been handed when my children were young, so I'm passing them to you.   They're easy tools for connection...for fun...for trust...   For the blog about Wonderbooks, pop here For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

There's always a clue behind the angst - but have we got time to explore it? One little micro-change in how you respond to your kids will take you on a trajectory towards good relationship: Where there is understanding there can be empathy - Where there is empathy there is connection. It's easy when you know how.  The alternative? - missing the vital clues and teaching our kids to keep their feeli...

I'm not going to tell you to calm down or get more sleep, but I am sharing a little tool that makes all the difference to our children in this busy season.   Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!   Consultations here    Link for the Book here   

A great question from a listener leads us to dig into WHEN to use empathy and when to try another tack.  For your copy of Parenting for Life, pop here  To enquire about a Consultation, pop here If you want to hop back to the podcast on Consequences, pop here See you next week, Mads

Last week we looked at WHY we should keep boundaries in place. This week we look at HOW we can do that without raised volume and harsh tone...and how we can stay empowered and teach our children empowerment - not overpowerment!  It's powerful   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here          

Our children are defensive and argumentative when they feel they're in the wrong. Why? Because often, being wrong is not acceptable at home. It equals failure, shame, embarrassment; they liken going wrong to being wrong. Parents can then get into an unhealthy loop of backing down and letting the child win - for a quiet life. But what consequences does that have for the child's self esteem later in...

Let's chat about money. Though, it's never really about the money. It's about expectations, needs vs desires, borrowing and lending, saving and giving. Money taps into so many other issues that come from the perspectives they form when they're small. Money is a great tool for growing and influencing our children to have a healthy heart when it comes to generosity and wisdom. For the book, pop here...

How do we protect our family and ourselves from tricky relatives? How do we model inclusion and leave people out?  What dangers lurk when we exclude people from family gatherings? There are some hidden dangers. Today we make  straightforward sense of an awkward situation.   Pop to the blog for some great reads, here For your copy of The Courageous Mumma, pop here   For more information about a con...

Is your word pure gold? Or do you feel it's bouncing off them? Is your influence beginning to fade as they get older? This week, I’m going to share an easy way to help your kids value your words, no matter what age they are. I'll share a simple way to ensure that you're not falling into common parent traps that make your kids ignore your words. I'll also share how some common parent-responses can...

Do you ever wish your kids were more appreciative? I don't mean learning the word 'Thank you', but the actual heart-felt issue of feeling grateful for the little things and the big things? Is it possible to create that heart-sense? Yes, it is! This week we look at three ways to raise the gratitude levels in your home.    For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here   To find out more about making...

Our children need 9 affirming messages for each negative one - whether that's a negative from you, a peer, a teacher... or anyone.  That's a lot of affirming? How do we get that into a day and how can it be so magical?   For the text for this week's podcast, pop here For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For information on consultations, pop here

What is success? What does it mean to you? What does it mean to your child? What messages are they picking up at home? If we're not intentional about our metrics for success our children can pick up hidden messages that ultimately impact their confidence and sense of self. Being intentional about success and failure narratives is a small but vital part of parenting.  Come and see how to re-calibra...

The first information your child receives about sex with form their life-long perspective. Who is best equipped to do that?   For the book, pop here For the script to this week's podcast, pop here For information about a consultation, pop here

making conversation is an art that isn't just caught, it's taught. Often children don't feel confident, or just aren't taught to take an interest: They'll answer questions that they're asked, but won't necessarily think or know how to go past answering and into connected conversation. Here's how to get past the small talk... The text for this week's podcast is here For your copy of Parenting For L...

We love to love our children and we've become familiar with the word 'attachment', but do we know what it really means? And do sometimes cause our children difficulties and undermine their confidence because we've misunderstood the term? This week come and find out what attachment isn't and where the tipping point is. The text for this week's podcast is here For your copy of Parenting For Life, po...

Is there a magic tool that takes them from cross, frustrated and venting, to calmer? Something that stops flash points from becoming conflicts?  YES!!! It's simple and effective, but It's counter-intuitive too. Are you ready to hard-wire a new response to an angry child? Great, then. come and listen and prepare to be surprised at how your well your children respond to the new you. They may not alw...

A great conversation with Matt Kane. We talk about the important things to learn that you don't get certificates for -  acceptance respect understanding sex social media How teachers can positively influence our children at a critical stage in their formative years.

Do you ever wish parents had a stronger voice in the halls of power? In the national press? Today I meet the woman who takes your parent-voice and your opinions to the places where they can influence. Parent-ping is an App that canvasses the views of parents and shares them. So if you're wondering... Is it just me? Does anyone else think like this? Does anyone else parent like this? ...you can go...

Everybody’s walk and experience, love story and parenting journey is different, so I thought it would be fun to ask a few parents to share their stories, especially when they’ve got an unusual ingredient or two in the mix.    This week I’m going to introduce you to my Iranian friend, Zara.  She’s gorgeous, she’s creative, she’s organic and she’s always up to something interesting: She lives in Che...

Very small tweaks in the ways we respond to our children have a massive effect.   This week I look at VS - Not Scotland vs England, but... I am VS I did Connect VS Correct Quality VS Quantity   How we can respond to our children without getting their defences up and still be a great influence on their evolving decisions.     For your copy of Parenting For Life, Pop here To contact me I'm TheCourag...