The Catholic Gentleman

It's time for a reset to the entire purpose of fasting. John shares how he spent years fasting the wrong way, treating it like self-mortification for the sake of self-control. Until a spiritual director challenged him: fasting isn’t mainly about proving you can suffer. It’s about making room for loving union with Christ. Fr. Ken explains why the Church gives a minimal fasting prescription. It’s me...

You see over 5000 marketing messages every day. In 2025, hundreds of billions of emails were sent every day, notifications never stop, and research shows the average person switches attention every 47 seconds. We are conditioned to live and stay teathered to noise. But all of this keeps us separated from God. In addition, Scripture warns that men will render account for every careless word they sp...

This Ash Wednesday, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen go straight to the heart of Lent’s first command: repent and believe. We're focusing on two concrete actions that we avoid until we're desperate: a real examination of conscience and a clean, simple confession. Not scrupulosity. Not vague generalities. An honest inventory of blind spots, weak spots, compromises, and missed opportunities for virtue...

Men treat Lent as optional. However, if this were the case, Christ would NOT have begun His public ministry with the command to repent. Yet most Catholic men approach Lent as if it were extra credit — giving something up, struggling through forty days, and returning to the same patterns unchanged. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the real reason Lent exists. Penance is not a s...

Pride among Catholic men rarely looks like arrogance. What men don't realize is that it surfaces as control, self-reliance, withdrawal, or even habits that appear virtuous on the surface. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt are joined by Patrick O’Hearn to examine why pride is so difficult to recognize in ourselves, and why it quietly blocks growth in the spirit...

Men today are often lost and quietly confused. Some know they should strive for more, yet feel strangely unmoved to pursue it. Others are driven but stuck, spinning their wheels, repeating the same habits and even the same sins, wondering why nothing ever changes. Still others feel unambitious, listless, and disengaged, moving from obligation to obligation without a clear sense of direction. In th...

Most men today feel torn in a dozen directions. Family, work, faith, pressure, expectations, comparison, and the relentless noise of a culture that confuses success with self-promotion. In this conversation, Jeff Schiefelbein dismantles those false narratives. He reveals a radically Catholic vision of leadership and manhood built not on ego, luck, or hustle, but on integrity, stewardship, and the...

Why does God allow suffering, especially for good and innocent people who are trying to live faithfully? Many men assume suffering means something has gone wrong: a lack of faith, a mistake, or even abandonment by God. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront that assumption directly. Drawing from our own personal suffering they challenge the modern instinct to avoid pain at all cost...

Men who are trying to be disciplined, responsible, and successful still feel internally restless, scattered, or dissatisfied. They work harder, set better goals, and chase improvement, yet something underneath remains unresolved. The problem is not effort. It’s formation. Many men were never given a clear vision of what masculinity is ordered toward, only pressure to perform and compete without un...

Protecting your wife and family in 2026 looks very different than it did even a few years ago. The pressures facing marriages today are often subtle rather than dramatic. Constant noise, distraction, comparison, stress, and moral confusion now have unprecedented access to the home. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt examine why many men feel stretched thin yet...

If Satan and his demons are going around waging a perpetual war on mankind and seeking whom they may devour, wouldn't it be great if we understood their tactics and strategies? Today John, Devin, and Sam discuss how the Church has grown in her understanding, through Scripture, theology, as well as exorcisms, and how we can use this knowledge to our benefit. We discuss man's need for temptation and...

Why do so many men find themselves struggling with the same patterns their fathers struggled with: anger, distraction, work obsession, emotional distance, lust, even despite promising they’d be different? The truth is, fathers pass far more to their children than they realize. Not just beliefs or values, but habits, tone, priorities, and ways of relating that quietly shape the next generation. In...

Keith Nester spent more than two decades as a Protestant pastor. Preaching, leading, counseling, and absolutely certain he would never become Catholic. Yet his actual conversion story is long, often humorous, at times painful, and far deeper than a simple change of denomination. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with​ ⁨ @KeithNester  to uncover what really happened behind the...

Every parent wonders if their child will grow up successful, strong, capable, and grounded in faith. Most turn to schools, activities, friendships, or strategies to secure that future. But in this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the noise and uncover what research, psychology, and the Catholic tradition all identify as the single greatest predictor of a child’s long-term success....

Every father faces the immense challenge of shaping his son. In this compelling episode, John Heinen, Devin Schadt, and Sam Guzman confront the critical question: How can fathers avoid leaving emotional wounds and instead raise sons who thrive to be men? Discover the five essential needs every son has from his father. Needs that, when neglected, keep a boy from becoming a man. Join us as we unpack...

What do you do when your spouse’s past sins still frustrate your present? When forgiveness has been given, but you find yourself still losing your peace and thinking about it? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront a painful and often-unspoken challenge in marriage, how to find peace, confidence, and love when your spouse’s past continues to echo in your life. They discuss why sexu...

Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went.  In this episode of The Catholic...

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore...

Every loving husband wants his wife to be happy. But what happens when every attempt, every word, solution, silence, seems to push her further away? Why is it that more often than not, she does not want us to help her fix her problems? In this episode, John Heinen & Devin Schadt dig into the struggle so many good men face: the instinct to fix their wife’s unhappiness… and why healing often begins...

Every man lives by a story, but what if the story you’ve been living isn’t true? We find ourselves, unknowingly, trapped in lies that define who we are and how we must act. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the hidden lies that quietly shape how men see themselves, their worth, and their purpose. These lies are subtle, powerful, and universal, and until they’re revealed, they ke...

WARNING, this episode contains adult content. Few men realize how deeply silence about sex can wound intimacy. It’s not usually selfishness that causes distance, but fear of saying the wrong thing, being rejected, or exposing the ache for connection that runs deeper than words. Over time, unspoken needs harden into resentment, and what was meant to unite begins to divide. In this episode released...

WARNING, this episode contains adult content. Most wives truly love their husbands, yet still feel confused by what he needs, what drives him, and what hurts him. Most husbands deeply love their wives, yet struggle to explain what’s really going on inside. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack the four deepest needs of men. With honesty, research, and Catholic wisdom, they bring cla...

Most men want to succeed in life, but could never explain how it’s truly done. We chase goals, work harder, and push ourselves, yet still feel like something is missing. The world promises success, comfort, and freedom, but delivers noise, confusion, emptiness, and disappointment. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of th...

Most husbands love their wives and are trying to do their best, yet many still make hidden mistakes that quietly convince her she isn’t loved. These aren’t failures of bad men, but blind spots of good men who don’t realize how their actions (or inactions) land. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the unseen ways husbands lose their wives’ hearts and reveal a path toward lasting lo...

Is it lust or love? Many men are looking for a cure for lust and often think that marriage will cure it, only to discover the struggle follows them into married life. The truth is, marriage doesn’t magically cure lust. If you battled it before, you’ll still battle it after. Marriage doesn’t change the interior dispositions and temptations of man. Love does. In this episode of The Catholic Gentlema...