The Buffet Pod

What's good fam! Have you ever felt like your work and life responsibilities are constantly running into each other? That you are spending so much time taking care of others' needs that it's difficult finding time for yourself? Does your partner do something that annoys you or share different interests and you are feeling guilty or frustrated about voicing them because it may require you to pull t...

2021 saw the end of a few celebrity relationships and some peeks into the inner workings of a few other relationships. The tea was hot! Each time a break up was announced we were left wondering, could they have done more to stay together? That’s what we are asking in this episode: Who shows up for the fight to save a relationship? Is one party more responsible than the other? Grab a plate and pull...

We back with part 2 of our discussion of Shahrazad Ali’s controversial book “The Blackman’s guide to Understanding the Blackwoman.” We wrap up our thoughts and feelings on the current state of black relationships and how we all must work to rebuild our families and community to be as strong as they can be. Grab a plate and pull up a seat at the Buffet! Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG: @TheBuffetP...

We coming in hot on this one Y'all. Have you heard that the Black woman is “out of order”? How does that sit with you? During this episode we review the ideas of Shahrazad Ali’s controversial book “The Blackman’s guide to Understanding the Blackwoman”. The book is over 30 years old but her interviews go viral every few years because the same challenges persist in the black community. Grab ya milk...

Its our anniversary fam!!! So this week Brandan and Ciandra decided to sit down and review the year with some thoughtful reflection. We encourage you and yours to follow along and don't be afraid to be vulnerable or spicy (wink, wink). It's good to hear from all parties. I know ya'll hungry so let's eat. PS. Happy New Year Y'all!!!! Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG: @TheBuffetPod Brandan: @TheDon1...

I'm sure you know what you want, but do you know what you need? Really, what do you need in order to make a relationship work? If you had it right in front of you would you be able to see it and know it? What about 10 years from now? When you make a decision about who to be with, remember that you are making that decision for now but also for later.  That being said, is there a difference bet...

Don’t call me bro. What is the value of friendship in your relationship? What do people mean when they say we started off as friends or be friends first then lovers. Is that even possible and do we even want that. Listen in for our review of friendship in relationships and why Brandan won’t let Ciandra call him bro.

It’s time for the holidays. Which means you might be meeting your partner’s parents for the first time. This week we equip you with some questions to consider before the big meet up. There is a lot to learn so pull up a seat and let’s eat. Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG: @TheBuffetPod Brandan: @TheDon1023 Ciandra: @Wherethereissun Music Credit Intro/Outro music song ‘Yip’ by: Clueless Kit at htt...

What's good fam! Brandan & Ciandra are back again with a part 2 to last weeks episode about attachment. They give a deeper insight into avoidant and anxious attachment while trying to identify popular celebrities that may fall within the 3 attachment styles. We discuss Summer Walker, Adele, Dababy & Dagirl, Drake, and a few other popular names. Ya'll know the deal by now, grab a plate and...

Episode Summary:  Welcome back Fam! This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss a book they recently read entitled “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and how it can help you find and keep love.”  Do you know which attachment style you have? To start, let's make one thing clear: It's either you’re secure or you’re unsecure. They talk through the different attachment styles and sha...

We back at it again with a good one y’all. This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down to discuss toxic femininity, toxic masculinity and just all around toxic behavior. A question is posed, if toxic masculinity exists, is there such a thing as toxic femininity? TL:DR It comes from both sides and really exists in a desire to be dominant and in complete control of the situation. It comes from a desire...

Not on Beyonce’s Internet! We are back this week with another one y'all. This week Brandan and Ciandra discuss phone/social media etiquette. How important is social media in your life? do you go looking for info before the first date? the second? How do you figure out who bae is online and are y’all even on the same internet?  Grab a plate, pull up a seat and join us for another serving at Th...

What’s up y’all? Did you miss us? Well we are back and this week we are talking about conflict. First let’s get something straight: the views on this pod are in support of healthy relationships so if you are on toxic time this may not sit well with you. We choose peace over here but every once in a while problems pop up so we walk through what we do when that happens. Y'all know what time it is. G...

What's poppin' fam! This week Brandan & Ciandra break bread (and sip wine) over relationship deal breakers. Do you have them? I know we do. Let us know if yours are similar, let us know if they different. We will be doing follow-up on this episode in the future so let us know how ya'll feel about this topic. As always, our intent is to elicit conversation with you and yours while also having a...

Peace, love, and health family! We serving more food for thought, hot and ready. This week Brandan & Ciandra sit down and discuss the much debated topic of "are men intimidated by successful women?" Ya'll already know the deal, this ones a lil spicy but that just means you may need some milk. We hope this episode helps start a conversation with you and yours. So, grab a drink, pull up a seat a...

This week we are going back and forth with some interesting questions from “Tonight’s Conversation” Card game. We cover everything from jealousy to cheating to unplanned pregnancy. Think about how you would feel in response to these questions. Then think about your partner. Grab a plate and pull up a seat cause you don’t want to miss this food for thought! Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG: @TheBuf...

What's happenin' Fam! We got another topic ready to serve. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss dating your "equal." What does that even mean and what would it even look like? To find out make sure you engage those active listening skills. So grab a plate and pull up a seat as we continue to give your another week of endless food for thought. It's The Buffet, bih! Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com...

Ayy folk! Hope you got an appetite because we got another one (DJ Khalid voice) for y'all. This week Brandan and Ciandra discuss how you know if your partner is the one. I hope our conversation sparks one with you and yours. Y'all already know how we get down over here so grab a plate, pull up a seat and lets eat!  Special shout out to Pauline for the question Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG...

When things go left do you wish you had an opt out for your relationship. Don’t you think the business world could teach us a little bit about navigating the terms of our relationship and setting up firm boundaries. We definitely differ on this topic so pull up a seat and let’s eat. Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG: @TheBuffetPod Brandan: @TheDon1023 Ciandra: @Wherethereissun Music Credit Intro/Ou...

We got another one y'all! This time Brandan & Ciandra take a quick couples quiz and discuss their answers with you, the people. Here's hoping some of these questions and answers sparks a lil convo with you and yours. Ya'll know the drill by now, pull up and lets eat! Article Used: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a32160810/couples-quiz-questions/ Email: TheBuffetpod@gmail.com IG: @...

Welcome back people, another week another topic! This week Brandan and Ciandra discuss some dating golden rules. They answer the question of: should there be baseline expectations that most if not all dating adults can agree on? If so, what would be included in this list. This is by no means a finite list, this is only food for thought. We hope this topic encourages you and yours to continue the c...

This another week and another topic served to the people. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss birthdays and holidays. When are you responsible for planning birthdays in a relationship? should you be? what about holidays where you are coming from differing family traditions? One thing is for certain, we stay eating round here. So grab a plate and pull up a chair at The Buffet and enjoy another...

Insecurities, we all have them. It's important to know what yours are because they can and will influence your behaviors in life and especially your romantic relationships. This week Brandan & Ciandra discuss relationship insecurities commonly experienced by men and women. So grab a plate, pull up a seat and listen to another serving of endless food for thought at The Buffet! articles mentione...

What's good foodies! This week Brandan and Ciandra go back and forth over the question of Who has primary responsibility getting pregnant? This topic is already spicy off-top! You might need some milk. Grab a plate and pull up a seat, because we eating over here at The Buffet! Intro/Outro music song ‘Yip’ by: Clueless Kit at https://soundcloud.com/cluelesskit

You know the game would you rather. Well today we are playing the game but with some of the questions you should really be asking. Like would you rather take advice from a married person or a single person? You need to know what bae is thinking and you better have your answer ready.  Grab a plate and pull up a seat because we be eating at The Buffet.