The Best Life Podcast

As technology and media develop further and become more important parts of our lives, our attention is getting spread thin. As a result, we’ve all become pretty bad listeners. You probably don’t even realize it—most people tend to believe they’re much better at listening than they actually are—but very few people feel truly listened to and understood. We think we’re pretty self-aware of our attent...

Is the secret to success as simple as making your bed? It’s been said that cleaning is the ultimate life-hack—declutter your desk to declutter your mind, clean up your finances to make even more money, make your bed and you’re on the fast-track to success. Sure, it sounds nice in theory but like most soundbytes in personal development, there’s more than meets the eye. Sure, cleaning up your life m...

It’s easy to feel all good when everything’s all good… but having an abundant mindset is a big ask when money is tight or business isn’t doing well. When our finances feel out of control, how the hell are we supposed to yank ourselves out of scarcity?! While we can’t control everything in life, sometimes the answer lies in focusing on the things you do have power over, including bettering yourself...

Is it just us, or does everyone seem to make everything about them nowadays? Look, we aren’t calling everybody a narcissist (or maybe we are…) but it seems like anytime we talk about ourselves, someone out there gets mad that we didn’t take into account their very specific situation. We know it’s impossible to please everyone, but lately it feels impossible to please anyone. Posting about your lif...

We’ve seen something interesting, and maybe you have too, but there seems to be a cultural shift away from drinking alcohol. After our marriages ended, we spent a lot more time drinking than we’d care to admit, but lately things feel a little bit different. The pull to drink feels less and less strong, and we aren’t the only people who seem to be feeling it. Alcohol is a poison, and even though it...

We talk a lot about communication on this podcast, but can you blame us? So many struggles and conflicts in our lives and relationships could be easily prevented or solved if we just communicated openly. No one is a mind reader and we can’t expect anyone—and especially our partners—to read the subtext of the things we say if we don’t communicate our feelings explicitly. Relationships are made up o...

Are you an emotional shopper? Money is a hot-button issue and for a lot of people, talking about income, spending, and debt brings out a lot of shame. Overspending is a common coping tactic for so many people (us included!) and while that rush we get from swiping our credit cards feels so good, it can really get in the way of living a life you actually love, your Best Life. Today we’re chatting wi...

Yesterday was World Mental Health Day and as people who are no strangers to mental health struggles, we wanted to talk about something near and dear to us—talk therapy. Going to see a psychologist used to carry a huge stigma, that therapy is only for “crazy” people, but Besties, let’s be real for a sec. We don’t know a single person who couldn’t benefit from seeing a therapist every now and again....

Should men have rights? The jury is still out on that one, but for now it seems like they still do and one of those rights we can’t seem to take away from them is social media use. We’re kidding (of course!) but we’ve been noticing a lot of issues when it comes to some men’s use of social media. Everywhere you turn there’s someone posting sexualized pictures of themselves—and good for them! The pr...

We talk a lot about the struggles of being stuck in an unhealthy or toxic relationship—and rightfully so—but there isn’t much being said about how hard it can be in your first relationship after something toxic. Old triggers die hard, and even if your new boo hasn’t done anything to give you concern, you might still be holding on to anxiety and hyper-vigilance from your past. Or even worse—you cou...

It’s been a difficult few years (okay, okay, maybe it’s been more than a few years…) and we’re seeing burnout all around us. Getting stuck in a rut isn’t something new, but it’s shitty every time. If you’re in feeling stuck, try not to get too down about it because it’s all just a part of the process. And when you’re ready to crawl out of that hole you’re in, use this episode as a guide to start f...

We got 5-peat guest, Danny Coleman, on the show today! Danny Coleman is Jill’s younger brother and one thing the Colemans do well is great family relationships—even if it hasn’t always been easy. We don’t believe that you have to like your family just because they’re family. Good relationships take effort, whether it’s a romantic partner, best friend, or your parents and siblings. Today, Jill and...

There are tons of terms that get thrown around the internet and it’s hard to know what’s what at times. Today we wanted to chat about victim blaming—when is it really an issue, and when are people just being a little over dramatic? Believe it or not, words have real meanings and you can’t always take them out of context to serve whatever narrative you want. Real victims deserve our compassion, but...

Today’s episode is an interview with a very special guest—Jill’s boyfriend, Keith! When this show started, Danny and Jill were both single and up to the shenanigans that only single women can get up to. So much has changed since then, including long-term relationships for both women. Jill has interviewed Keith for the show before, but it’s been a while and we thought it was time to check back in....

There’s a trend going around on some corners of the internet defining people—usually, defining women—by their Sexual Market Value. Your SMV is defined by things like physique, income, and even the number of people you’ve slept with and to be honest, it’s a load of bullshit. The qualities that make someone attractive are so subjective, and besides, we shouldn’t be basing our worth based on how fuck...

We know you shouldn’t be falling in love with someone’s potential, but is it fair to your partner to push them towards being a better communicator? If you listen to this podcast, chances are you’re interested in personal development, but just because you’re trying to improve yourself doesn’t mean you can force your partner to be interested in the same things. Becoming a better communicator is at t...

Have you ever loved the idea of what someone *could* be, more than the person that they actually are? There’s danger in falling in love with someone’s potential. Some people are happy to be challenged by their partners, but there’s a fine line between challenging them to reach their dreams and setting expectations that your partner can’t reach, or never wanted in the first place. You’ll find a lot...

Are you living out the plot of Groundhog Day—every day you wake up and life is just the same over, and over, and over again? So many people get complacent in their lives and dream of a way out, but without ever making any changes. No doubt about it, life is busy and stressful and it’s hard as hell to get out of the rat race, but if you want something different, you have to DO something different....

We all need to vent about the shitty moments in our lives, but there’s a thin line between venting and complaining. Our partners are often our sounding boards to life’s frustrations, but what do you do when your partner says you’re too negative? How can you tell what the right amount of venting is, or the right time to do it? Your partner should be able to hold space for you, but they’re only huma...

We all know social media is curated and often shows just a highlight reel of everyone’s lives. But we’ve been sharing our lives online for so long that now even the good shit brings haters. Sharing even one happy moment earns a passive aggressive, “Must be nice!” from the peanut gallery. So when good things happen, sometimes we’re hesitant to share! Do we have to earn the right to be happy? And wh...

Nobody wants to date themselves—our partners are different than us, and that’s a great thing! …Well, usually. But sometimes the people we date want different things out of life, and not like major deal breakers, but in the small things, like how we spend money, how much we like to go out to eat, what time to go to bed, and so on. Compromise comes easily at the begging of a relationship, but as tim...

Relationship anxiety is real and happens to the best of us, but at some point it might be worth asking yourself if your insecurities come from within, or if your partner’s behavior is what’s really making you anxious. Inconsistency breeds anxiety and even though we’re all for taking personal responsibility most of the time, it’s just not always your fault! If you’re unsure whether the anxiety is r...

After 2020, so many people had to transition from working in an office to working at home. We’ve been self-employed for a while now so we’ve mastered the art of working from home, but there’s a real learning curve. Without the normal constrictions of an office, there’s no clear time to clock-off. Mixed with the fact that there is always more to be done, you might fall in to the trap of working 24/...

We’ve been hot on setting boundaries for a while now, but it seems like people who aren’t in the personal development space are starting to talk more about them. The problem is, a lot of people get the concept of boundaries a little mixed up. What someone sets as a “boundary” is actually more like just being an asshole. Boundaries aren’t about making people do what you want, they’re about monitori...

When you’ve been coaches for as long as we have, the things we once thought we knew are different now. As we learn more, old modes of thinking and doing things no longer work, and we’re faced with a decision: double down on the things we’ve always done, or change it all and adapt. It’s terrifying when your deeply held beliefs become untrue, but it’s also against our value system to keep teaching t...