The Best Life Podcast

Have we stalked our exes on social media?… We plead the fifth. But hey, it’s completely normal! Almost everyone has a Facebook page at this point, and since it’s so easy, why wouldn’t you stalk an ex? And your exes’ ex. And their ex. And their ex-best friend. And maybe even the ex-best friend’s ex for good measure. As long as it doesn’t take up too much of your brain space, we say, go for it!   Ha...

Are you the type of person that doesn’t know how to be alone? It makes sense, most of us—especially those who are in relationships or with kids—rarely get time alone. Eating, shopping, and even traveling alone can feel daunting when you’ve never done it before! But being alone can be liberating, and we think everyone should try it. Here’s how we’ve come to appreciate the art of being alone.   Jill...

Danny was hit with Covid this past October, and she’s been noticing some pretty severe hair-loss. As much as we know not to define our worth by our physical beauty, it’s fucking hard! And it’s not just Covid, women can lose their hair for a number of reasons and it sucks. Do you have any experience with unexpected hair loss? Let’s chat.   Post-Covid hair loss [3:14] Other stressors that cause fema...

Can you be really strong and still be considered feminine? DUH. Muscles are just that—muscles. They don’t mean you’re “too manly” or “not women enough.” And besides, what does it mean to be feminine anyways? We think it’s all in your energy, its all about owning it.   Holding on to your femininity [1:33] What is the context of wanting to be more feminine? [3:28] Showing up with different energies...

Nobody likes to be dumped on, and yes we mean that in more ways than one. We all know someone who complains just a little too much and it can be draining! And hey, if that person is you, no hard feelings. We just think it might be time to ask yourself why? Venting is great, we all do it… but it isn’t always good for you.   Is stress a choice? [3:00] Physiological reactions [6:18] Are some people a...

Look, it’s 2022 now and there’s no reason men should HAVE to be the bread winners anymore. If that’s your vibe, great! But we want to have some fun and make money too! Unfortunately, it might be a little easier said than done for your male partner to be okay if you bring in more income than he does. Maybe it’s time to sit down together and talk about how he brings in way more value that just his m...

What do you do when your parents still treat you like a teenager? Or when your extended family still treats you like you’ve never changed? Let’s be honest, it’s easy to project the past on to people you don’t often see. You probably do it just as much as it’s done to you. So what’s the solution? No surprises here: communicate, be yourself, and let the chips fall. Maybe your family will surprise yo...

Breaking up with someone is just so much fun!… Said no one. Literally ever. It doesn’t matter how the relationship ends, break ups just suck. Especially when the other person comes back begging, telling you all about their plans to change. Yeah, we’ve all heard that one before. In this episode, we’re chatting all about sticky ends to relationships and how best to end a relationship while remaining...

We’ve had nothing but alone time with our partners for the past two years, and while that meant the possibility for a lot of “alone time” (wink, wink) it also meant a lot of time for things to get stale. Between WFH, limited free time, lack of dates and mystery, no space from your kids, a general weariness about the world, and so many other variables, sex can get tricky. Are you spending this time...

Is dating after divorce as magical as it seems? Yes, obviously. Everything is perfect, all the time. … Jokes aside, dating after our divorces has been anything but “normal.” Divorce and infidelity change you in a lot of ways. Maybe our dating lives were different due to our divorces, or maybe it’s just because we’re a little older and wiser now. While we can’t for sure say one is better or worse t...

Ummm… We don’t have anything to talk about. Maybe it’s just us, but after two years stuck inside with nothing to do and no one to see, we feel just a little bit dumber. This pandemic has been HARD and sometimes the urge strikes to start over with a blank slate. All the uncertainty in the world is difficult, but maybe—just maybe—this is the golden opportunity we’ve been looking for. What do you thi...

Are we in the Era of Karens? There is a phenomenon of social media where everyone thinks everyone else wants to hear their opinions. Self-righteousness is rampant and people are deriving a sense of identity from being “right” all the time. So what do we do about these people that feel entitled to comment on our lives?? (Sorry to all the great women out there named Karen)   The origin of a Karen [2...

2021 is finally over and we could not be more thankful. It was a really shitty year in a lot of ways, no doubt… but that doesn’t mean we aren’t getting our hopes up for 2022! We are so over the struggle, aren’t you? The way we see it, our problems are only as big as we make them… so let’s choose peace this year. Let’s choose a better perspective.   Getting our hopes up again [2:11] No longer glori...

Have you ever been told that you’re “too sensitive”? Are you wondering how to develop some thick skin? To be honest, we don’t think sensitivity is all that bad; your sensitivity might even be your greatest asset. Being sensitive is only a problem if you’re making everything about yourself. Are you taking everything personally, or do you allow for others to have their own experiences?   Ep. 140: Co...

Danny saw a post on Instagram about learning to be okay when you don’t get invited to something, and we wanted to chat a little about it. As humans, we often take things a little too personally, and it can really be exhausting. Let’s be honest: it’s not all about you. Sometimes, it’s just not that serious.   Learn to be okay with not being invited [1:26] Why should I be okay with it? [2:01] Fear o...

As the year comes to a close, there is a lot of messaging to keep going, to push through—to push harder, even. We’d like to offer up another perspective: chill the f*ck out. Jokes aside, we like to use December as a month to reflect on the past year and prepare for the next. Want to perform a 2021 audit? Here’s how we do it.   https://bit.ly/2021audit   Reflecting on the past year [2:21] Nothing c...

Money has the potential to make or break relationships… so when is the right time to start talking about it in your relationship? The way we see it, there’s no rush. There’s a big difference between casual dating and beginning to build a life together. As in anything, clear and honest communication should always be at the forefront.    How soon is too soon to talk about money? [2:06] Casual vs. se...

We had a listener ask the question: should you start a business with a friend? And while this might sound funny coming from us, our answer is a resounding HELL NO! We might seem like the dream team now, but we’ve both had some failed business partnerships in the past that met sticky ends. But if you’re really considering it, there are a few questions you need to ask. Sure, business partnerships ca...

How do you know when the time is right to level up? And when the time is right, how do you get there? Wanting is really easy, but it’s the doing that’s hard. Jill and Danny have felt “ready” to level up many times in their businesses, but it wasn’t until recently that their actions started matching their words. Are you ready?   How Jill decided it was time to up-level [4:25] Wanting is easy, but d...

Danny is in the process of adopting a puppy, and while we aren’t usually over-thinkers, this time feels different. So how do we overcome it? Wether it’s what to eat for dinner or quitting your soul-crushing job, overthinking and indecision hurts. Protecting yourself from making the “wrong” decision isn’t going to prevent any pain. So trust your gut, and trust yourself to handle whatever comes your...

Let’s normalize taking a break. Our society focuses heavily on constant productivity and hustling 24/7 but let’s be honest, it’s just not sustainable! Sometimes your creative well dries up or you just need a little more rest, and that’s normal. If you don’t make time for yourself, the universe might just force it upon you. Soooo… let’s just all take the rest of 2021 off, yeah?   Is it okay to take...

Are you a people-pleaser? Many women are, and unfortunately it seems to be a trait passed down through generations. Maybe your people-pleasing is rooted in good intentions, but we think it’s kind of selfish. If you’re always worried about making everyone else happy, you’re never going to find happiness for yourself. It’s time to take back that power.   Knowing you’re a people-pleaser [3:51] Is peo...

Ever heard of Filter Anxiety? Showing your face without a filter can be down right terrifying—especially for those of us that are getting older. We try to love our own faces but let’s be honest, sometimes we can look and feel like shit, and a filter takes away a little bit of the sting. Is using a filter ethical? Are we obligated to show the world our natural selves? Let’s talk about it.   Filter...

Jill has over a decade of experience running an online business, and she has productivity down to a science. Life is full of distractions, so if you want to master your productivity levels—all while cutting down on stress—you have to get hyper focused on what really matters.   The value of batching [4:40] Understanding your own best creative time [10:43] Your 3 anchor actions [11:45] Mental compar...

Danny J and her good friend Ashly Rae sat down in our Tulum studio to talk about living in alignment with your true self and embodying your core values. We are all born with an innate knowing of who we are. You know, you know, you know. You’ve always known. Ashly thinks its about time we all get back to that.   @todaywithashlyrae Join The Becoming on Facebook   How shitty situations can turn into...