The Best Life Podcast

There’s something so magnetic about a person who shows up authentically. There’s deeper trust built for the people who show off their ups and downs, their strengths and their weaknesses, the good times and the bad. None of us have it “together” all the time, and there’s something unnerving about people who seem too perfect to be true. Real trust and connection is built through showing up authentic...

We’re just a few days out from everyone’s FAVORITE holiday: Valentine’s Day! Okay, obviously we’re joking because we can’t even think of a holiday that’s more polarizing. Hallmark-Holiday or not, it’s a day that carries a lot of meaning for some (maybe even you!) but unless you tell the people around you how it makes you feel, you’ll never get your needs met! Love is what you make of it, and so is...

We’ve all heard of—and experienced—FOMO, but there’s a new acronym we’ve been feeling lately: FOBI, or the fear of being included. Maybe it’s a symptom of aging or being in relationships, but these days we just don’t feel like doing stuff like we used to. Our energy is precious and with the limited time we do have, is going to every party or dinner or event the best idea? Not so much anymore. We’r...

You have Daddy issues. Probably. But don’t sweat it, we all do! Our fathers and mothers are the first two adults that show us how to act and what to expect from life, and most of us subconsciously tend to recreate exactly what we experience in childhood, or at least attempt to find the very opposite of it. We look for what’s familiar and often our partners look exactly like our main caregivers (he...

For modern women (and men, and everyone!) insecurities seem to be a part of life. We pick up insecurities as children and those fears follow us around for decades to come. Unfortunately, these insecurities tend to become competitive: “you can’t feel ugly today because I’m uglier!” “That person has a way flatter ass than you!” Hey, we’re all entitled to feel bad about ourselves at some point, but w...

Even the most confident among us get hit with feelings of inadequacy from time to time. Worry about what the “tribe” thinks about us is in our DNA, but at some point that concern stops being helpful. You deserve to be liked for all that you are, and if the people in your life don’t like that, then fuck those bitches! Kidding, of course, but also not kidding. You truly can’t be liked by every singl...

Our value systems are deeply personal and influence almost everything we do in our lives. We all have core values, whether they’re obvious to us or not. Getting clear on what our values are can help us find direction in work, play, love, and life. It’s often said that you teach people how to treat you, and with a defined set of values, you get to set the tone for your interactions and future choic...

Relationships are tricky, and it’s normal to wonder what life might look like outside of the one you’re in. Things get even stickier when the person you’re with is the only person you’ve ever known. We had a listener bravely share her doubts and confusion surrounding her relationship and her feelings of curiosity about what lies beyond and we wanted to give this more thought. We all only have one...

Everyone knows *that guy.* You know, the guy who comes up to you at parties (or makes comments on your social media) acting like a life coach, and telling you all the ways you’re doing life wrong. Yeah, that guy sucks. Hey we get it, we’re coaches too, and when you see someone doing something and you know there’s a better way, it’s only natural to try to help! But has unsolicited advice worked wel...

Everyone knows buying clothing as a woman is a goddamn zoo. What’s a small one one brand is a large in another, but a 7 in a third, and a 31 in another, and all of a sudden you have no idea what size you are in any brand and you just want to buy some damn pants. Clothing retailers are known to implement “vanity sizing,” aka, labelling clothes as smaller sizes to make the buyer feel better about th...

It seems like everyone is an Insta-Therapist these days. People are looking for diagnoses, taking personality tests, uncovering trauma, and deeply psychoanalyzing themselves… but to what end? Sure, life is really hard sometimes, and sure understanding why you are the way you are can make you feel a lot less alone, but that kind of self-awareness only helps when you decide to make a change for your...

We’ve heard some people claim that the “real” test of a good relationship is one without any fights. Yeah, we’re gonna call BS on that one. If your relationship is fight-free, great! But when you’re building a life with someone, it’s normal to find yourself butting heads. A healthy relationship is less so defined by a lack of fighting, and more by having productive and respectful fights. When you...

New year, new you? New Year's resolutions have a bad rap, but goal and intention setting can be potent tools for growth, as long as they’re used correctly. Some people like to set a word to focus on for the year, others like to list out every little thing they’d like to change about themselves, but we sit somewhere in the middle. Those things are great, but a goal or intention is only as usefu...

Another year older, and fingers crossed, we’re another year wiser. Even if we aren’t fans of resolution setting, we do like to take some time at the end of the year to reflect on all the things we’ve learned over the last 365 days. If you want to make 2023 a better and happier year, it’s important to take stock of all the best and the worst parts of 2022, so you can walk into the new year with a f...

We’re big fans of mentorship here, and we’ve seen the way it has impacted our lives for the better. But hey, just like us, our mentors are people too! That means sometimes we outgrow them, or their practices change, or maybe you just don’t agree on fundamental things anymore. Whatever the case is, you don’t have to write everything off that you learned from them. And hey, sometimes those changes c...

Everything feels more than just a little contentious these days. People fight on the internet and cut off family or friends over the smallest disagreements. If you ask us, it’s just a little immature. Nobody has to like every single thing you do, or have the exact same opinions! Believe it or not, there’s a way to disagree and still be friends—even on “bigger” issues. Even Danny and Jill don’t agr...

To mark the beginning of the holiday season, we are coming at you this week with 4 previously published episodes all about relationships—with the people around us and the food we eat! This time of year can be stressful, and building boundaries requires constant effort, and we hope this refresher course will help you stay on track with YOUR Best Life as we round out 2022. Yes, food is fuel but it i...

To mark the beginning of the holiday season, we are coming at you this week with 4 previously published episodes all about relationships! This time of year can be stressful, and building boundaries requires constant effort, and we hope this refresher course will help you stay on track with YOUR Best Life as we round out 2022. A lot of living the Best Life means having open and honest communication...

Danny-J has a special skill, and it’s one we could stand to learn from. Danny might just be the world’s best listener. No matter who she’s with or where she is, people just seem to end up telling her their life stories (even Uber drivers, true story) and finding deep connection with her. Being a great listener isn’t as intuitive to most people, but better connections can lead to better experiences...

The end of year is a perfect time for reflection, and lately our priorities are shifting. The older we get, the more our goals, priorities, and perspectives change. And it’s not just us, we see it happening all around us every day. Life has many seasons and as you get older, too, you might find yourself craving something a little faster or something a little slower than you’ve had before. Making b...

They say age is just a number, but let’s be honest, it’s an important number, especially when it comes to relationships. There are some age gaps that feel “okay” and some that just seem wrong, but is it all arbitrary? Danny and Jill were the younger partner in their previous relationships, and now they’re on the other side. Age isn’t something to be ignored, but it might be possible that there are...

We love to travel, and by now we’re pretty expert at it. But just because we’ve perfected the art, doesn’t mean the people we sometimes travel with have, and let’s be real here: that shit is stressful. Everyone has a different travel technique, different wants on a vacation, and different ways to handle stress. If you want to travel with a loved one and still love them by the end of the trip, it’l...

Everyone has an opinion on PDA. Maybe you love getting some but hate watching others do it, or maybe you feel too self-conscious to ever think about it! You might even think that couples who practice some “power” PDA are over-compensating for something (and hey, you wouldn’t be alone in thinking that). In our experience, people generally love to see love, but at what point does PDA go from adorabl...

It’s Black Friday which means we’re all inundated with sales of every kind and it got us thinking about all the things we used to spend our money on, but don’t anymore. We spent our 20’s body-obsessed and image focused which meant that most of our money and time was spent on being the skinniest versions of ourselves. We can’t say it was money well spent, but we’re glad there are more important thi...

One of the things we dread the most about the holidays are those intrusive questions and comments we all seem to get: When are you getting married? Have you thought about having kids? It looks like you’ve gained some weight! We know what you really want to tell Aunt Helen is just to fuck right off, but if you’re looking to keep the peace, there’s a better way. Your family may not understand your l...