The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

When it's all said and done, happiness and freedom is what we all ultimately want. But what path should we follow? There are many to choose from. Is it meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else?   In the previous episode, Roy explained that the best path to happiness and freedom must be (1) in your control, (2) availab...

When it's all said and done, happiness and freedom is what we all ultimately want. But what path should we follow? There are many to choose from. Is it meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else? And more importantly, how do know which path is best?   In the first episode of this life-changing 6-part series, Roy, our ho...

Though this is a New Year's Eve episode, it's one that applies to any day of the year because every day offers an opportunity to begin again, to Delete, Repeat and Create .   If you're looking for some pithy wisdom that can help you live your best life today—and every day—don't miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.co...

If you read the Christmas story in the Bible, you'll notice that the events before and after the birth of Christ were met with great fanfare and miracles. Angels appeared and declared amazing things were about to happen, and wise men followed special stars to witness this historic moment.   But in this very short episode, Roy, our host, reminds us that as we visit with family and friends, we shoul...

While we all say, "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays," are they? Are they merry and happy? Well, in this episode, Roy, our host, says that if we pay attention to 3 things, our holiday season will be truly merry and happy.   If you want to enjoy the coming days, don't miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's...

One day—and it's a very alarming day—you realize that the only thing keeping you from having the life (and love life) you want is fear.   You're scared of something, perhaps a few things (we all are), and that's what's holding you back from success, growth, freedom and especially intimacy.   We need to have a frank and honest conversation about fear and how to conquer our respective anchors, for i...

We're all sick of people playing games in the dating scene, but in a sense, everyone is playing a game, meaning, everyone has an M.O., a method of operating.   Getting clear on your Relationship M.O. and mastering it, is a critical issue and it's the topic of this podcast.   In this episode, you will learn that there are only two "dating games," two Relationship M.O.'s, and which game you choose t...

There was a horrible story in the news recently where a father and son were killed by a swarm of "murder hornets" while zip-lining in the country of Laos.   That is tragic, and I don't mean to make light of it when I say your love life is being killed by a bunch of "Killer B's" too.   Those B's are: Blind Spots, Baggage, Beliefs and Barriers. And unless and until you deal with them in your life, y...

You have probably tried just about everything to find your life partner. You've sought the wisdom of the "experts"—watching their videos, reading their books and listening to their podcasts. You've tried a few online dating sites or perhaps hired a matchmaker. You've talked to your friends, to your therapist, even your God.   And… bupkis. Nothing. You're still single.   And it's not because you ne...

What if it is your desire for a relationship that is keeping you from having one? That is such a crazy suggestion, isn't it? But what if it's true? Could it be that hidden within our desire to be in a relationship was an unconscious motivation that was, in fact, sabotaging us and keeping us from a healthy connection? In this episode, I am suggesting that very thing, that we are our own worst enemy...

What do you bring to the table? This is a question being asked on social media, podcasts and nearly everywhere people discuss dating and relationships. And while it's often asked in a judgmental and condemning way, it is a legitimate question.   What makes us a great partner? A "high value" partner?   You'll be glad to know that it's not beauty or bucks, but something much deeper and surprisingly...

Since it's Halloween week, our host, Roy Biancalana, takes a deep dive into some of the destructive relationship costumes we often wear in our pursuit of intimacy. Are we being ourselves or are we playing a role or showing up in some sort of fear-driven persona?   This is part one of a 7-part series where Roy answers the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radi...

In this episode, Roy shares a recording from one of his favorite spiritual teachers, David Deida. Deida is a leading voice in conscious relationships, especially when it comes to masculine/feminine dynamics.   Given the culture wars going on these days around sex and gender, David's message is even more necessary and powerful.   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentione...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the last component of healthy intimacy: Aliveness .   The underlying purpose of a great relations...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the sixth component of healthy intimacy: Appreciation .   In great relationships, appreciation is...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the fifth component of healthy intimacy:  Agreements .   The secret sauce of great relationships...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the fourth component of healthy intimacy: Affection .   One of the signs that a relationship is h...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the third component of healthy intimacy: Authenticity .   One of the hallmarks of a great relatio...

In this special edition of the podcast, Roy Biancalana, our host, shares important information on who actually killed Charlie Kirk. It's not some college kid dressed in black wearing a baseball cap. No, the assasination was done by a far more sinister and scary group of people. Tune into this short, 18-minute episode because the future of your life and our country just might depend on it.

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the second component of healthy intimacy: Acceptance .   In great relationships, the atmosphere i...

Frequently on this podcast, Roy Biancalana, our host, focuses on the beliefs, blind spots, baggage and behaviors that sabotage our ability to attract lasting love. That's because, as the mystic poet Rumi said nearly 800 years ago, "Your task is not to seek love, but instead, to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." So, it's appropriate to talk about the ba...

When Kenny Rogers sang, "You gotta know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em; know when to walk away, know when to run," he was talking about gambling and playing cards. But little did he know that he was also giving some great relationship advice, too!   We all need to know when to hold on to someone and when to let them go, when to walk away from a relationship and when to run. So, in this ep...

In honor of his son's upcoming 31 st birthday, our host, Roy Biancalana, describes his successes and failures as a parent with incredible vulnerability. You'll hear him describe, in great detail, the things he did wrong as a dad, while also celebrating the things he did right.   Whether you are a parent, aspire to be a parent, if you have parents or know a parent, there is something valuable for y...

Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."   You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.   In this episode, the topics discussed are hurt feelings and being offended, therapy and talking about the past and completely misu...

Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."   You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.   In this episode, the topics discussed are social media, science vs spirituality and new age ideas like astrology, numerology, rein...