The Art of Self-Development; Create Your Life with PD

There are specific qualities that make a man desirable to women. That, in fact, can make any man as attractive - if not more - as the most beautiful woman is to a man. And it's not fame, looks or how much the man has on his bank account.

A broken heart is one of the most painful things and stages in life we can experience - no matter how many people will tell us that it will pass or that there are "many other fish in the sea." The true lesson and relief from heartbreak ultimately is not just time. It is the realization of why we couldn't really be with the person we originally fell in love with, what is valuable about the lesson,...

Being strong and dominant (especially in men) is increasingly seen as a decidedly bad, even dangerous quality. Yet, contrary to what many of us would believe, dominance is not aggression - it is a healthy, natural trait that, when used well, can bring out the best in all of us.

We all like to increase the highs and diminish the lows in how we feel, but at times we may feel like the pendulum swings almost too far in both directions. It's okay to feel strong emotions, but sometimes we need to equalize them and find some equilibrium.

Each one of us has core beliefs that we've formed mostly in our childhood that affect everything we do - mostly without us knowing it. These will lead to situations we don't seem to know how to resolve or how we got there. Until, that is, we resolve to dive deep, shine light on our needs and core beliefs, and transform and fulfill them. When we make sure we truly take care of ourselves first, we c...

We often think we remember events exactly the way they happened, but that is not true. We generally only recall a tiny slice of our past, tailored by our unconscious mind to help us move towards something or away from something. This served us when were younger, especially to avoid danger, but now the ability to change your perception of what happened in your past - and focus on what is the most u...

Happiness is not just positivity or blind optimism. True happiness comes from openness to experience and the ability to work with whatever life brings you. Openness and flexibility are two skills, two character traits you can develop, that will always help you get there.

Personal boundaries work just like boundaries between countries. If they are weak and porous they let in what you don't want. If they are too strong, nothing gets in or out. The healthiest boundaries are strong, but at the same time flexible, like a gate that can open and close when needed.

Almost all of us fight in relationships, and we generally don't like it. Many of us try to avoid fights as long as we can, until the fight becomes big, scary and unavoidable. But what if there is another way, what if fight can be raised to an art? One that can make sure we put the relationship above ourselves, and we both get a relationship that's so great, so mature, and in effect so amazing we d...

Like with anything else that you do, you can make getting out of your comfort zone a habit. When you do this one thing that most people never will, everything else becomes easy.

Who would fear love? Turns out most of us do and this causes us to have trouble really connecting - and this brings all kinds of problems. Transforming this deep fear can lead to elevating intimate relationships in amazing ways and living a much more fulfilling life.

Rejection by someone you love can feel like a little death, especially if it only happens rarely and it's out of the blue. Massive, expected rejection, however, can be the best way to learn what your weaknesses are, how to deal with them, and ultimately how to grow beyond your limitations into what you have never thought possible.

Most of us have never properly learned the skill of leaving a commitment that no longer serves us. Sometimes it happens when we weren't able to say no when we should have done so in the past, or when the situation changed - or when the commitment no longer benefits us or the other party. In these cases, the time comes for leaving the commitment in a way that doesn't hurt us or the person we made a...

Sexual communication is one of the deepest layers of communication we have. One that is not taught at school but is the foundation for getting in touch with who we truly are, for relating to our loved ones, and ultimately to achieve some of our deepest and most intimate dreams.

Most of the time we take things at face value. We do the things we've always done and see things we've always seen. That's because we are hard-wired to unconsciously look for evidence for beliefs we've formed when we were younger and less experienced. Yet, with a new way of looking at the world we can see beyond the veneer. We can use our new experience to communicate with people better, to explor...

Emotional Strength comes from knowing yourself - from being familiar with your past and your emotions - and from being able to use your emotions to support you. It is a skill that teaches you to be able to use the power of your mind to lead you to your goals so firmly you almost don't have any chance to miss them.

Unhealed past traumas are a treasure trove of learning and growth that put our self-development into higher gear, and almost (or sometimes literally) make the trauma worth the trouble.

Do you know exactly what you want for yourself and for your relationships? Do you know what you stand for and what your values are? Are you comfortable saying "no" and hearing "no"? Are you committed to you and your partner becoming your best selves, both together and apart?  In other words, do you have good relationship boundaries? This is one of those episodes that go deeper and require more sou...

There are two kinds of motivation. There is one you supply from the outside and that is finite; hard to get, and ultimately disappointing. There is another, intrinsic, motivation – this is your inner drive that you generate for yourself, that you are in charge of, that draws people to you like a moth to a flame, and that fulfills you more than anything else.

Sometimes we all feel like we want to be all alone, or like we are not strong enough to handle specific social situations. The cure is in building superior social skills and in taking more charge in our personal and social lives. With a little bit of practice we can improve the way we interact with people so that together we can all get what is best for us.

Often times when we are alone (and even when we're not), we feel other people are the key to our happiness and satisfaction. While there is a great deal to be said about the importance of social relationships, the key often is to make sure we meet people where we want to be.

We commonly distinguish between life and work; work and free time. But there is another, more meaningful distinction. Think of your life in terms of the activities that energize you, and those that take your energy away. The more you embrace the activities that you find meaningful and energizing, and minimize (or transform) the others, the more your life will take off and reach new heights.

Decisions are the building blocks of success. They create the day to day of our lives and significantly contribute to who we become at the end of the day. The most insidious decisions - and the most critical ones - are those that we make every day, oftentimes without giving them a proper thought.

Most of us don't like conflict and we routinely try to avoid it, preferring to be right rather than to see the other one's perspective. Sometimes we do it so much we allow whatever differences we have - with our partners and spouses, our compatriots and other countries - to fester so long that we are making actual resolution (or growth) nearly impossible. True conflict resolution calls for strengt...

Perspective is everything. It makes the difference between a scared child hiding in the corner and the most courageous leader fighting for a cause greater than himself; between a narcissist and a visionary. Get a perspective to see more of what is out there, what can be achieved and what makes every life meaningful.