The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

I used to believe that if I couldn’t do something perfectly, it wasn’t worth doing at all. That belief didn’t just show up in my goals—it showed up in my parenting, my marriage, my mindset, and my relationship with myself. In this episode, I unpack the all-or-nothing trap—a pattern that so many moms of teens fall into without even realizing it. This mindset shows up when we think we’re either amaz...

I didn’t think I struggled with comparison—until I realized how often I measured my parenting, my kids, and even my worth against what I saw in other moms. In this episode, we dive into the comparison trap, one of the most emotionally draining mindsets for moms parenting teens and preparing for the empty nest. Comparison doesn’t always look like jealousy. Sometimes it sounds like “Why is her teen...

As a mom navigating the complexities of parenting teens, it’s easy to fall into the habit of looking to our kids for emotional validation, approval, and a sense of self-worth. But when our kids start pulling away, asserting independence, or heading off to college, we can feel unmoored—like our gravitational center has disappeared. In this conversation, I unpack how seeking validation from our teen...

I used to think I was just being prepared. But what I’ve come to realize is that I was stuck in a mindset trap: catastrophizing —constantly imagining the worst-case scenario and calling it “planning.” In this episode, I dive into how this pattern shows up for moms of teens and college kids, and why it’s so emotionally exhausting. Whether you’re parenting through high school drama, college applicat...

In this episode, I open up about the powerful and often invisible mindset trap of confirmation bias, and how it can deeply impact our parenting experience, especially during the teen years and as we approach the empty nest. I share vulnerable moments from my own journey — the emotional rollercoaster of college move-in, the bittersweet tension of letting go, and a personal story about curfews and f...

When I first heard the statistic that we spend 90% of our time with our kids by the time they turn 18, my heart sank. That number hit me like a wave of regret, especially now that my son is officially an adult. Suddenly, all the ordinary moments—driving, cleaning, working—felt like missed chances for something more. And when one of my sons casually said, “We never really did anything as a family,”...

If success as a mom isn’t about perfect grades, college acceptances, or constant hugs and thank-yous, then what is it really about? In this episode, I dig deep into the emotional and mindset shift so many of us face as we move through parenting teens and into the empty nest years. I share personal stories—of gummy baby smiles, late-night curfews, and running out of gas—as I reflect on the expectat...

I was honored to have author, influencer, connector and founder of Moms of Bigs, Esther Joy Goetz join me to talk about the lifelong journey of being a mom and how to create a lifelong connection with your children. Esther's motte is to "give our BIG KIDS (teens and young adults) the roots of love and the wings of freedom to be completely themselves." In our conversation, we explored how to do thi...

This episode came to life during a family vacation—what should’ve been a chance to unwind but turned into a mirror reflecting how hard I still am on myself, even in rest. As my oldest prepares to head off to college, I found myself tangled in a familiar trap: the belief that if everyone isn’t perfectly happy, I’ve somehow failed as a mom. In this conversation, I open up about the internal pressure...

College drop-off is coming, and the countdown has begun. Whether you're sending your first or your last off to school, this episode is about the tidal wave of emotions that comes with this milestone moment in motherhood. For me, it’s a mix of pride, grief, excitement, and anxiety—all tangled up in the space between what’s ending and what’s beginning. In this episode, I talk about what it means to...

Join me for a sneak peak into one of Small Jar's recent Group Coaching Workshops, where we explore the topic of relationships, particularly the dream relationship we want with our teenager. In coaching, almost any topic we explore often comes down to relationships...those we have with others, and also the one we have with ourselves. In this episode, I have omitted the individual coaching to respec...

I used to believe that if I could just change my thoughts, I’d feel better—less anxious, more calm, more in control. But when life as a mom of teens started to feel like a constant emotional roller coaster, I realized: positive thinking alone wasn’t enough. In this episode, I explore the real power of mindset—not as a quick fix, but as a tool to help us stop overthinking, release mom guilt, and cr...

This episode came from a quiet moment on a family trip—my first without my boys. As I walked onto the ferry alone, I felt the full weight of what it means to be a mom in the teen and empty nest years. The emotional space once filled with cuddles and chaos is quieter now. And while I cherish the independence my kids are building, I’m also discovering what it means to be truly alone—with my thoughts...

What do I really want as a mom? That question sounds simple, but it goes deep. I used to think that if I worked hard enough, tried my best, and followed the rules, I'd raise happy, successful kids and feel fulfilled in motherhood. But the truth is—when my teens struggled, so did I. Their happiness felt like the only measure of my success, and when they were angry, distant, or anxious, I felt power...

As my boys became more independent—first with driver’s licenses, then with dorm move-ins—I began to feel it: the empty spaces in our routine, in the house, and in myself. It wasn’t just the empty nest I was bracing for; it was the quiet erosion of the identity I’d built over years of motherhood. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to redefine your purpose as a mom of teens and young...

Resentment is one of those emotions we don’t talk about—but most of us moms are carrying it. In this episode, I share how my own emotional habits—like reaching for wine or snacks to take the edge off—have been tied to deeper, uncomfortable feelings I’ve been avoiding. Especially resentment. I open up about what it feels like to do everything for everyone, often without acknowledgment, and the sham...

When your teen or young adult returns home—whether for the summer, after graduation, or because life didn’t go as planned—it’s a mix of joy, tension, and everything in between. I created this episode for the moms who are navigating this tricky transition, where parenting shifts from daily control to emotional guidance, and boundaries feel harder than ever to define. You might be thrilled to have y...

You’re not alone if it feels like your teen won’t listen to anything you say. I’ve been there—and so have most of the moms I coach. In this episode, I unpack why our usual parenting strategies often fail, even when we have the best intentions. It's not just about finding the right words; it's about the mindset we bring to these tough conversations. We talk about: Why communication breakdowns with...

Graduation isn’t just a milestone for our kids—it’s a turning point for us as moms. In this deeply personal episode, I share what it feels like to stand on the brink of my son’s high school graduation and all the emotions that come with it—nostalgia, fear, regret, and love. Letting go of our teens as they step into adulthood is filled with uncertainty. We question if we did enough, if they’re read...

Everyone is WORTHY. Period. Everyone is valuable. Period. And everyone deserves to have support when they need it. The people we love mean well, but they have their own opinions about what we should do. Sometimes what we need is an unbiased, listening ear, who can help us see the truth inside ourselves that we can't see. In this episode, I explore the ways life coaching and therapy can help us fin...

Mother's Day is fraught with the potential for disappointed expectations. So in this episode I explore how we can guarantee all of our dreams come true...that we feel love, appreciation, and respect. To do this, I write a letter to my 25-year-old self, and learn that many of the things I would tell her, I needed to hear myself. There are a few other letters I'd love to send and receive, so I've sh...

We often think we have a hard time setting boundaries because other people don't follow them. But boundaries are not rules. In fact, boundaries have much more to do with us than with anyone else. In this episode we explore how to set boundaries with our teens, others in our lives, and even more powerfully, with and for ourselves. 🎯  Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next...

Any long-term partnership, particularly ones that involves co-parenting children, experiences better and worse, probably richer and poorer, and most definitely sickness and health. We've been through a lot in the past 20+ years with our partners, but statistically that doesn't mean we're safe from divorce. So in this episode, I explore the root cause of why we can find we're drifting apart, and ho...

There are so many reasons why the college process is hard for our kids….and, if we're honest...for us as parents. The time we have left with our kids at home is short. How do you want to show up for your child, and yourself, through this process without letting go of your hopes and dreams for them or your sense of responsibility as a parent to do everything you can to support them? 🎯  W...

Bullies are everywhere.  Bullies we don't know. Bullies we know...even that we love. And possibly worst of all...the bully we are to ourselves. We will never be able to change all of the bullies in the world, but you NEVER have to let yourself be bullied again.  🎯  Want to take this work deeper? Save your seat for the next free masterclass—click here to sign up: https://www.thesmal...