The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

One thing I love about being a mom is that I get to believe my in boys' potential, even when they can't see it. In fact, I am so fiercely dedicated to my belief in their potential, that there is nothing that can convince me they don't deserve all of the happiness and success their hearts can hold. But with ourselves, we're pretty quick to give up on our own potential. Or we wait for evidence to he...

As moms, we have really good advice. We want the best for our kids and we have a lot of experience in life that our kids don't have. But what's interesting is that the advice we give our kids is often the very same advice we need to hear ourselves. But how often do we actually take our own advice? In this episode, I share my personal experiences and examples from my coaching practice to help you s...

As a mom entering your child’s senior year of high school, you feel deeply the weight of the change to come. With each micro-goodbye, each "last", you feel closer to that time when you will have to say goodbye to your child. I've been down this road before with my older son, and as I approach my baby's senior year, I thought I would share the intentions I am going into this year with to be sure th...

It's an emotional rollercoaster, this business of raising and launching teens. There are so many beautiful highs, but the lows are rough. We've been supporting our kids, helping them be safe, happy and successful, for so long, it's instinctual at this point. In fact, caring for our kids is as important to us as our own survival. So often we think of our emotions as being caused by people or situat...

Some of us dread the empty nest...others of us embrace it. No matter your perspective about that moment when your last child leaves home, us moms actually start the process of letting go much earlier. As soon as our kids hit puberty, we start to have to grapple with the reality that we can no longer have control over their safety, happiness or success. And in truth, balancing our at times conflict...

"Stay positive!" "You just need to learn to let go." "Find new purpose." "Learn pickleball!"  It's not that this advice isn't well-meaning...the problem is that this advice doesn't address the root cause of the problem you're facing. Namely, that the transition when your kid goes to college can be really hard. We'd love to believe everything will be fine. Our kids have been telling us to...

When I was in the thick of figuring out what was next — after the teen chaos settled and the empty nest crept closer — everyone had advice: “Try pickleball,” “Start volunteering,” “Find a new hobby.” And while those things are great, they didn’t touch the ache underneath. What I really wanted was to feel alive, connected, at peace in my own skin. In this episode, I’m sharing why chasing activities...

Life is messy.  Life with teens, riding the roller coaster of emotions as they grow up...for us moms, it's particularly messy. Learning how to redefine ourselves as we approach the next chapter...messy. We often tell ourselves that "it doesn't have to be perfect". But how often are you satisfied with "imperfect."  In this episode, I share the four lessons I was reminded of as I tackled m...

I used to think I had to work harder, be better, or wait until life calmed down to become the version of myself I really wanted to be. But what if she’s already in me? In this episode, I’m getting honest about the mindset that keeps so many moms stuck—especially in the teen years and the slow shift toward the empty nest. I’ll show you how to stop overthinking, let go of the pressure to fix yoursel...

I never knew raising teens would feel like this. The anxiety. The loneliness. The fear that I’m doing too much—or not enough. In this episode, I’m sharing the emotional truth so many moms carry but rarely speak aloud: when your teen starts pulling away, making risky choices, or shutting you out, it can feel like your world is unraveling. You love them more than life itself, and yet you feel powerl...

If you're the kind of mom who always wants to guide, support, and cheer your teen on — this episode is for you. I’m talking about the Mentor Mom Archetype , the mom who shows up like a coach on the sidelines, rooting for her child’s success with everything she’s got. But what happens when your teen stops listening... or starts pulling away? In this episode, I explore the mindset traps mentor moms...

I used to think that if my kids were safe, happy, and doing well, then I was doing motherhood right. But no one prepared me for what happens when they grow up, pull away, or stop needing me the same way. In this episode, I’m exploring the Nurturer Mom Archetype—the version of us that leads with unconditional love, empathy, and a fierce commitment to our teens. But when our kids become more indepen...

Doing, striving, fixing—it’s how the Achiever Mom shows love. There’s pride in being the mom who shows up, who gets it done, who never stops reaching for what’s best. But when your teen starts making their own choices, that instinct to push and manage can start to feel like pressure—for both of you. In this episode, I’m unpacking the Achiever Archetype and what it means to parent from a mindset of...

There comes a moment in every mom’s life—usually somewhere between the chaos of the teen years and the quiet of the empty nest—when you realize you’ve been so focused on keeping your kids safe, happy, and successful that you’ve lost sight of yourself. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why this podcast exists, how I got here as a coach and mom, and what it really means to trust...

Is it just me, or do we moms bear the brunt of the responsibility for the end of year celebrations and our kids' transition to summer? Your kid might be taking final exams and you're supporting them through that stress. Your child could have just graduated, and you've planned countless celebrations, hosted family, and attended endless "lasts".  Or maybe your college kid is back...

Being the mom who sees every risk, anticipates every need, and quietly absorbs the worry feels like love—until it starts to feel like fear. The Guardian Mom wants nothing more than to keep her teen safe, but in the season of letting go, that fierce protection can become emotional exhaustion. In this episode, I explore how the drive to protect can turn into anxiety, why we carry it so silently, and...

We spend so much time worrying we’re not doing enough—overthinking our parenting, second-guessing our instincts, and comparing ourselves to other moms who seem to have it all together. But what if the way you love, lead, and show up is already powerful… even when it doesn’t feel like it? In this episode, I introduce four core Mom Archetypes—the Guardian, Achiever, Nurturer, and Mentor—and explain...

Motherhood has taught me a thousand lessons—but none more important than how to love without conditions. This episode is personal. I open up about what it felt like to bring my son home after his first year of college, the joy and pain of watching him grow, and the hard-earned truths I’ve learned about parenting, expectations, and letting go. You’ll hear how the idea of unconditional love has take...

Regret has a way of creeping in when we least expect it—especially in motherhood. Sometimes it sounds like, “I should’ve done more,” or “Why did I let that happen?” Whether it’s about parenting choices, missed moments, or how we’ve cared for ourselves along the way, the weight of guilt and regret can be heavy—and it can keep us stuck. In this episode, I break down the difference between regret and...

It’s easy to feel like life is happening to us—especially in this season of raising teens and preparing for the empty nest. We care so deeply that we absorb all the worry, guilt, and stress, and then wonder why we’re constantly overwhelmed. In this episode, I explain what it really means to have a “managed mindset” and how it can transform your experience of motherhood. This isn’t about toxic posi...

Judging ourselves is second nature—we question our parenting, criticize our choices, and even feel guilty for just having negative thoughts. But that judgment doesn’t stop with us. It shows up in how we see our teens, our relationships, and the world around us. In this episode, I’m unpacking the Judgment Mindset Trap and the four ways it plays out: mind reading, labeling, overgeneralization, and e...

Sometimes I don’t even realize I’m doing it—comparing myself, needing reassurance, wondering if I’ve done enough, or if my teen thinks I’m a good mom. But when my self-worth depends on their approval—or anyone else’s—it leaves me anxious, reactive, and disconnected from who I really am. In this episode, I dive into the validation-seeking mindset and the four traps that go with it: perfectionism, c...

There are days when motherhood feels like too much—when the weight of worry, responsibility, and overthinking leaves me anxious and exhausted. I created the L.O.V.E. Technique because I needed a way to step off that emotional rollercoaster and reclaim some peace. In this episode, I walk you through the four-part process I use with my clients (and myself!) to shift from overwhelm to clarity: Learn,...

Fixing things used to feel like love—jumping in to help, offering advice, smoothing the path so my teen wouldn’t struggle. But eventually, I realized all that fixing was costing me more than I thought. It left me anxious, overwhelmed, and disconnected—from myself and my teen. In this episode, I break down the Fix-It Mindset and why it’s so common for moms who care deeply. You’ll learn how this pat...

Worry has always felt like part of motherhood—like proof that I care deeply and want to protect my teen. But over time, I started to see how that worry wasn’t keeping anyone safe; it was just keeping me stuck in overthinking and anxiety. In this episode, I dive into what I call the Worry Mindset: the mental patterns that drive our fear of the unknown, the urge to control, and the inability to let...