The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

Change is uncomfortable. And if you’re parenting a teen or standing on the edge of the empty nest, you may be feeling that discomfort more than ever. In this episode, I’m talking about why change feels so hard—even when it’s the change we want—why so many of us try to avoid that discomfort by staying busy, fixing, or just avoiding our pain, and what it actually looks like to sit with that discomfo...

“I don’t know what I want anymore.” If you’re parenting teens, launching a child into adulthood, or standing on the edge of the empty nest, this thought might feel painfully familiar. It begins to show up in the space that opens as your kids need you less—and event more when the structure of motherhood shifts and you’re left wondering what’s next for you . In this episode, I’m talking about why so...

Have you ever looked at your child’s life and wondered, what if they never figure it out? I hear moms use the phrase “my kid is failing to launch” all the time, and I know how much fear is in those words. Because this isn’t really about timelines or independence—it’s about the anxiety that creeps in when your kid seems stuck, and how quickly that fear starts to feel personal. And even if your chil...

I used to think this feeling would go away with time. That eventually I’d be used to the goodbyes, the quiet, the shifting rhythm of motherhood. But whether your child is heading off to college, spending more time behind a closed bedroom door, or simply growing into their own independence, you can feel the ache that comes with realizing something is changing.  In this episode, I talk about th...

Have you ever felt that panic that if you don't stay on top of things with your big kid, that something might go terribly wrong? You feel that urge to say the right thing, to remind them one more time, or to give them advice they didn't ask for. This urge doesn't come from wanting to control your kid. It comes from love, especially when life becomes so uncertain as your kids grow up. Today, I'm co...

If you find yourself thinking, “Nothing changed this year,”  I hear you. And I've been there. So many of us moms reach the end of the year still feeling anxious, triggered, or unsure, and assume that means we haven’t grown. In this episode, I talk about why that thought feels so true—and why it often misses what really matters. As our kids grow, the challenges don’t go away; they change....

Have you ever stopped to recognize how much strength it’s taken to be the mom you are today? If you’re parenting teens or standing on the edge of the empty nest, this season of motherhood can feel like a constant balancing act between holding on and letting go—of your kids, your role, and the version of yourself you used to be. In this episode, I’m not talking about resolutions or fixing yourself....

I’m already disappointed by the holidays. If you’ve ever had that thought—even before the holiday is over—this episode is for you. The holidays are supposed to feel joyful and connected, and yet, for so many moms of teens and adult kids, this season brings a quiet mix of love, overwhelm, frustration, and disappointment that no one really talks about. You can adore your family and still feel exhaus...

As the holidays approach, parenting teens and adult kids can bring up for us a wish for more ease, more connection, and a way to let go without feeling like you’re losing yourself or your relationship with your kids. In this episode, I share three powerful gifts you can give yourself that will change how you experience this stage of motherhood. We’ll explore what it means to stop taking responsibi...

I’m worried my teen will ruin the holiday for me. Even saying that out loud feels uncomfortable. But if you’re parenting teens or adult kids, you’ve probably had some version of this thought at one point or another. The holidays can magnify distance, tension, and unmet expectations, leaving us bracing for moods instead of enjoying the moments we hoped would feel meaningful. In this episode, I expl...

What if the reason you feel so anxious, frustrated, or exhausted isn’t because your teen is struggling—but because you’re fighting reality every single day? In this episode, I’m breaking down what radical acceptance actually means when you’re parenting teens or moving through the empty nest. Not acceptance as giving up. Not acceptance as lowering your expectations. But acceptance as a skill that a...

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As moms, we hit so many moments where our big kids put themselves out there. We find ourselves holding our breath, hoping it all works out...and also really worried about what will happen if it doesn't.  In this episode, I share three powerful lessons I learned during the college process with my sons, and how those lessons apply far beyond college admissions—to job interviews, tryouts, auditi...

Have you ever thought, “I’m not proud of my teen?”  It feels terrible, doesn't it?  And yet, so often as mom parenting teens and big kids, we have real fears about who our child is becoming and what their choices mean for their future. In this episode, I'm sharing the many different situations moms share with me — the academic struggles, the social worries, the attitude shifts, the...

Have you ever heard another mom talk about her teen’s success and instantly felt that little drop in your stomach—like you missed something or should be doing more? If so, you’re not alone. This next episode of the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series digs into why comparison is such a natural instinct for us moms. Comparison feels like you’re just observing the world…bu...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I love the holidays… and I kind of hate them?” If you're parenting teens or an empty nester, this tension is so normal — we crave connection and magic, but we’re overloaded with pressure and the emotional labor we’ve been conditioned to carry. In this episode, I’m breaking down why we feel responsible for everyone’s happiness, why that creates resentment an...

As a mom, do you ever feel caught between wishing things were easier and worrying they may never change? So many of us live in the “it’ll be better when…” mindset — with our teens, our young adults, our relationships, even with ourselves. But that constant battle with reality only creates more exhaustion and anxiety. In this episode, I’m sharing the key to finding peace even when life feels messy...

Have you ever had that moment where you catch yourself thinking, “My kid doesn’t appreciate anything I do,” and immediately feel a little sick about it? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about why that lack of appreciation feels so painful. Not because we want praise or a gold star, but because we’re doing so much behind the scenes—planning, worrying, cooking, checking in, rearranging our own...

Have you ever noticed how different parenting teens can feel depending on how much they share with you? Some days, your teen tells you everything — every thought, worry, and drama — and it’s a lot! Other times, you get silence, and that brings up a whole different kind of discomfort. In this episode, I’m talking about both sides — the moms who long for more conversation and the ones who somet...

Have you ever had your teen look at you like you’re the problem ? It feels like a gut punch, specially when you know in your heart you’ve been doing everything you can to love and support your big kid. In this episode, I share a story from my own life about what it feels like when your big kid blames you and how to move through that pain without losing yourself in it. We’ll talk about why this sta...

Have you ever noticed how motherhood can make everything feel high stakes? One minute you’re calm and connected to your teen, and the next, you’re spiraling into worry, certain that everything is going south. That’s the All or Nothing Trap, and if you’ve ever found yourself stuck there, you’re not alone. As moms of teens and almost empty nesters, we’re navigating a season of constant change — wher...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even like the person I’ve become”? It’s one of those thoughts that hits you right in the gut. You love your kids. You’re doing your best to hold it all together. And yet, somewhere in the process of raising and launching your big kid, you don’t quite recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, I’m diving into what’s really underneath that thou...

Parenting teens through the college process can stir up a mix of pride, fear, and anxiety that no one really prepares us for. Whether you’re deep in the application season or already adjusting to the empty nest, this stage of motherhood is full of moments that test our ability to let go. In this episode, I’m sharing what I wish I’d known before my boys went through the college process—the truths t...

Ever feel like your teen just doesn’t care about the boundaries you’ve set? You’ve tried being calm, clear, consistent — and still, nothing changes. You end up frustrated, questioning your parenting, and wondering if you’ll ever stop overthinking this stage of motherhood. In this episode of The Almost Empty Nest Podcast , I share what’s really going on beneath the thought, “My kid doesn’t respect...

Have you ever noticed how motherhood can feel like one long emotional rollercoaster? One moment you feel calm and connected, and the next you’re anxious, frustrated, or doubting yourself. That constant up-and-down isn’t just part of the job — it’s one of the hidden mindset traps that keeps so many moms stuck in worry and self-doubt as their kids grow up. In this episode, I’m relaunching my Mindset...