The Aggressive Life with Brian Tome

Lone wolves are sicker, weaker, and die earlier than wolves in a pack. While loneliness continues to climb, the aggressive take action against it. Pastor and author, Alli Patterson, returns to The Aggressive Life to unpack her newest book: Blueprint for Belonging . She walks through the five types of friendships everyone needs, where to find them, and how to grow each one. In a world built to keep...

Dave and Ann Wilson have been helping others create the marriages they actually want for three decades—but their marriage wasn’t always one worth emulating. On their 10th wedding anniversary, Ann admitted that she had lost her feelings for Dave, taking him completely by surprise. Instead of arguing or fighting back, Dave took that moment to apologize and repent, and a new chapter for the Wisons be...

Mark Williams is one of the masterminds behind some of the best TV and movies of the past decade. He was a writer and producer for Netflix’s smash Ozark . He produced Ben Affleck’s action films The Accountant and The Accountant 2 . He’s done movies with Liam Neeson, Alfie Allen, and Jon Bernthal. But his next big swing just might be the most aggressive of his career. In this conversation, Mark tak...

When Ron Razete launched Peace, Love and Little Donuts, it was an incredible risk. After multiple failures in the entrepreneurial space, Ron and his wife, Marci, had their backs against the wall. With nowhere else to turn, she sold her car to finance the venture, and the couple opened their first brick and mortar store in Pittsburg. 15 years later, that risk has more than paid off, expanding to 30...

Studies are clear: screens dominate our waking hours. It’s not uncommon to spend 7-10 hours in front of one, every single day. We don’t like it, but feel powerless to change it. That’s where Darren Whitehead comes in. A pastor, and author of “The Digital Fast,” Darren leads others to experience the power and life change he discovered through intentional disconnection. In a hyperconnected world, a...

The phrase “how to be a better husband” is Googled nearly 2x as much as “how to be a better wife.” Why is that? And how do you know if you’ve found a good answer? With nearly 40 years of experience, BT gives his perspective on that question. To be a better husband, he believes it involves seeing your marriage as a team, spending your energy toward it, having a plan, and making space for fun togeth...

Does prophecy still happen today? Paul Maconochie thinks so, and that God is speaking to anyone willing to listen. Alongside BT, Paul unpacks the ways he hears from God, the risk it takes to share with others, and how we can learn to do the same. This aggressive conversation will push you out of your comfort zone and into a better place—because the more you risk, the more you grow. Watch the full...

Running has been in Dan Rebella’s blood for years, so when the ultimate challenge presented itself, he didn’t blink. In late 2024, Dan signed up for the inaugural running of The Great World Race—7 full marathons, on all 7 continents, in only 7 days. From the first race, in Antarctica, to the final in Miami Beach, Dan pushed himself to the utter limit, and came out the other side stronger. No matte...

Culture is constantly selling us something. Michael Easter thinks it's time we stop buying. The best-selling author of The Comfort Crisis and Scarcity Brain returns to the podcast to help us push back against the craving and consumerism that keep us in shackles. From understanding how slot machines keep you hooked, to the power of community, to why discomfort is always the path to a better life, t...

John Hope Bryant is a successful entrepreneur, author, and financial guru who believes financial literacy—understanding how to make, save, and spend money—is the civil rights issue of our era. And he’s doing something about it. He’s written best-sellers, advised presidents, and helped influence policymakers. But his most enduring work is as the CEO of Operation Hope, where John is helping teach fi...

Before we get too far into the New Year, it’s time for a Q&A episode. BT shares his thoughts on sports betting, how Santa Claus is like God, leading your family through deconstruction, and more. Before that, BT shares some big news coming for the podcast in 2025. The aggressive keep changing and adapting, and that includes us.  Leave a rating and written review, get a free Aggressive Life stic...

The first time Tara Dower got on the Appalachian Trail, she only lasted a handful of days before anxiety and mental health forced her to abandon her goal of through-hiking the 2,000 mile footpath. But she didn’t give up. In 2024, Tara got back on the A.T. with the goal of claiming the FKT—fastest known time. When she reached the finish line in only 40 days, she became the fastest human ever to cov...

If you’re going to have a spiritually potent life, you have to learn how to hear from God. In this 1 Question deep-dive, BT shares his method for hearing from God: a daily repetition of scripture, prayer, and making space to listen. It takes persistence and perseverance, but when you learn how to hear from God for yourself, your aggressive life will hit new strides.  - Create your own custom Bible...

Earlier this fall, BT got to check off a bucket list item—appearing as a guest on The Art of Manliness podcast, one of the first, and most successful, podcasts aimed at a male audience. With over a 1,000 episodes under his belt, host Brett McKay has carved out a space that encourages, challenges, and helps men rise. In conversation with Brian, the pairs discuss what makes a man, the long haul of e...

Michael Gabbard—better known as Gabby Claus—has built a life out of serving others. From his time as a paramedic, to a firefighter, to a city council member and beyond, Gabby unexpectedly found his favorite role behind a big white beard and red suit. In his 13th year as Santa, Gabby Claus has a simple mission: bring Christmas smiles to everyone he meets. From city parks to home visits, pictures in...

For years, Brian has staked his claim that Die Hard is a Christmas movie. Now, he has stage time to explain why. As part of a weekend teaching series, “Christmas at the Movies,” Brian shares how Die Hard contains echoes of that original night in Bethlehem—from unideal family situations, to a hero that fights for his beloved. Recorded live at Crossroads Church in Cincinnati, Die Hard becomes a mess...

Die Hard is a cultural phenomenon. The one liners. The action. The relatable hero. And the debate that comes around every single year: is Die Hard a Christmas movie? Brian sits down with former Hollywood movie developer, Elizabeth Lane, to get a rare peek behind the curtain on the beloved film. Part of the team that helped move Die Hard from flailing script to action classic, Elizabeth reflects on...

Fresh off six of the most intense, and important, weeks of his career, Brian sits down for a conversation around the 10X Push. With nearly all of his peers winding down their careers, Brian is making the aggressive move to ramp up. Leading yourself, and others, through an intense journey that culminates in a 3-year financial commitment isn’t something to be taken lightly—but it just might be the t...

For the past week, Brian has been sharing the first five entries from his newest book, The Five Marks of a Man Devotional: 60 Days to a Powerful Life . Written to encourage and empower men toward lives of aggressive and courageous manhood, it is a perfect guide for men of all ages. On this final day, Brian sets his sights on Mark 5: Men Are Protectors … and that means having a strong offense and d...

To coincide with the release of his new book, The Five Marks of a Man Devotional: 60 Days to a Powerful Life, Brian is sharing the first week of entries with his podcast. Written in a straight-forward, action-oriented way, this devotional is perfect for any man looking to further develop lives of meaning, impact, and influence. Today, Brian dives into Mark 4: Men Work … instead of expecting life o...

To celebrate the release of his newest book, The Five Marks of a Man Devotional: 60 Days to a Powerful Life , Brian is sharing the first five entries on the podcast. Designed with men of all ages in mind, the 60-day devotional is a masterclass in developing courageous manhood by putting it into practice, day-after-day-after-day.  Today, Brian looks at Mark 3: Men Are Team Players … and that means,...

This week, Brian is sharing the first five entries from his brand new book, The Five Marks of a Man Devotional: 60 Days to a Powerful Life . The final book in The Five Marks of a Man trilogy, the 60-day devotional is a powerful guide to practicing courageous manhood until it becomes second nature.  Today, Brian dives into Mark 2: Men Take Minority Positions … even when they are small. If you like...

Brian’s new book, The Five Marks of a Man Devotional: 60 Days to a Powerful Life is live today! Born from years of study and practice, this book is designed to help men of all ages, from 13 to 103, develop lives of courageous manhood. How? By putting the marks into action until they become second nature.  For the next five days, Brian will be sharing entries from the new book. If you like what you...

Just days away from Thanksgiving, BT picks up the phone for a new Aggressive Life tradition—making gratitude phone calls. From his wife, to a childhood friend, to unknown warriors at his day job, each phone call gives him a chance to encourage and express gratitude to the people who mean the most to him. Now the challenge is in your hands. Before the Thanksgiving holiday ends, find time to express...

You’ve never heard their names, but after this conversation, you won’t be forgetting them anytime soon. Dick and Sybil Towner are in their mid-80s, and still living life as some of the most aggressive people around. From starting a new adventure in their 70s; to intentionally aggressive choices around decision-making, sex, and finances; to how they spend their time on a daily basis, this couple is...