The Affair Recovery Room

When infidelity happens more than once, recovery gets even harder. Therapists Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras unpack the challenges of multiple affairs—the unique characteristics and considerations for each partner. Honest, compassionate conversations for partners, strayers, and the professionals who support them. Whether you’re a partner trying to understand or the one who strayed, this podcast o...

Not all affairs start for the same reason. Discover the motives that drive infidelity and how each shapes the road to healing. Why do people have affairs? In this episode of The Recovery Room , Tim Tedder explores six common motives behind infidelity—the Alarm, Exit, Quest, Revenge, Impulse, and Habit affairs. Drawing on illustrations and real-life examples, Tim explains how each motive takes shap...

A song of loss, longing, and lingering hope. In this episode, Tim Tedder and guest Betsy Prentice discuss The Haunting of My Heart —a song written from the perspective of a woman left behind after betrayal. They explore how music gives voice to heartbreak, memory, and the slow return of light after love is lost. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 03:05 Tim and Betsy talk about the song’s message of...

An abandoned wife talks about her experience and how she’s grown beyond the betrayal. Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras conclude their discussion of the book, Runaway Husbands . EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 02:10 Elisa Talks about Her Abandonment 11:10 Tim and Jennifer talk more about the book 19:35 More from Elisa LINKS Book Review: Runaway Husbands https://www.affairhealing.com/blog/runaway-hu...

Discussing the book, Runaway Husbands , and its message to wives who have been unexpectedly abandoned, Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras give their input based on their experiences as affair recovery counselors and coaches. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 03:00 Overview of the book, Runaway Husbands 10:30 Hallmarks of Wife Abandonment Syndrome LINKS Book Review: Runaway Husbands https://www.affairh...

Explore the compromising choices and justifications that lead to infidelity. This episode examines two affairs to understand how this happens in real-life experiences, then considers what can be done when crossing lines affects your marriage. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 01:45 Compromises in Narnia 04:20 Episode Overview 5:00 Amanda’s Story 11:35 Tim’s Story 17:50 Applications and Recommendati...

The blinding pull of an affair and self-deception are explored as Tim Tedder and Suzanne Jahnke discuss "Lovely Fruit," a song Tim wrote to his former self. This episode offers more than just a conversation about music—it’s a personal reflection on brokenness and change. Whether you’ve experienced betrayal, made your own mistakes, or are simply interested in the process of learning from failure, y...

Learn about limerence, that “falling in love” feeling, from neuroscientist Dr. Tom Bellany in this candid conversation with therapists Tim Tedder and Sharon Barbour. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 01:35 What is limerence? 06:20 Limerence and Love 10:00 What's going on in the brain? 15:10 What triggers limerence? 19:27 Infidelity and Limerence 23:10 Leaving Limerence 32:24 Are some people more pr...

An honest consideration of the indecision between choosing your spouse or your affair partner, based on the personal experience and professional work of Tim Tedder, LMHC. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 02:05 A Story of Indecision 05:45 The Damage of Indecision 07:35 What Keeps You Stuck? 11:30 What I Wish I’d Known 12:40 Questions to Ask Yourself 14:40 Making Space to Consider 16:05 Regret and O...

A conversation about gaslighting: What is it? Where does the term come from? How does it show up in affair recovery? What should you do if you’re being gaslighted? EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 01:25 What is gaslighting? 03:15 Origin of the term - exerpts from the movie, Gaslight 05:40 What gaslighting is not 8:00 Gaslighting in affair recovery 21:50 What to do if you’re being gaslighted 31:15...

The song “This Healing Place” is discussed by Tim Tedder, LMHC, and Suzanne Janke, LCSW, who consider the creative process and the song’s message of healing from the wounds of infidelity. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 02:45 Tim & Suzanne discuss the song 30:50 Entire song: This Healing Place This Healing Place Lyrics written by Tim Tedder Come as you are, bring pieces you’ve saved, Fragment...

Part 3 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. She discusses dealing with her children and with the affair partner. This is part 3 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 01:30 Elisa and her children 18:40 Elisa and her husband’s affair partner 25:00 The struggle and the hope EXTRAS If you need help working through infidelity i...

Part 2 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. This is part 2 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder. Elisa talks about gaining a clearer perspective of her husband’s infidelity, experiencing grief and pain, and making hard choices for her future. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 00:50 Preview of Part 3 02:15 The Interview, Part 2 EXTRAS If you need help worki...

Part 1 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. This is part 1 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 00:50 Preview of Part 2 02:10 The Interview, Part 1 EXTRAS If you need help working through infidelity issues, our coaches are available to work with you: https://affairhealing.com/infidelity-recovery-coaching .

Listen to our official welcome to an all-new season of our podcast, focusing on affair recovery issues. EPISODE NOTES 00:00 Introduction 01:00 Opening comments between Tim Tedder , Sharon Barbour , and Jennifer Gingras 02:10 Previewing the “Elisa” interviews 03:38 Previewing the This Healing Place song discussion 06:27 The three coaches discuss changes they’ve made in their affair recovery work LI...