The Advice Column

When I thought about the past, I would cringe. I felt embarrassed and that led me to avoid my past; however, I could no longer avoid the past when destructive patterns kept showing up in my relationships, in my communication style, and in how I viewed myself. In this episode, I share how we can take our power back when we think about the past. Why do we avoid the past? What are we missing when we...

We always hear people say "Mind your Business", but we never talk about the consequences of not minding your business. In this episode, I explore the reason why most of us do not mind our business and the consequences that arise from this behavior. At the end of the episode, you get to make the choice. Do you want to continue to be nosy or do you want to change?

Do you ever feel like you never have enough time? Do you ever rush your decision-making because you feel like the decision has to be made RIGHT now? I have felt like this for years and I can finally say, I have been freed from the mindset that I do not have enough time. In this episode, I share strategies and mindset tips and shifts into how to view time as a currency, so you can invest your time...

The question, “How to be yourself” seems simple to answer; and yet, most of us go through our lives wearing a mask and never showcasing others what is underneath.  In this episode, I share how I was able to take parts of my mask off so that you can take off your mask and come back to yourself. Within the conversation, we will explore how compassion, forgiveness, and simply having a hobby can help...

What can you do when you are experiencing imposter syndrome? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia explores the feelings that cause us to feel like imposters, poses questions to reframe your mindset on imposter syndrome, and shares a strategy that has helped her overcome her own imposter syndrome. At the end of this episode, you will walk away feeling loved, validated, and confident in tac...

I have been having a rough few weeks, mentally and emotionally. My usual pattern is to feed the chaos and anxiety. Instead, I am taking a moment to reflect and ground myself. Come ground yourself with me! In this episode, I share 3 reflection questions that center around love, affirmations, and acceptance. At the end of the episode, I am confident that you will feel empowered, more connected to yo...

The ability to believe that you can change your life is critical for personal growth and healing and yet, when we are posed with different information, some of us close up and will not listen. In this bonus episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia talks about the process of believing you can change your life. She provides 3 examples that have helped her manage her anxiety and combat fears in communic...

Forgiving others is difficult when we are unable to forgive ourselves. So how do we start the journey to forgiveness? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia explores why we hold grudges, and why holding grudges can be detrimental to our emotional well-being and personal growth. She ends the episode by discussing the transformative power of forgiveness, in not just forgiving others but also...

In a world consumed by thoughts of the future, we often find ourselves trapped in the cycle of anxiety and disappointment. How do we get out of the future trap? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia explores the detrimental effects of fixating on the future, offering insights into how such thinking patterns can rob us of the joy and experiences available to us right now. At the end of the...

How do you feel about your birthday? This question can make some of us feel anxious or excited. My question is why? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia gets real about why we can feel disappointed on our birthdays and how we can change our mindset to have the best birthday ever. If you're not going to celebrate yourself, then who will? SUBMIT YOUR CONFESSIONS HERE https://forms.gle/g...

Why are adults so miserable? This question has been wondered by children, teenagers, and adults for years on end. In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia gets real about why getting out of your comfort zone as an adult is agonizing, why temporary discomfort is better than long-term dissatisfaction, and how we can use our discomfort as a guide to success. Through personal stories and humor, L...

When you are resting, how do you feel and what do you think about yourself? For most of us, when we are resting, we may experience guilt. Why do we feel guilty when we relax and how can we eliminate this guilty so rest can become enjoyable? Of course, it all starts from within. In this episode, your homegirl Lydia shares how she is challenging herself to no longer feel guilty while she relaxing. S...

In the last three years, we have seen a rise in mental health advocates sharing the joys and wonders of therapy. Even with the media's acceptance of therapy, does that change how you view therapy? Do you want to go to therapy and you are not sure where to start? In this episode, your homegirl Lydia shares her experience with two different therapies and the reality of therapy. She explores what...

We have all heard the saying; Assumptions make an ASS out of U and ME, so why do we continue to make them and how are they impacting the relationships we have with ourselves and with others? In this episode, your homegirl Lydia unpacks why we make assumptions, how they can help and harm our intimate relationships, and how making assumptions are an indicator of us trying to maintain control in situ...

Most of us value being honest with our friends and families, but sometimes our honesty can do more harm than good. So, how can you communicate your honesty with the people around you? In this episode, your homegirl Lydia gets brutal with brutal honesty. Have you said or have heard someone say, "I am just being brutally honest" or "You just can't handle the truth"? Lydia exp...

On this episode, your homegirl Lydia gets real about ruminating thoughts. Do you get fixated on what could've, should've, would've happened? Do you replay situations in your head? Lydia shares her personal stories on how she got out of her head and started to live in the present. Throughout the episode, Lydia shares reflective questions, so that the community can begin the work once th...

Most of us put a lot of effort into our intimate relationships, but how many of us put effort into the relationship that we have with ourselves? On this episode, your homegirl Lydia gets real about her self-love journey through singleness! Are you a chronic-dater? Do you struggle with being alone? Do you have a critical self-voice? Lydia shares 3 lessons that she has learned by being single, along...

Hey y'all! Welcome to the trailer episode of Rewriting the Narrative. Rewriting the Narrative is a brave space for black men and women who are ready to embrace change and may not know where to start or may need encouragement to know they are moving in the right direction. My goal is to provide emotional support and a non-judgment approach on topics that may have caused us to shut down if discu...

When you are experiencing emotions other than happiness, what do you do with those emotions? Do you ignore those emotions? Do those emotions bring you shame or guilt? If you are used to people in your life telling you, "Just think positivity, everything will work out" or you tell yourself, "I shouldn't be angry, I should be happy", you are engaging in toxic positivity. In t...