Telling On Ourselves

Equanimity - ??? It was such a new concept for us (especially Bre) and this episode we mull over what it is and how to attain it! So if you're not sure what equanimity is, or if you already know what it is but want a deep dive, listen to this week's episode! We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

Wow! We survived 2020! We could’ve only done it with each other and the support of our sober networks. This week we talk about 2020 — the things we learned and how we stayed sober. Then we look forward to the new year—what is our intention for this year? We each picked 1 word that would sum up our intention for this year. Listen in to hear what we all picked. Then, pick your own word and share it...

This week we have an inspiring special guest and author--Peggi Cooney! Peggi is the creator of the Facebook group "This Side of Alcohol" which is named after her soon-to-be released book! Its a fantastic, very positive community of sober individuals that come from various modalities and disciplines of sobriety and come together to live a life that's alcohol free and more joyful. They focus on livi...

This week Lynn has First Thought Wrong about some "kids" stealing her serenity.  Then we discuss how planning the action, and letting go of results, can help us in life and recovery. Focusing solely on the results can create fear, which holds us back from taking any action at all--impeding us from experiencing the creativity and joy in the journey. Focusing only on the results is a defense mechani...

Watch out! Look behind you! It's coming for you ! Complacency - "Feeling of contentment often combined with a lack of awareness of IMPENDING TROUBLE!"  Don't be clueless, this disease can and will kill you! This week we talk about the dangers of complacency. How do we spot it? How can we stay out of it? How do we get out of it if we're already there? It's hard but we have to break up with the excu...

When we think of patience we usually think of being patient with other people. This week we explore not only patience and tolerance with others, but with OURSELVES (novel thought)! What does impatience and intolerance tell us about where we're at right now and how do we gain more? What is the "cure" for impatience/intolerance? We didn't get sober to be irritable and discontent all the time, that's...

Our friend and OG of Telling on Ourselves Keri joins this week for First Thought Wrong!  She has some great insights on setting boundaries for holidays due to social distancing and the pandemic.     Some suggestions include redefining our family holidays and thinking outside the box with family traditions.  Struggling during the holidays can be an issue at the best of times, we provide some ideas...

This week we're lucky to have one of our biggest fans, Dawn O., as our guest! Dawn offers us her First Thought Wrong this week which, hilariously, is about Vikki's FTW last week! Which also leads us into our topic....EGO! It's all about me! Man, it's impressive what our egos will tell us--they will twist information, bring out our insecurities, and get us to react on our emotions. One of the great...

This week Lynn has First Though Wrong (FTW) about a recent hiking experience. Our main topic is about asking for help! Help..ah...one of those 4 letter words! Sobriety and recovery are lifelong journeys. Many times we will need help and support. Most of us know and realize this. So...why is it so tough asking for help? In this episode we talk about how humility and fear of being judged come into p...

Vikki has FTW about holding onto resentments.   One of the expressions we hear a lot in the rooms of recovery are "live and let live". What does this mean? How does that little idiom keep us sober on a day to day basis? This not only applies to how we deal with others, but how we deal with ourselves!    Looking to grow and expand? Four Agreements Workshop Series with Vikki:  https://mailchi.mp/8da...

This is a great episode you don’t want to miss! We have a very special guest this week! This week, we talk to our great friend and benefactor, Andy! He shares his story of being a highly functional alcoholic for many many years, his bottom, and how he juggles sobriety, family, work and life today!! Andy is always giving back and passing on the message of hope and recovery to the still suffering al...

Lynn shares her First Thought Wrong—its about Sean cakes y’all! Can’t miss it! All the people pleasers in the house, raise your hands! This week we talk about people pleasing and how it’s actually a destructive and dishonest behavior. A behavior we sometimes learned in childhood to survive. A behavior that became a tool we used in active addiction to get what we want. A habit now in recovery that...

Chelsea gives us a GREAT first thought wrong this week! No funny title for this one because it is exactly what it is! Many of us deal with fear of change--before recovery, while newly sober and even in recovery. God is always giving us opportunities to grow and growth is usually the product of change! Why are we afraid in the first place? How do we walk through the fear? Fear as a practice? Really...

We have Michelle AKA Slugger pinch hitting for Sweet Bre this week.   Topic HALT - HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY, TIRED Slugger shares her First Thought Wrong Working through a work frustration with the magical pause that is tattooed to her body!    Vikki's First Thought Wrong is about letting loose on her feelings, and doesn't use the magical pause button.     Some tools we discuss are pause button, iden...

Why can't you just stop drinking?  Who has heard this question before?   First Thought Wrong:  Drama getting you down...too much netflix affecting Sweet Bre. Definition of willpower : the ability to control one's own actions, emotions, or urges   Alcoholics can't stop drinking through willpower alone: they need to alter behavior … that triggers the impulse to drink.— James Atlas   Age old question...

First thought wrong was at Dr. Bob’s house….Lynn & Vikki had a tiff.  Backseat driving, meets rocking chairs.  Visit to PA to hang and record with our favorite Donna.   Donna shares how she had to learn gratitude at the beginning, that it was building a muscle given to her from great sponsorship. And continues to be a working part of her recovery.   Definition corner:   Gratitude is a strong feeli...

A compelling episode of healing, forgiveness and hope from the lens of the loved one of the alcoholic/addict.  Our guest and dear friend of the podcast, Cindy shares her story of healing and hope for the family members affected by the disease.    She explains how she had to make some difficult decisions for her family during the storm of active addiction.  Sharing how she hit her personal wall of...

A great friend of the podcast (that we met through the quarantine and online meetings), Nancy DeLong, sits in this week to share her experience, strength & hope with us and how she's been able to sustain 37 years of continuous sobriety.  We hear about days in the carnival, days of recovery and how she maintains her recovery.   Nancy is an inspiration and a ton of fun!  We are not a glum lot! www.n...

This weeks episode the ladies discuss our feelings and how to manage those in recovery.  We continue to mess up, then grow, then kinda mess up, then kinda grow more. The process of recovery and getting through our days and our relationships without drowning our feelings.   Email us tellingonourselves3@gmail.com visit us @tellingonourselves at FB & Instagram   Please rate, review, and subscribe it...

We know, we know...it’s hard not to make ourselves the centers of our own universe! It’s difficult to imagine anyone else but ourselves as the heroes in our own stories. But eventually, something will happen. A situation will occur, and the least painful thing to do in that moment will be to relinquish control and throw ourselves completely into the care of a higher power. Sounds scary! Especially...

How do you determine what “the next right thing” to do is? Common expression with people in recovery, but can also be extremely subjective! So what measure or logic or spirit do you use to guide you? We know one thing...the next right thing to do right now is to listen to this weeks episode!

Best part of getting sober? You get to experience the closest thing to a “new life” you probably ever thought you’d have!!   Recreation really starts with self-awareness and honesty—who were you before and who do you want to be moving forward? It’s an evolution of sorts!! Check it out!   Follow us @tellingonourselves on Facebook and Instagram Have a First Thought Wrong you would like to share?  Ha...

We are so excited for our 1 year anniversary episode! Who can believe it’s already been a year? Thank you to all of our listeners, our “podcast tribe”...we appreciate you so much! We have a very special guest joining us on this episode…… The amazing Mr. TZ a.k.a. Zip! TZ is actually our podcast editor who has grown to be a dear friend of ours over this past year! We are elated to have him on talki...

We wrap up our discussion of the bedevilments and promises! This episode talks a lot about fear—and Lynn tells an awesome ghost story! BOO!  Happy Birthday to US! Yes, all three of us have birthdays this week! 

“I said I’m sure!” Vikki has “First Thought Wrong” this week!  The bane of many alcoholics—the bedevilments!! Sounds scary, are they scary?! Yes they’re very scary!! What the heck are they? Well that’s what we talk about this week. But don’t worry, there’s good that comes with the bad in the form of—“the promises”! Oohhh sounds shiny, is it shiny? Yes they’re shiny! And it could ALL BE YOURS!!