Teen Whisperer

This week I am full of snot but instead of pushing through and being a human doer, I have taken time out to support my physical health and wellbeing. I also talk about exciting news of the NEW retreat which is on the 17-19 March 2023, the Mothers Day weekend.

Have you ever found yourself reacting massively to a small situation where all reactions were taken way out of context? As young children, we were regularly told to push our thoughts down and ignore them, time and time again but this doesn’t work. Past traumas come back up when you least expect it unconsciously in our parenting. They affect how we react to everything- stress, parenting, how you ar...

This week I’m following on from last week, talking about counterwill and how it shows up for them. Remember those times when your teen daughter goes from 0-100 in 2 milliseconds? This is counterwill showing up as she wants to do things her way, in her own time. If our teen daughters know that we’ll contain them, whatever is going on for them. They need to be curious and excited and not be poo pooe...

Listen in for 5 simple ways to bring your teen daughter back on board. The pre-exam pressures - UCAS, revision, tests for A levels, GCSEs, Functional Skills, Level 1, Level 2 can affect our teen daughters hugely. Are you finding your daughter more defiant right now? Having an insight and understanding to what’s going on for her, really helps you to support your teen daughter.

Societal and cultural expectations regularly tell is that we can’t have that connection and we just have to let our daughters do their thing. What if I was to tell you, you’re not alone. We want to be connected and it is perfectly natural to be in a shared space. Too often we are told that the kick offs, bad behaviour is ‘normal’ and a rite of passage to adulthood. It doesn’t have to be this way…l...

Welcome to the first episode of 2023 and a new season. I am so excited for where this year will take us. Resolutions are plans we make for things to change outside of ourselves like wanting to lose 4 stone but not how or why and this is why they don’t work. Plus it’s post Christmas, the weather is gloomy and dark and you feel crap. Let’s make intentions together to build your relationship with you...

Please excuse the loss of sound during this episode - it was very windy at the top of the fells… You are the continuity in your daughter’s life so if something is going on for you right now, she will feel it whatever you show on the outside… and will mirror your behaviours. Building awareness in to how you feel and the emotions you portray helps her to understand what’s going on for her. YOU are t...

4 Simple Tools to help you manage the overwhelm for you and your teenage daughter at this time of year.

For the next two weeks I am hosting Christmas specials to ensure that you have the festive season you want without fear or perfectionism

Did you know grief doesn’t have to be connected to death? Does your daughter kick off, have regular meltdowns? Do you feel there is no connection, no warmth, no recognition, no trust, no respect? The number one question I get asked is, where has my loving daughter gone - the one who would cuddle me, the one who would tell me everything? Did you know this a form of grief - a loss of something that...

Master class launch - Monday 12th December at 1pm

How are you feeling within the behaviours with your teen daughter? I bet you’re feeling crap and useless like it’s all your fault. Sometimes it just feels like your whole world is collapsing around you and you’re left reeling from yet another exchange. Is it me that’s done this to my daughter, maybe it’s something that’s happened in my childhood.. ? We all feel shite from time to time but there is...

Continuing the topic from last week..about peer orientation and how being with their friends 24/7 affects how their brains 🧠 work and reacts to everyday stress. Listen more as to how peer orientation not only affects your daughter, it also affects how you feel about yourself.

Today I talk about how society/education/culture has us believing that we are not needed in our teen daughters lives, that they ‘should’ get all their support from their friends. As a Mum you still have a place in her life, to be connected to her (despite what her behaviours are showing you) and guiding her. If you like what you hear, keep listening and following over the next few weeks and sign u...

Talking about community, love and connection and being around other people who are the same boat as you. As women and girls, we are wired to be in connection, we are wired to be in a community setting and if that is taken away from us, we start floundering, we start drowning. So this is what I am going to talk to you about this week..

Ever get those feelings that your teen daughter hates you? Everything you try just doesn’t cut it any more…and you’re feeling lost and alone.. 4 insights into what’s actually happening with your teenage daughter

Taking time out for YOU. So my body had been giving me subtle hints to take a step back and I wasn’t listening. You know the feeling - not having enough energy, not eating properly, not feeling awake - well my body had had enough of me ignoring those hints and it hit me straight between the eyes to STOP. Masking our negative emotions tells our teen daughters to ignore their feelings, making them f...

MAKING SPACE FOR YOU - is the one of the 4 🔑s to reconnecting with your teen daughter. Making space for your needs and booking it in your diary gives you the headspace to focus on everything else. How I hear you ask? If your daughter sees you looking after yourself and relishing in it, she too can choose to make space for herself. Our teen girls learn by what they see. If she sees you running aro...

So the workshop that was, didn’t , materialise. This is due to me not having the headspace or energy to do the launch 🚀 process. It’s ok not to feel ok and we need to understand how by keeping going and making it look normal, doesn’t help us at all. We need time to process what’s happening and the only way to do that is to stop and breathe. Feel free to connect with me either on Instagram at teen...

A reintroduction as to who I am and how I can support you as a Mum of a teenage daughter. If you like what you hear and would like to connect with me check out my website at www.positivetouch.net/connect or on Instagram at teen.whisperer.nature Rachel x

This episode talks about the effects that bereavement has on you and your teen daughter. Society tells us that we should push down these emotions and ignore them but all that does, is hide it so it comes out at a later date as another aggressive emotion. To help our daughters we need to allow them space and time to process what’s happening. I talk about simple tools that connect you without conver...

So how did you find last week’s episode about counterwill with your teen daughter? Was it a bit of an eye opener? I can tell you, it was for me and it helped me to understand what was happening for her. Her behaviours are telling you she needs something even though she may not be able to voice it herself. Do you want to know more? Listen in for exciting news as to what is coming in the next few we...

Talking push/pull or the official version of counterwill between you and your teen daughter. It’s natural and it’s what they need to go through to get to adulthood. No matter what you do, they have to go through it so if you can go through it together in partnership, it makes it so much better. Think of our teen girl’s behaviours as a toddler tantrum and it becomes so much easier to understand. So...

How does your daughter kicking off make you feel? Do the feelings take you back to a time when you felt lost with a complete lack of control? I know it does for me, it takes me straight back to little me in my teenage years when I suffered sexual violence at the hands of others. I want to say that I’m here for you, I get it 100%, parenting your teenage daughter can be really hard but I am here to...

Do you ever have one of those days where you are totally fed up of your teen daughter’s behaviours? 🤯🤬 I get it, honestly I do, I have personal experience…which is why I am launching a brand NEW masterclass, group programme and 4 part workshop in September to support YOU. If you want to be the best imperfect Mum 😉 that you can be, connect with me and check out my Instagram page on instagram.com...