Take Time to Believe

When you're feeling triggered by something, your natural response will be to avoid it, become reactive, or completely shut down. But all of these options only keep you stuck in the cycle of feeling triggered, feeling powerless to it. But there's another approach that will not only heal the source of your trigger but will also help you show up feeling calm and confident.

Do you feel like you have no other choice? Are you bending over backwards trying to keep the peace, keep them happy, prevent a reaction or attack, trying to earn their approval, but after all your efforts you're still feeling like it's not enough? In this week's episode I'll help you gain awareness of what's preventing you from feeling valued and appreciated, how to break out of the habit of needi...

When negative emotions surface, the natural response will be to change something in order to feel better. Leading you to find fault and blame with the circumstances or people around you and pointing out all the things that should change so you can feel better. This can sound like, "if they didn't do or say this then I wouldn't be feeling this way." or "if this didn't happen then I wouldn't feel th...

When you're willing to wait for cookies to bake before enjoying, clothes to wash before wearing, and a shower to heat up before washing, why does waiting for an answered prayer, promised blessing, or result from a test seem so wearing? In this week's episode, I share with you a new perspective about waiting and how it can not only increase your faith in Christ, but you will also experience greater...

With an endless "to-do" list of all the things you need to do and only seeing what you're not doing, it's easy to fall into believing you're doing it all wrong or there's something wrong with you. So many equate the ability of what you do and accomplish to your worth and value, making it easy to beat up on yourself when we aren't completing everything on your list. Believing you're falling short,...

Do you wish your life experiences could be different? Do you have a hard time accepting what is, or blame the way you're feeling on what's happening around you? Are you living with feelings of stress, regret, anger, worry, or shame? In this week's episode, I show you what's keeping you stuck in memories of your past, preventing you from being able to heal, see what's true, and how you can finally...

Anyone who experiences any form of abuse can easily get caught up in the idea that they are a powerless to another's behaviors. Thinking it's somehow your fault, believing you are broken or worthless. In this episode I will share with you why you might blame yourself, how you might be continuing the harmful behavior towards yourself, and how you can end those harmful habits that prevent yo...

When you put a lot of emphasis on your ability to trust others based on their actions and behaviors; it can often lead to a lack of trust within yourself. In this podcast episode I will help you to see where you might be preventing yourself from living your life to its fullest because of someone else's choices, and how you can reestablish trust within yourself.

When you've been taught to be your best, to be better than you are, you'll find yourself in a place of always falling short and never being enough in some way. When you've experienced abuse on top of this, it makes sense you would struggle to believe you have great worth. This week, I invited one of my friends, coaches, and coaching colleagues to share with you a profound perspective h...

Stress, overwhelm, disappointed, and lonely are all common human emotions we feel. It is also common to blame others for the reason you feel them. This blaming, however, can leave you feeling powerless in your life. As though you have no other choice but to feel this way because of what someone did, didn't do, or said. In this week's episode I will share with you how to get out of "bl...

There are a lot of opinions out there on how you should be living your life, what your life should look like, what you should be doing, what you should be wearing; so, you can be accepted or "fit in". The problem is you believe them because you've had experiences that left some painful marks and taught you that acceptance and love needed to be earned. In this week's episode I&#39...

We often believe that the thoughts we have are an observation of our lives. But I have learned that my observing thoughts are actually an optional story I'm choosing to tell. But it doesn't always feel optional when you have strong emotions about them. I get it! In this week's episode I'm getting vulnerable and sharing with you some of the stories or thoughts, my brain comes up wit...

When you're wishing your life were different or wishing for others to change their behaviors, you might be stuck in a victim mentality. In this episode I will guide you through what victim mentality is, how it's learned, and how you can put an end to the negative cycle.

Since you were little you were taught what is or isn't acceptable to be included, accepted, or loved in society. Little did you know that these "rules of acceptance" are causing you more pain as an adult than you could comprehend as a child. In today's episode I share with you what rules you might be holding on to and living your life from that is hurting you more than helping yo...

When you've spent most of your life believing you're not enough or questioning your worth, it can be difficult to believe that you are loved. Especially when the actions, words, and behaviors of others are anything but loving. In this episode I invited my good friend and coaching colleague, Heather Rackham, to share with us her experience in understanding and applying Christ-like love, even toward...

In today's podcast I share with you words of wisdom I've learned by age of 40. That's right, I just had my 40th birthday and I have some great nuggets of advice that you can apply to your life today to help you create greater peace and joy in your life. Have a listen and leave me a review of which one you liked best.

How do you forgive someone who's choices or actions are not at all in line with something you can agree with, or when you are still hurting and suffering from the effects of their behavior? After a journey of trying to heal and let go for myself, I came to accept that maybe it just can't happen in this life. That I would have to wait for the Savior to come to make the hurt go away. But I found thi...

Anytime you are in a state of worry, fretting over what could happen, what might happen, or putting all your focus on trying to prevent worst case scenario, then you are also preventing yourself from accessing your inner wisdom. In this episode I'll share with you how worrying isn't helping you and what you can choose instead. And how you can access the inner wisdom within you that will al...

It's easy to believe everyone else has it all together, is confident, or happy while you're watching from the sidelines feeling miserable and only seeing how you're falling short or doing it all wrong. Well, I'm here to tell you, it's not just you. You're not alone in any of it and I know this because I feel this way too sometimes and everyone who has a brain and feels emot...

If you're holding on to negative beliefs about you, being hard or critical of who you are and what you say or do, then you've framed yourself into an image of what isn't true and it's time to reframe what you're seeing. In today's episode I will share with you steps you can take that will not only help you create a new way to see yourself, but will also help you connect wit...

If you've experienced betrayal trauma and after years of help from a therapist and are still feeling stuck in trauma symptoms (ptsd), this episode is for you. I will share with you a new way to view trauma as well as effective tools I use that have not only helped me to heal from the traumatic experiences, but also helped me change the way I was seeing myself. I will also share with you the fi...

We all want to feel accepted, a sense of belonging, yet most people go about it in a way that only leaves them often feeling rejected. This comes from being hard on yourself, constantly focusing on your flaws and doubting your abilities, which only perpetuates the rejection cycle. To believe that you must be hard on yourself to be better than you are is a form of self-rejection. The opposite of re...

When life throws you something unexpected it's easy to fall into a place of believing something has gone wrong, it wasn't supposed to be this way, or that you must've done something wrong. But life was never meant to be all or nothing it was always meant to be 50/50, where we experience opposition in all things. In this episode I will teach you how learning to accept what is and allowi...

Most of us weren't taught how to feel or process through our emotions, instead we were taught to resist, avoid, or react in them. In this episode, you will not only learn the skill of processing through an emotion, but you will also gain greater insight as to why doing so will be a tremendous blessing in your life! For a guided recording to help you process through any emotion, you can downloa...

I used to believe my thoughts were the way I observed what was going on in my life. When I realized my thoughts were the meaning I was giving to my circumstances and that they are completely optional, this changed everything for me in the way I now choose to view my life experiences and the way I show up in my life. In this episode, I'll help you learn how to identify what a thought is, how yo...