Surface Level

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about what is next for a nation divided. This episode discusses our current engagement with politics in what will surely go down as the grand finale to one of the most tumultuous presidential terms in history. Is this America, or an anomaly in the journey of this country? We discuss the presidential election, Black women’s role in politics, the flood of new Queer p...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the queer experience in the traditionally cishet barbershop environment. This episode discusses our interactions with the barbershop as youth and adults. Do we have a reason to feel unwelcomed in this environment or is it all in our heads? We discuss our favorite past hairstyles, rap culture in barbershops, how we engage in shop talk, queer expression and acc...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are Black, Queer, and curious. This episode discusses what this experience has meant to us and revisits the season through the lens of crowd sourced questions. We discuss our favorite episodes, the friction between Damon and Jordan, reactions to he podcast from friends, family, and colleagues, any strain this project has placed on our friendship, adjustments we made due to qua...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about what defines “successful” relationships. This episode discusses our experiences with dating in New York City. Are there lessons to be learned and applied to every relationship or should each experience be evaluated on its own? We discuss music therapy, our longest previous relationships, what dating life has looked like recently, our views on monogamy, and th...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about privilege within the Black community. This episode discusses the nuance of Black experience. Are there set topics where we should focus on community more than individually? We discuss the “Blackest" cultural experiences, our connection to the places where we grew up compared to New York City, privileges we possess, the balance of checking our privilege compar...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the give and take in defining friendship. This episode discusses the expectations we place on friendship. Is there a set definition of our relationships with others or does it evolve over time? We discuss each other’s most annoying traits, the line between friend and associate, rules or lack there of around friends and exes, when it’s time to break up with a...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about why being Black at work is so hard. This episode discusses the part of our lives where code switching is not only encouraged but often expected. Are the expectations of Black employees too high for any human to consistently meet? We discuss our experiences in corporate America, assimilation and if it is the route to success, the pressure to represent our enti...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the price of fabricating our lives for Instagram. This episode discusses the life we live compared to the one we feel compelled to portray on social media. How often are sharing real moments vs ones created, purely for the currency of likes? We discuss our Instagram flirting styles, online stunts that we’ve personally pulled, influencer culture, the negative...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the acceptance of queerness among Black men. This episode discusses coming out to our fathers and the impact it had on each of our relationships. Can there be healing from a relationship splintered from coming out? How have our dads fought against the stigma of homophobia among Black men? We discuss celebrity dads we love, the joy and pain of coming out to ou...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the space we give artists to be flawed before cancellation. This episode evaluates artists for who they are as people. In the age of social media the expectation is that people let you into their lives. They craft their persona in a way that exposes their talent but also their flaws. And we take every opportunity to evaluate each of them. We discuss artists w...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the value of masculinity. This episode explores the masc obsession, specifically in the queer community. We work, we worship, we date, we make love, we exercise, we live all through the guise of our relationship with and the external opinions of where we land on the “butch” scale. We discuss gentlemen we’d keep, freak & delete, chasing trade, butching it up w...

Damon, Jordan & Tony are curious about the world we could create if we did not fear sacrifice. Our first episode comes at a moment defined by a health crisis that disproportionately affects Black people, and police violence towards Black people…or what our community would call a normal day in America. We discuss the strain of being confined to our New York City apartments for months, shifting to a...

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