Support, Protect, Empower - The Project Purpose Podcast

Addressing Jealousy at its Root | Learning to Manage Feelings of Inadequacy & Admiration, Adaptively Jealousy is a human emotion. Feeling jealous, however frequently or infrequently, is not problematic in and of itself. It's the behaviours that we engage in because we feel jealous that create serious issues. For whatever reason, jealousy can override logical thinking, critical reasoning, a...

Learn to Dig Deeper | Understanding the Weight of Others' Intentions & Practicing Conscientiousness Kindness goes a long way. An act of kindness can be the spark of a new connection and it nourishes the soul. We give to ourselves with the acts of kindness we engage in with others, no harm no foul. But behaviour is driven by more than what we can perceive. While I wouldn't want to advoc...

In Addressing Our Fatal Flaws | Using Your Discretion When Receiving Feedback About Your Personality How people decide how they feel about you, is relative. Much of what informs someone's opinion about you has to do with how they see themselves. Whether it's personal or professional, people's perceptions are influenced by previous experiences, beliefs, thoughts, values, and desires tha...

Charting New Territory & Opportunities with Learning | When We Know Differently, We Do Differently 🤓 There is so much untapped potential on the other side of curiosity. Many of us discount the impact exploring our own unanswered questions can have on our entire life's trajectory - and that's no hyperbole. It all starts by giving yourself permission to ask questions - and taking owners...

Why Learning Should Align with Our Passions & Interests | The Importance of Avoiding the Career Trap Many of us find ourselves doing things we are very good at, but don't particularly like. This is what I personally like the consider the "misplaced duty" muscle. The muscle that some of us have developed, that enable us to pursue excellence in areas where we aren't particularl...

How to Challenge Thoughts of Inadequacy by Focusing on Adaptation | Being the Catalyst for Change ✅ Every day we step out into the world we make the choice to stand out or to blend in. If we are all being honest, most of us would choose to blend in and try to minimize any spotlight or attention, whatsoever. Totally understandable! Being the centre of attention can be intimidating and opens you up...

Developing Decisiveness | Tenaciously Maintaining the Path Least Travel if You Find Inner Alignment There's often so much to choose from, it's figuring out what choice to make that often trumps the quality of choice we end up making. Sometimes we feel like choosing something is better than choosing nothing at all. But that line of thought often leads to us over-compensating, over-investing...

3 Healthy Strategies to Counteract Feelings of Helplessness | Grow through What You're Going through A lot can happen in a day that we have no control over. This can be especially challenging when we ourselves are impacted by the outcome, and the outcome is largely outside our realm of control. With a focus on the end result we're looking for, and the miles that exist between where we want...

Knowing Where to Turn to in Difficulty | The Power of Social Participation in Eco-Systems of Support There's so much more to the world we live in, than the corner that our lives occupy. Oftentimes, we find ourselves so busy in the routines that we've established, we forget that there are other ways we can spend our time. There are eco-systems of different communities taking place around us...

Let Go of What Was Never in Your Realm of Control | Leveraging the Power Inherent In Your Reactions Extreme situations will teach you that not a lot is within your control. Often times we nourish this sense of control, and reinforce the belief that we're in control, because much of life tends to go as planned. What if I told you the best thing you can do is to liberate yourself from that belie...

Learning to Sit in Uncomfortable Truths | Develop the Capacity to Hold Space for Traumatic Realities Many of us have had specific experiences, whether our own or of those that we know personally, that have shaken us to our core. Whether it was coming to terms with an illness, a violent occurrence, or a death -- proximity to these situations has the power to change our perceptions, permanently. Thi...

How the Culture (Status Quo) Sustains Environments that are not Conducive to Diversity & Inclusion With reference to the blog that I shared earlier this week, I want to take a moment to talk about the influence of culture. Many of us make choices as to where we spend our time when we feel that the spoken culture aligns with our inherent values and beliefs. How any company or school markets its...

How I Discovered I was Being Stalked and Managed to Stay a Few Steps Ahead | Tips on Digital Hygiene It has been two weeks since I posted my first video. In these videos, I've been speaking up about being stalked for the last four years by my professor at UofT and senior leader at McKinsey & Co Canada, Scott Rutherford. By progress, I mean: 1) No one from the University of Toronto has reac...

Creating a Safe Space to Share Our Experiences on Violence & Trauma | Baseline Tenets of Empathy I want to start off by thanking everyone who has taken the time to listen to my experience, and for holding space for me while I spoke vulnerably, about my experience being stalked for the last four years. As we continue to engage in dialogue, I just ask that we be intentional with how we position...

Speaking Up & Speaking Out About My 4-Year Strong Stalking Nightmare: UofT Professor & RCMP Officer I spoke out about how I've spent the last four years to-date getting stalked by my professor University of Toronto's Rotman's School of Management, Scott Rutherford. I was also vocal about meeting an RCMP officer who contributed to the silencing campaign, Alex Lamb. I spoke candi...

When those Who Serve & Protect, Seek to Smear and Silence Your Voice | My 4-Year Stalking Nightmare In the same year, fateful 2020, I made the choice to go no contact with abusive family members, and ended up needing to go on the run because of a stalker. While most people will speak on being stalked by a stranger or a romantic partner -- the stalker that has persecuted me for the last four ye...

Silence Doesn't Support Your Well-Being | My UofT Professor Continues to Get Away with Stalking Me Does anyone else hope that if they say nothing and do nothing, that problems might magically disappear? That was my hope. All to say, 4 years later and I've come to the realization that I was wrong. When it comes to matters of safety - silence is never the answer. It's never an easy decis...

How Gender, Attractiveness & Intelligence (Mis)Inform Our Expectations of Each Other's Agreeability Everyday we navigate a sea of strangers. If any of them are lucky enough to catch your attention, one of the first narratives you'll craft about the unsuspecting stranger speaks to your estimation of how agreeable they might be. Which serves to inform you on how much you think you'll...

Learning to Say "No" Without Apologizing | Developing the Muscle to Decline & Honour Your Boundaries A lot of people struggle with the word no. Whether it's to say no, when they're not in the mood - or even more alarming, the individuals who take issue with hearing no. Much of culture & society has provided so many different vehicles to teach us the virtues of agreeabilit...

How Inner Alignment Increases the Quality of Our Choices | Decisions that Shield Us from Undue Harm You know that saying, short-term pain long-term gain? Well, what they didn't tell you is that it does not work well in reverse. That is when your focus is on short-term gain... it almost always results in long-term pain - and who wants that? Many of us feel that valuing now, means discounting th...

Understanding your Relationship with Learning | Trusting the Process If/When Mastery Isn't a Given It feels good to be knowledgeable in a given area 😊. Being the subject matter expert in a given topic is an opportunity to lend insight, support, and perspective for ongoing developments within your area of expertise. Many of us have such deep knowledge in a given area, we forgot that getting to...

3 Tendencies to Remove from Our Self-Care Toolkit | Power in Aligning Our Decisions to Our Beliefs Many of us engage in self-sacrificing behaviours because we've been taught that we'll be held in higher esteem if we do so. So for the sake of the whole we tolerate mistreatment, we allow our feelings to be invalidated, and we stay quiet. We are silent in situations where we want to be vocal,...

3 Ways to Incorporate Self-Care Into Your Day | Treating Self-Care as a Lifestyle and Not a Reward A lot of times we think of self-care and we think about those moments where we spoil ourselves once in a while. It's time we stop thinking of self-care within the frame of treating ourselves to something special, or spoiling ourselves. Self-care needs to be a priority for you and your well-being....

Understanding Trauma-Informed Conscientiousness | How Survival Changes the Way We Choose to Show Up An instant has the power to change someone. Surviving trauma, regardless of your survivor's story, will shift the way you view the people, places, and situations in your life. Most importantly, surviving trauma will change the way you orient, and the way that you show up as you find your balance...

Creating a Safety Plan When Going No Contact with Toxic Relationships | Learning to Prioritize Self Planning before action (when possible) is a critical step not to be taken lightly when going no contact. Breaking free from toxic relationships will be the best choice you'll ever make for yourself, while also being a difficult decision to execute without a plan. Power is never lost without a ba...