Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Listener question: Clare, I’m wondering if you might do a podcast on one of your common phrases, “it must begin here.” For example, if I am judging someone as, say, cruel, I must begin with me, here, and see all the ways that I am cruel. This is where my tricky little mind goes with that: “ok, so let me find all the times, past and present, in which I have been cruel. Well, now we just have two sh...

Listener question: I just listened to the latest video and podcast that you sent out and feel somewhat clearer about this whole thing to do with our ‘shadow’ Basically my understanding is that whatever I see ‘out there’ is simply a reflection of what I have going on ‘in here’  So the only thing for me to do if I am having a reaction to something or someone is to look for where in myself I am not b...

Listener question: I have stayed in this conversation, listening to your podcasts and am seeing more. However, I still get caught up in believing my perceived reality and there is an intense over identification with ‘self’ and the desperate need to protect it, for fear of being exposed and feeling vulnerable in the world. You probably cannot say, and it’s different for everyone, but what has made...

Listener question: I found your website while reading “Real” and had a complex reaction to your talk about subliminal s. I thought it was brilliant to try to get past the intellect sentries to allow an opening as I think it is my feelings about my intellect that prevent me from seeing deeply. On the other hand, I met Syd Banks at the Hawaii lectures in 2001 and have listened extensively to him say...

Listener question: My husband had a primarily emotional affair with his HR director. The flirting started pretty much right when he met her, then 6 months later it ballooned into an actual affair (not sex but kissing) and then I found out and we hashed things out for 6 weeks and he stopped the affair for a couple weeks. Then he started it back up for another 3-4 months but just texting. Nothing ph...

Listener question: In recent months there has been more and more phases where I am overflowing with love towards nearly everyone in my life, uninhibited joy about life and aliveness. And then there are these phases of old familiar pain. Often I wake up with intense bitter and resentful feelings in my throat. The mind replays stories of people having been hateful and hurtful. The undercurrents of r...

Listener question: A pattern of conditioning has arisen for me a few times and I wonder if you could explore it on a podcast, please, if you had space? What is going on with “I’m ok, only if you’re ok” or “I’m not ok if you’re not ok”? I notice that when others are happy or settled or peaceful, then I’m ok. If they are sad, distressed, angry then I’m not ok. Although I have times where I can be ve...

Listener question: I guess this is a ‘what is love?’ and ‘am I normal?’ question to which the answer is probably ‘who the hell is there to know one way or the other?’ but just out of curiosity:- My Mother has been diagnosed with what is probably terminal cancer; we’ll know the prognosis this week.  Ours has been a strained relationship to say the least of it and, while we’ve got things on to a mor...

Listener question: Whilst I have seen so much since I first came across the 3p’s I still seem to get stuck in a few areas, below is one that I am struggling with at the moment. Firstly, I lost my mum quite suddenly and out of the blue a few months ago and so obviously I am still coming to terms with that and this understanding has helped so much. With the loss of my mum, the relationship with my d...

Listener question: I noticed that I have so much thinking around the topic of the menstrual cycle. On one hand I've got thinking about what society expects me to be like during a time of feeling vulnerable or feeling a lot of pain. On the other hand I've got a lot of ideas what it means to have pms. There seems to be this very fixed idea in me that it's just a rule that I would get...

Listener question:  How do we see tragedy in the light of this understanding? We lost a young family member in circumstances that ‘shouldn’t have happened’ that seem like huge misfortune. It is difficult for me to look at this from within this understanding as ‘part of our human experience’ as I see it as awful and wrong and how can we ever come to terms with that it was meant to happen. And how w...

Listener question: Thank-you so much Clare for creating a podcast for this.  I have listened to it three times and also our recording once over.  I'm now in a weird place.  I feel frantic that I have to change a lot of things in my life and don't know where to begin.  I'm also confused as to why I've stayed with something that's creating unhappiness for so many years.  I g...

Listener question: Today a friend held me. Since a diagnosis of breast cancer in January, surgery at the beginning of March, such a lonely journey in COVID, I just kept going to provide for my family. And then today as my friend held me, I just broke down and sobbed, and cried my heart out. Like a floodgate opened.  Is that wrong Clare, is that un-spiritual? Is that just a needy desperate self ide...

Listener question:  I wonder if it would be possible to discuss what seems to going on for me just now.  I seem to be doing well (better than in a long time) and then without notice I’m plunged into my greatest fears (plus some).... this has been going on for a few nights, is beyond uncomfortable and I would appreciate your thoughts.  I’ve absolutely loved the Real course and have taken a lot from...

Listener question:  I wonder if you could consider the following for a Listener Question on your podcasts? I realise virtually my whole life I have been a people pleaser. A learnt and essential approach growing up in my family. I can now see the destructive nature of being this way.  I seem to follow a cycle of     People Pleasing  > Rejection > Victim > People Pleasing etc etc.  How do I...

Listener question:should I act on my idea? 

Listener question: hi Clare a relative of mine is a narcissist. It gets me down how much attention she demands all the time. I find it exhausting. How does that fit when we are talking about the self? 

Listener question: what do you mean by back room?

Listener question: In the book WELL, at one point you have a phrase you often use about “giving itself up.” And by an objective reality giving itself up we see what’s real. Can you talk more about what this “giving itself up” is? Is there an example in your life when something “gave itself up”?

Listener question: I cannot see how events/conditioning have been put in place for the ultimate purpose of waking us up to what we are. What I understand is that life happens despite me and I do not create my reality. It seems more to me that life is an impersonal, spontaneous synchronicity of events. In other words, every event appears to have an ultimate reason or cause, but ultimately, no event...

Listener question: Are Events Random? Is there such a thing as Cause and effect? Events have been “put there by the conditioned program of our mind.” Are you saying a “program” of conditioning created events, like COVID, to use your example, or am I not hearing correctly what you are saying?  ….”so no randomness in the way anything appears and there entirely for the waking up to what we are.” I ca...

Listener question: Can you say more about watching the behavior  - not the self - witnessing the behavior ? You keep inviting us to inquire into what is happening in this behavior and in suffering. Feeling the sensations not as self. All I can see is just selfing, selfing, and more selfing - I thought this was the behavior. Brain creating a self as thought and then claiming something, rejecting so...

Listener question: what about injustice, discrimination and going out in the streets and fighting against oppression? Is that just a self that is caught in the narrative of feeling oppressed? Is there a self that searches for security that does not exist anyway?

Listener question : how to change other people's beliefs and behaviour?

Listener question: should I stay or should I go?