Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley,I’m a 37 year old married woman and I found out that my husband was sleeping with my girlfriend, when Shirley read my girlfriend’s Strawberry Letter on the radio. I’ve been married to a man for seven years and I had a girlfriend on the side for most of our marriage. My husband and I had some financial issues so my female friend, who was actually my lover, moved in with us to...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a single 38 year old female and I like dating older gentlemen. I’m open to online dating and I have met some nice men on Facebook, so I often look at men’s profiles and meet them that way. A handsome man in another city caught my eye and I sent him a message. We chatted back and forth and found out that we have a lot in common, even though he is12 years older than me. W...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old single female and my family moved to the states when I was 15 so we could have a better life. In my culture, I grew up with a huge extended family and we stick close together, but now I have my own apartment and I love having my freedom. My mother often tells me that I should’ve been married years ago so she can have grandbabies, but I’m not ready for tha...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married to my husband for 13 years, but we have been together for a total of 23 years. We have one son and my husband is a great provider for our family. I am, however, concerned about the example of manhood that he’s displaying for our son. My husband is non-confrontational, so we haven’t argued in years. If we have a disagreement, he will just agree with me, t...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need some advice, although this may not be your area of expertise. I'm a 27 years and I met my partner on a nationwide Facebook group. Because of the online group, my partner and I have mutual friends across the country.  One friend, in particular, is trying my patience by blatantly hitting on my partner in direct messages and leaving racy comments on my partner’s posts....

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need some advice on a different kind of double standard with men and women. My ex-boyfriend has a lot of flaws and I overlooked them in the beginning because I was really in to him and wanted things to work out. For example, when we met, he told me he lived downtown in a brownstone. So a few weeks later, I went over to his place. I pulled up and he escorted me in through...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 14 years and we have two sons. My husband is a middle school principal and I work full time in an office. My husband and I have a great social life and we used to focus on keeping the romance alive in our marriage, but my boys are very active in sports now, so it’s hard to find time to hang out together. It has not affected my husband’s social life a...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm 46 years old and last year I married a man that's 18 years younger than I am. We met at the gym and the initial sexual attraction between us was magnetic, but I had my doubts about him, because of our age difference. It wasn’t long before we started having hot, passionate, sex and fell deep in love. He went above and beyond to let me know that this was more than just se...

Dear Steve and Shirley, here’s my ordeal. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and we have 3 beautiful children. One of my husband’s long-time ex-girlfriends died over the weekend and we were all shocked, because it was so sudden. My husband’s best friend is the deceased woman’s cousin, so he called to tell us the bad news. He said that the family was working out the funeral arrangements...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I are in our late 30s and have been married for 15 years . We’ve had some hiccups in our marriage and we went to counseling to fix the issues. I thought we were doing really good since the counseling, but here we are, a year later, and my husband’s insecurities got the best of him. He created a fake social media account and pretended to be one of my exes that...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have known my partner for 5 years and we have a child together. In the beginning, my partner cheated on me multiple times and I was very hurt, but I loved him and wanted to move forward with the relationship. Everything was fine for four years and then our relationship got stale and we started arguing a lot, so we mutually decided to take a break from each other for a lit...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my family has a church that they’ve been going to all their life and I recently joined. I decided to devote my life to fellowship and service at this church. My pastor is great but I always thought he was a bit creepy because of the strange relationship he has with my cousin. I had been watching them for a while and then in a stewardship meeting, my pastor mistakenly called...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am keeping a secret from my sweetie and I need your advice. When I was 18 years old and a senior in high school, I was in love with a beautiful girl who was also 18 and went to a neighboring school. We were each other's first everything! Our puppy love ended when we went away to college. I got a good job and got married right after college. By the time I was 37, I was div...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my girl and I have been together for three years and I instantly knew she was the one when I met her. She cooks, watches sports with me, and she supports my dream to be an entertainer. Our relationship was just perfect until about eight months ago, when I was on an adult website browsing through amateur home videos and I noticed one video with a background that looked just...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have found the man of my dreams and we have been together for 5 years. We have one child together and I’m pregnant with our second child. Our relationship is great but my boyfriend’s mother is a huge problem and I’m fed up with her inserting herself into every aspect of our lives. She comments on how we parent, our finances, my decorating style, how I cook and my housekee...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 55 year old black man and I’ve been divorced for two years and I feel that I’m a great catch for a nice single woman.  Last summer, I met a beautiful and curvy lady one morning when I stopped to get coffee on my way to work. I flirted with her and she flirted back, so I asked if I could get her number. We exchanged numbers and I told her I would call her later on tha...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a guy that I thought would be the man of my dreams, when we first met. He is a man of God and he would be a great father and husband to the right woman, but that woman is not me. I have a very high sex drive and this guy can’t keep up, so I lost interest in him and we broke up. He still takes me out on very nice dates and he visits me and my family every week, in hope...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a guy that I thought would be the man of my dreams, when we first met. He is a man of God and he would be a great father and husband to the right woman, but that woman is not me. I have a very high sex drive and this guy can’t keep up, so I lost interest in him and we broke up. He still takes me out on very nice dates and he visits me and my family every week, in hope...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married for a year now, and since then, we have both gained a considerable amount of weight. I've gained at least 40 pounds, which is totally unacceptable for me. This extra weight has caused me to have extreme self-esteem issues, so I have changed my eating habits, I go to the gym more and I started taking an herbal supplement that my trainer rec...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a hardworking, educated, financially secure, good looking mature woman with a lot to offer, but since my divorce, I had been having trouble with dating because the men I meet say that I have too many prerequisites and they lose interest. My goal was to meet a man age 55 to 65, but instead, I finally met a man that is 75 years old. He is retired and he’s everything that...

Dear Steve and Shirley, do you think that dating rules for seniors are different than those for younger people? I need to know cause I am trying to find love again and I’m over age 60. I'd like to think that a man aged 65 to 70 would think and act differently than he did when he was 25 to 30 years old, but that's not the case. When I meet men my age, they are still interested in the cookie and I n...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 42 year old single mother and I have two teenage children that live with me. At my age, I wanted to become a homeowner and stop renting, so I started looking for an affordable place to buy. My mom recently received a financial blessing, so she offered to buy me a house. Hesitantly, I agreed. I found a small, affordable home and my mother bought it. I pay the mortgage...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married to my childhood sweetheart for 8 years and we have two wonderful children. Early on, we had problems in our marriage and we were separated for a short period, but we worked things out and I thought we were back on track. My wife admitted that during our separation, she had flings with two other guys. She compared me to the guys she had the flings with an...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I want your honest opinions. I'm young and I have a great job, my own place and I'm happily single for now. Here's my issue. I don't think a strong independent woman should stand by a broke man or wait for him to reach his full potential. People always say I should not overlook a man that falls short financially but I prefer to remain strong because I am not afraid of being...

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for 11 years. My husband has three grown children from his previous marriage, two sons and a daughter. His sons are happily married but his daughter is not. My husband's ex wife constantly intrudes in our marriage and in her daughter's marriage. The daughter will not keep her mom out of her business and it upsets her husband. The ex-wife h...