Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, Four months ago I married the love of my life. So far, our marriage is great. I'm a head chef at a high end restaurant and I love my job, but I work long hours. There are a lot of beautiful single female servers and bartenders that work at the restaurant and it seems like since I got married these women have started to show me a lot of attention. A couple of the girls have...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married to a wonderful man for almost 30 years. He's an excellent father and provider, but over the years I've spent a lot of time alone in my marriage. At one point I was very lonely. There was a lot of love and kindness but no passion. A neighbor and I would talk occasionally and he picked up on my extreme loneliness and saw that I was vulnerable. He used it to...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm newly married and my husband told me that he was a freak when we started dating. He is loving and supportive, a hard-working family man and a great father, but he is constantly stressing me out over sex. He's an awesome lover but I can’t seem to keep up with his sex drive lately. I guess I’m in an open marriage because I’m sure he’s having sex outside of our marriage. I...

Dear Auntie Shirley and Uncle Steve, I have a problem with my real family members, so I want to be your niece instead. Here’s my problem… I’m a 28 year old woman that was raised by three uncles that were like father figures to me and I’m very close to all of them. One of my uncles is getting on my last nerve though. I’m really close with his daughter, my cousin, and she’s sick of him too. We grew...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 42 year old woman and I have been seeing a man for 6 months and we go out several times a week and we’ve started having sex. The intimacy is good, but he was a bit aggressive at first, so I had to get him to settle down a bit. But that’s not the problem I have with him. There are times I can’t reach him and when he’s non-responsive, he tells me he’s out with a friend...

Dear Steve and Shirley, My fiance and I have been together for four years. When we were dating I would sneak and go through his phone to see his text messages and call logs. He didn't have a password on his phone at the time. One day I went through his phone and I found exactly what I was looking for. I saw that my man had been texting his child's mom for a month and the texts to her were sexually...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am happily married and my wife and I have two kids. The problem is I have a female friend from college. My female friend is also married with two kids and she lives in another state. We hardly ever see each other, but we do keep in touch. Over 15 years ago, she and I had sex. My wife knows we were intimate in the past because we all went to the same college. The other day...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a man for 15 months and we are in a monogamous relationship. He’s 57 years old and I’m 49 years old and we’re both divorced. We get along well, but I need your advice. This past weekend, I stayed over at his house on Friday night, all day Saturday and Saturday night. On Sunday morning, we woke up and cooked breakfast and then we lounged around and watched f...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 13 years and 6 years ago my husband cheated on me and had a child by the lady he had an affair with. I had a hard time getting past this, but I did. We went to counseling and now I have a sweet stepdaughter to spoil. That happiness lasted a short period of time, because three years later, my husband cheated again................ Learn more about your...

Hello Steve and Shirley, I need your advice on an issue between my husband and I. We have been married for a year and he’s a wonderful husband, but we are not seeing eye to eye on how he reacts to well-endowed women. When we were dating, he always had a thing for admiring women in my presence. He didn’t care if they had two heads, but if they had big boobies or a big ole butt, his head was on the...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my mother and I are very close and live together. We recently relocated to a new city a few months ago because of my new job. My mother is retired and loves to go play bingo and she goes to the casino weekly. She also likes to date and entertain men that are too young for her. My mother is in her late 60s and I’m in my late 40s. The guy is 36 years old and they spend a grea...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I really need your help and advice with an embarrassing problem. I’m a 28 year old, healthy black male and I am single. Since I was 14 years old, I have been having frequent erections. I have been to several urologists and a specialist and each doctor told me that I’m completely normal. I have talked to my male friends and older men and they all say that it does not sound n...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 28 year old female and I have a 57 year old male mentor that I work with. He has given me great advice and helped me through some obstacles in my life. This is the first man that has ever treated me with respect and did not try to sleep with me. He is like a father figure to me and I call myself his play daughter. The only problem is his wife. He knew that I did not...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem and I've been praying over it for years but I can’t seem to get over it. I married a man when I was 26 years old and he was 41 years old. We had a great married life, a nice big home and three lovely children. I thought our fairytale would never end, but it did. We were married for 8 years and on his birthday, he asked me for a divorce and served me papers....

Hello Shirley and Steve, I am a 20 year old black woman who comes from a very loving and caring family that carries themselves in a very classy and respectful way. I’ve been taught since I was a little girl that men will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I am coming to you all because I need help. I can’t find a man that wants to be in serious relationship with me and I know about 90...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 30 year old beautiful and successful woman and I’m in love with a 44 year old, well-educated hunk that swept me off of my feet. When I met him, he told me that he was seeing someone in a long-distance relationship, but I still started dating this man, despite the news. After six months of dating, I did some research and found out that he proposed to this woman and she...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 28 year old wife and mother. My husband is 32. We’ve been together 10 years and got married 2 years ago. I don’t have any major complaints about my marriage, but my husband’s behavior is kind of strange lately. My husband and I met in college and we did what college couples do, we had sex every day or as much as we could. Now that I’m older and we have more responsib...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a loving and respectable married man that likes to flirt. My wife knows I’m a flirt and she just tolerates it because she knows nobody else wants me. I flirt occasionally at work and it gets me a couple of laughs and eyebrows raised and the ladies flirt back. I have a real-life work wife that I work closely with and my wife has met her so it’s no big deal. What my wife...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m just going to jump right in and get to it. I’m married and he’s married. We both have families. I have 3 kids and he has 4 kids. One of my kids is his. Our affair had been going on for 11 years and now we have a 2 year old son. He left me when I told him that I was pregnant. We both agreed for me to terminate the pregnancy, but he refused to give me the money, so I chan...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old married woman and my husband and I need your advice on an issue with our closest friends. Our friends are first time parents and their daughter is a toddler now. Since the child was born, we’ve been in a group text with the couple and 15 other people. My husband and I both hate text groups, but we humored the couple because they are really nice people. Th...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with a great guy for the past six years. We live an hour apart so it’s not far at all and we see each other regularly. When we spend time together, it’s wonderful and we have a lot of sex to make up for the times we’re apart. Although we have a lot of sex, it is never the romantic experience that I crave, because I’ve never seen my...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in my late 50s and I’m still a bachelor. I don’t have a problem meeting beautiful women and I don’t have a problem getting the cookie. I own a carpet business so I’m the person that goes to the customer’s home to do the initial meeting and get measurements. Three months ago, I went to a customer’s house and she was gorgeous.... Learn more about your ad-choices at https:...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 35 year old woman dating a 41 year old man. We’ve been dating for about 5 months and we had sex a few times before we actually decided to be in a relationship. The sex was always normal, nothing out of the ordinary and after the encounter, we wouldn’t talk for a while. Now we live together and I have come to realize that this man is a straight up nympho. It doesn't m...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have two children with my high school sweetheart. We both come from seriously dysfunctional families and we were all each other had. Shortly after we graduated, I got incarcerated for 18 months on a drug possession charge. During this time, my kid's mother met an older guy and he began to take care of her and my kids. He bought her a new car and moved her and the kids int...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 7 years and we have two young children. After having my second child, my desire to have sex decreased and it was a big problem in my marriage. My husband is a great dad and my best friend so I felt bad for him. I started back having sex with him, but I was never really into it like I had been in the past. I confided in my sister because she has a new...