Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need help getting back on track with my girl. My girl makes a big deal about Valentine’s Day even though I spoil her all year long. I’m a true romantic and I love this woman. I also have 2 female friends that I’ve known for many years and my girl is friendly with them. This Valentine’s Day, I went all out and prepared filet mignon, lobster tails, garlic mashed potatoes an...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 42 year old single man and I have a good job and my own place. My brother is a married man with 3 children and many mistresses. He always brings his mistresses to gatherings with the boys and I told him that’s probably not a good idea because most of them are baaad and the boys try to holler at them. I talked to him many times about the cheating because he’s always u...

Dear Steve and Shirley, in high school I liked a girl and she liked me. We talked on the phone and hung out together all the time and her mom and my mom were close too, so she was always at my house or I was at hers. By the time we graduated from high school, we were even closer and I told her that I wanted her to be more than my friend. She’s always been really close to her mom and tells her ever...

Dear Steve and Shirley, in high school I liked a girl and she liked me. We talked on the phone and hung out together all the time and her mom and my mom were close too, so she was always at my house or I was at hers. By the time we graduated from high school, we were even closer and I told her that I wanted her to be more than my friend. She’s always been really close to her mom and tells her ever...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 17 years to a man who I thought was trustworthy, honest and a good Christian man. We are both in our 40s and been together for 25 years total. For the last 4 years, he has been friends with a basic girl that he met at work. I call her basic because that’s what she is. I always have expressed how displeased I am with their friendship, but he insisted...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a relatively successful entrepreneur and I have had a lot of help along the way. I believe in returning the favor and helping other minorities advance any way I can. To that end, about year ago, I hired a 26 year old black female that graduated at the top of her class. I set her up with an excellent starting salary and her own office. I noticed she was not much of a tea...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship with a man for at least 12 years and we’ve known each other since we were children growing up in the church. We are the perfect couple. We have great memories and we always planned to spend the rest of our lives together. The only thing that’s coming between us is the woman he lives with. My man was in prison for 14 years but I was faithful to...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 46-year-old woman and I need your advice on dealing with the man I’m dating. He was the first in his family to graduate college and now he is a successful doctor with his own private practice. I am a doctor too and I work in a public health clinic, which is not in the safest community. My boyfriend loves to joke about me working in the hood. He is opinionated and arro...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have known my baby daddy since high school. When I was 20, I got pregnant and we moved in together, but he cheated a lot, so when my son was 6, we broke up and my mom offered to let him live with her temporarily. My son is 16 now and my baby daddy still lives with my mom. My mom has 7 sisters that are very messy and they’ve always joked with my mom about having a fine you...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 32 year old single woman and one of my best friends recently got engaged to a man she’s known for less than a year. I have a close-knit group of girlfriends and we were all single before the quarantine, but one of our girlfriends got bored and started talking to a guy she met in the airport. We think she got lonely at home alone with nothing to do and the little man f...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m married to a man that can’t control his mother. We’ve been married for 2 years and I have dealt with this since I met him. His mother went through a late-life crisis and has started shopping at Forever 21 and hanging out at cafes at night. I have warned her about Covid but she says alcohol kills the virus. If that’s the case, she won’t need the vaccination because she i...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 33 year old woman and I’ve been in a relationship for a year with a man that sends me mixed signals. We haven’t had sex because he’s the assistant pastor at church. I was a very sexual person before I met him and it’s hard for me to lie next to him without wanting to rip his clothes off. He decided to compromise so that I can get some kind of satisfaction. He allows m...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 41 year old woman needing advice on how to deal with my 39 year old friend. As you all know very well, we’ve all been dealing with being isolated in quarantine and while my friend was in lockdown, she decided she wants to be a popstar. She got laid off from work so she’s got a lot of free time and she says it’s time to pursue her dreams................. Learn more abo...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I are both in our early seventies and we've been married for 30 years. My husband has gained a significant amount of weight in the last 10 years and he’s changed in a lot of other ways. His table manners are terrible and he throws food in his mouth and sounds like he's out of breath the entire time he’s eating. He grunts and moans while he chews.................

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27-year-old woman and I inherited my great grandmother’s house 5 months ago after she died and I am having a big problem with my great grandmother’s caretaker. She’s my great grandmother’s closest friend and took care of my great grandmother for years. She’s had full access to the house and everything that belonged to my great grandmother, but she fails to realize it...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need some real honest advice because I’m in a serious situation. I’ve been married for 15 years to a very beautiful and wonderful woman. Lately the sex has gone from two or three times a week to once a week. About a year ago her sister went through a bad divorce and needed a fresh start in a new city, so my wife and I invited her to move to our city and stay with us till...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 27 years old and I have my degree in business management, with aspirations of owning a business one day and I’m on the right path to fulfill my goals. I’ve been dating a woman for a few months and she was everything I asked God for. She’s a go getter with a lot of ambition and a backbone. She’s not a pushover by any means and she has a foul mouth when I make her mad.......

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 7 years. I’m 43 and my husband is 38, but he acts like the world owes him something and always has a chip on his shoulder. He is argumentative and a wanna-be thug. He grew up in a rough area and he had to make it out of the hood on his own, but he won’t acknowledge that he’s in a much better place spiritually and financially now. He will preach a good...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 67 year old woman, married to a very handsome gentleman that is 13 years younger than me. We have been married for 4 years but we’ve known each other for 6 years. When we first met, he waited a while to have sex with me and it finally happened when we were away on vacation. I have always been the aggressor in the bedroom and he would just let me take advantage of him...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a 42 year old divorced man online a month ago and he was absolutely everything I had asked God for. We do Bible study every night, he has a very nice smile and he’s self-employed. He too said that I was everything he’d asked for in a woman and he was moving fast with our relationship. By our 3rd week of being together, he wanted me to come over and spend a night with...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help to figure out my situation with my husband. He is 36 years old, but he responds to any and every situation with either a temper tantrum or outburst of tears. If he’s excited, he cries. If he’s frustrated, he cries. If he’s angry, he has a temper tantrum. Marriage has its ups and downs but I can’t express myself to him without him getting emotional or stormi...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 33 year old woman and I’m dating a 35 year old man. For some background, we met about 3 years ago and after dating 3 years, we are now going on 1 year of living together. He has a great career, he has no children and he is an only child. I have a great career and I have 2 teenagers from two previous relationships, that I raised as a single mom. For the most part, lif...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 41 year old single man and I have a great job, my own car and a very nice apartment. Ideally, I want to buy a house and I’m working on it. There’s a beautiful woman that lives in my complex… She’s got that Nia Long vibe and she’s a chocolate goddess. We’ve seen each other in passing and I speak and she speaks back. She doesn’t have men going in and out of her place a...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a woman in my late twenties and my man is 32 years old. He has only had one other girlfriend and he’s inexperienced in being romantic. I’m all about the romance so I’m really into romantic comedies, but I think they are ruining my love life. I love my boyfriend. He has so many great qualities but when it comes to romancing me and woo’ing me, he falls short. I’m very par...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old mother with 3 children. My children’s father and I have been together over 10 years so let me say this before you bash me… he has asked to marry me him several times and I respectfully declined because we need to go to therapy before we get married. Here’s why… My confidence is at an all-time low because my children’s father has cheated many times...........