Stop Hating Dating and Find Your Person

Feeling lonely feels crappy. And a lot of us have feelings of loneliness come up for us, especially when we’re dating and wanting to find our person. I sure did! In this episode we’re talking about why we feel lonely and how we can feel less lonely as we are looking to find our person to share life with. WHAT YOUR LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Five tools/mindsets/exercises to help you reduce the volume a...

Ready to learn proven strategies for dialing down the perfectionist voice in your head? This episode is for you! We’re going over four tools you can implement immediately to tame and manage that perfectionist voice that blocks you from finding your person! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, by Elizabeth Gilbert Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Your...

We’re looking at ALL the ways perfectionism is talking to you in your head, and blocking you from dating and finding your person. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How perfectionism has you totally dissatisfied with the current state of dating How it gets you in the compare and despair loop How it has you putting off dating or taking breaks from dating How perfectionism convinces you not to try th...

Did you know you can create boundaries simply because you want to have as much as possible of what you want in your life? Comfort. Peace. Serenity. Safety. Closeness. Calmness. You can make sure you are taken care of instead of leaving it up to other people in your life. You can have boundaries to create whatever you prefer for yourself simply because you prefer it! Learning to set and uphold your...

In this fun quick episode I’m giving you my top 10 pieces of dating advice. These 10 things are what 99% most of my clients are shifting and evolving for themselves. Curious which ones you can focus on shifting and evolving of yourself? Have a listen and let me know! :) WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: The eight things you need to start doing to find your person The two things you need to stop...

What if you trusted YOURSELF to treat YOURSELF like a best friend even when you messed up or did something embarrassing? When you did something cringe worthy, instead of beating yourself up in our head and tearing yourself down - you were kind and loving to yourself like you’d be to a kid? I bet you’d take a lot more risks dating and have a better time! This week’s episode is all about having our...

Your future self is where you want to be - sharing your fabulous life with YOUR person. And guess what - she’s got SO much she wants to tell you. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: How to tap into the wisdom of your future self Specific questions to ask her How building your relationship with your future self can improve your relationship with yourself now How connecting with her gets you focuse...

If you’re not dating, taking a break from dating, or hating dating because all those terrible crappy uncomfortable feelings dating brings up in us - this episode is for you! WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: How avoiding, resisting and reacting to our feelings causes us more problems than the feelings themselves The oh-so common ways we avoid, resist, and react to our feelings What to do instea...

Are you feeling like you can fully heal until you make sense of what happened and get closure? You are not alone - this episode is for you. We are talking all things CLOSURE today! Whether you still looking for closure form a ex from years ago, a recent ghoster, a short term or long term relationship - this episode is for you! WHATE YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Why you want closure What closure...

If you’re like a lot of my clients, you have grumbled many times about people your messaging with, people on the apps, flakey dates - “The common decent thing to do would be {insert what you think they should be doing instead of what they are currently doing here!” If they’d just ask you out already… If the’d just confirm the date… If they just tell you what they want… All frustrating parts of dat...

In this episode we discuss how a big piece of the dating games is figuring out if your “wants” and their wants are a match. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: The importance of allowing people to be who they are, and want what they want. Knowing they are free to be them, you are free to be you, and you curiously have fun figuring out if your want matches are a long term match. We can ask for wha...

We think liking someone, feeling chemistry with them, and being attracted to them is an involuntary response to what they look like, what they do, and/or what they say. But in this episode you’re going to learn all about how it’s actually your thoughts about how they look, what they do and what they say that is actually causing your feelings. In this episode you’ll learn: The four ways of thinking...

On today’s episode we are jumping into heartache. And I am here to tell you, it is NOT a time and materials equation. For me and my clients, sometimes the short relationships can hurt worse because the person is still “perfect” in your story. We can feel heartbroken after just a few dates or the ending of a short situationship. IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN How and why your brain tries to get you t...

Today I’m sharing a dozen insights I gained from my 475 dates! An entertaining grab bag of of tips from my experience on the road to finding my person: My fav flirting tip when you on a date A trick I used to help my anxiety when I was waiting for the guy to text me and ask me out already! One of the best mindsets to adopt about dating and finding your person My ran through my head when I was info...

Let’s bring on, and bring out, your BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY! For some of my clients, the dating concept of being a high value woman messes with their head. And it messed with my head too when I was dating too - I’ll explain how. I’m offering we focus on getting aligned with our values and bring out our BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY! In this episode we’ll discuss: How the concept of being a high value woma...

Do you feel a rushed sense of urgency to find your person? Do you have a sinking feeling that something must have gone wrong - because you should have met them by now? Where is he, dammit? You are not alone - this week’s episode is for you :) We are going to explore what creates this hurried feeling in us. How wanting from scarcity feels terrible and how to shift your thinking How your brain think...

Does dating sometimes leave you feeling bummed out, discouraged, and/or frustrated? You’re not alone. There is a way to avoid getting stuck in those feelings. In this week’s episode you’ll learn how focusing your time, energy, and attention on the parts of dating within your control is your SUPER POWER! You’ll learn how to quickly spot when you’re stuck and how to get faster at shifting your focus...

In this episode I’m going to give you a new way to think about rejection and prove how it really isn’t about you! When it comes to dating, one of our biggest fears is rejection. Rejection stops many of us from even dating in the first place. Rejection makes some of us want to take loooonnnng breaks from dating. The fear of rejection makes many of us hide parts of ourselves. And I want to put a sto...

You know when you feel “confused” about someone you’re dating or getting to know? You sense something is “off”, but you can’t quite pinpoint why? This episode is for you - with the The High Five Relationship Tool - you’ll figure out what is going on, what’s missing, and if it’s worth continuing to invest in the relationship. Or maybe you think you have a “broken picker” - use this tool to become c...

Welcome to the stop hating dating and find your person podcast. If you’re looking for coach who has has swiped enough times to have mastered the online dating game and made their dream partner a reality - I’m your coach.  I found mine - now let’s find yours! With four years and 475 online dates under my belt, plus becoming a certified life coach, and starting my dating coach business, There i...