Still Becoming One

Send a text Brad and Kate explore how married couples can drift into feeling like roommates or business partners when they neglect emotional connection and intimacy. They discuss how busyness, misinterpreting intentions, and focusing solely on logistics create distance in relationships. Then offer some practical tools, including their own book of questions, as a path back toward intimacy. You can...

Send a text Brad and Kate explore how couples can maintain connection during inevitable busy seasons when marriage can't be the top priority. They share personal examples from their May celebrations of their children's graduations and how they've learned to navigate similar challenging periods. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text Brad and Kate Aldrich explore how seemingly healthy self-care activities might actually be "imitation self-care" that creates distance rather than true rejuvenation in marriage relationships. • Imitation self-care activities mimic real self-care but leave us feeling worse afterward • Binge-watching shows and mindless scrolling often become ways to avoid connection • The conte...

Send a text What happens when the very strategies we develop to care for ourselves actually pull us away from our partners? In this eye-opening exploration of "imitation self-care," we dive into the complex ways our coping mechanisms can disguise themselves as healthy practices while undermining our relationships. Imitation self-care is challenging to identify because it often contains e...

Send a text We examine the complexities of troubled marriages, challenging the idea that couples should "stick it out no matter what" while offering guidance on when to fight for your relationship and when boundaries might be necessary. • Understanding the difference between pursuing happiness versus finding fulfillment and contentment in marriage • Why staying together "just for th...

Send a text Special guest Adam Young joins us to discuss his new book, Make Sense of Your Story.  What if the relationship patterns you can't seem to break are rooted in stories you've never fully understood? Adam Young, therapist and host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast , joins us to explore how our earliest experiences continue to shape our most intimate relationships—and what w...

Send a text Brad and Kate Aldrich challenge the common belief that marriage problems stem from choosing the wrong person, revealing how our personal stories shape relationship patterns regardless of who we marry. Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text We explore the dynamic when husbands experience higher sexual desire than their wives, examining how both partners often feel broken or inadequate when confronting these differences. • Sexual desire disparity affects approximately 80% of marriages with the husband having a higher desire • Both partners suffer—husbands feeling rejected and wives feeling inadequate or broken • Harmful me...

Send a text Brad and Kate welcome J Parker, author of "The Higher Desire Wife," to discuss the often overlooked reality of wives who desire more sexual intimacy than their husbands and how couples can navigate this sensitive dynamic with understanding and compassion. • Sexual desire fluctuates throughout marriage, with partners' drives shifting multiple times over the years • Numero...

Send a text Relationship conflict is inevitable, but the key to healthy relationships lies in effective repair—acknowledging impact and taking responsibility rather than just saying, "sorry you were hurt." • Conflict in relationships is normal, but repair is essential for rebuilding connection • There's a critical difference between "I'm sorry you were hurt" and &quot...

Send a text Can a healthy marriage include moments where one partner "takes one for the team" sexually? This candid conversation tackles the sensitive reality of differing desire levels and how couples navigate intimacy when interest isn't mutual. We explore this often used metaphor and unpack how this dynamic typically unfolds - often with one partner silently sacrificing while har...

Send a text What defines family in today's complex world? We dive into the often misleading notion that blood is thicker than water, encouraging listeners to reflect on the diverse definitions of family.  We can seek to maintain loyalty to family while navigating the complexities of emotional needs in life. However, there's more to "family" than biological ties. We explore how...

Send a text Welcome to Season 4 of Still Becoming One. We are excited to continue our own journey of growth and to bring all of you along with us.  So What happens when high school sweethearts get married and realize they need to seriously address their struggles? That was our journey that eventually led to the creation of the Still Becoming One podcast. With roots that trace back to our One Flesh...

Send a text We hear it all the time: "My wife's not meeting my needs" or "My husband isn't meeting my needs!" What do we do about this? Of course, we want our spouse to meet our physical, emotional, sexual, and other needs. Yet, is it their responsibility to do so?  The struggle to juggle demanding jobs and family commitments makes this a very common feeling. We explo...

Send a text How do you keep the peace at Thanksgiving dinner when political differences arise? As we approach the pivotal 2024 election, we dive into the divisive topic of how to engage in compassionate and understanding discussions, even when opinions clash. Family dynamics during politically charged times can be tricky to navigate. We've seen too many families torn apart by the enmity and c...

Send a text Fawn and Keith Weaver take us on an unforgettable journey through their love story to becoming the CEO of the most-awarded American whiskey for 5 years running. Celebrating over twenty years of marriage, they share how their partnership was built on a foundation of deep connection, mutual respect, and connection with the Lord. Fawn's book, "Love and Whiskey," weaves thei...

Send a text You've been stuck feeling like roommates and don't know how to ask for more sexual intimacy. OR maybe your spouse is the one asking but in ALL the wrong ways. This episode promises to equip you with the tools to understand and navigate sexual frequency concerns that both partners often experience. Tune in as we share candid insights and anecdotes about setting realistic expec...

Send a text Tune in as we welcome the phenomenal Shannon Etheridge, a million-copy bestselling author who shares her transformative journey and the evolution of her work on sexual confidence. Discover the inspiration behind her book, "The Sexually Confident Wife," and how it has evolved into helping couples discover their sexual confidence together. Shannon's insights shed light on...

Send a text Every "yes" you give is actually a "no" to something else- usually without you realizing the cost at the time, which means we NEED to learn how to put up boundaries! Join us while we explore the art of setting boundaries in relationships and give you 5 steps to find and hold the necessary boundaries in your life! Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministr...

Send a text How long have you been carrying a secret too heavy to bear? Today, we address one of the most silent yet pervasive issues: the trauma of sexual abuse.  Drawing inspiration from our former guest, Lindsay Lautsbaugh's stirring sermon , we uncover the heartbreaking reality that the average age of disclosure is 51, underscoring the critical need for understanding and support. Sexual a...

Send a text Anxiety sometimes feels like a blaring smoke alarm in your life; it may be your own anxiety or your spouse's. You're not alone. On this episode of Still Becoming One, we are thrilled to sit down with Abby Foster, an LCSW from Lancaster Therapy Center , to unpack the nuances of anxiety and its profound impact on daily living and relationships. Abby illuminates the line between...

Send a text Discover the hidden challenges young married couples face today with our special guest, pastor Lindsay Lotzbaugh, who brings her wealth of experience from pastoring, missions, and motherhood. Lindsay opens up about sensitive topics like pornography, communication issues, and the critical lack of support systems that many newlyweds encounter. We explore how the generational gap in churc...

Send a text What does it take to navigate marriage and family life while serving as a missionary? Get ready to glean invaluable insights from seasoned missionary and pastoral minister Chris Lautsbaugh, who brings three decades of experience to our discussion. We promise you'll learn about the unique challenges and rewards of raising children in a foreign culture, dealing with financial stress...

Send a text What if understanding your partner's childhood wounds could transform your marriage? Join us as we sit down with Barb and Mark Case, a couple who have spent 35 years navigating the ups and downs of life together. They share their candid journey from the blissful early days of their marriage to the financial strains and significant life changes that marked their challenging "d...

Send a text Join us as we sit down with our dear friends Scott and Jenni Means to explore their incredible journey into marriage coaching. Scott shares his path from worship leadership to creating a curriculum that intertwines spiritual principles with marital relationships, a journey that has deeply enriched his and Jenni's marriage. Discover how their personal transformation has inspired an...