Sticky Q's

Adie had not heard this term before, so Tom takes the lead in navigating us through the ever-changing lingo. Learn how trends affect our ability to consent and communicate and how we can broach topics with our young people when we are clueless (p.s. Most of us are!) You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support S...

In part 2 of our interview with Lucy Crowley (our boss!) we discuss how parents and caregivers can use the law as a jumping off point to talk about what consent is and isn’t, and to collaboratively set healthy boundaries.  You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.fa...

There are laws about the age of consent to have sex, but what do they actually mean for parents and caregivers? This episode explores what’s behind age of consent laws and how a parent can best support their teenagers to navigate their sexual development while adhering to the law.    Adie and Tom talk about all this and more with none other than their boss, Lucy!   Lucy is the manager of SASS’s Pr...

This is a hot topic, and we think adults and young people alike would love to know the answer.  Tom and Adie give it a red-hot go, discussing the nuances and challenges that come with deeply understanding and practising consent.  You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https:/...

As the impact of sexual harm becomes more well known, young people are seeking answers about who to believe – a sticky question to answer if we as adults don’t understand what’s going on. In this episode, we unpack our tendency to ignore bad news and do some self-reflection on how complicated things can get when you know someone involved in a harmful experience. In this episode we reference harmfu...

You’d think this would be a short answer, of course it’s legal to defend yourself!  This is a common response when we talk about boundaries, but reality is that using physical force to protect ourselves isn’t as straight forward as it sounds in the context of an intimate relationship. But how do we draw that line?  When do we know that our actions are justified?  Turns out there’s much more to unp...

In part 2 of our interview with Conrad, we dive a little deeper into the risks of online ‘relationships’, the nuance between child sexual abuse and exploitation and what are the best prevention strategies we have.  This is a candid conversation with one of the world’s foremost thinkers in this space. In this episode we reference: AFP and AUSTRAC target offshore sextortion syndicates preying on Aus...

If a relationship is online, it can’t be THAT dangerous, right?  For this sticky, yet common question, we meet with specialist Conrad Townson who is a Principal Advisor on Child Sexual Exploitation (CSE).  In part 1, we learn what CSE is, what to look out for and how to talk to young people about the risks. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produ...

This week we’re answering a very straightforward question, WHY?!  Sexual harm is prevalent in our world, and we talk a lot about how to prevent it.  That becomes much easier when we understand why and this week, Tom and Adie will unpack some of the most common reasons.  In this episode, we reference the following: Identifying and understanding child sexual offending behaviour and attitudes among A...

Welcome to season 3!  We’re thrilled to be back and jumping straight in the deep end with this sticky question. We want to destigmatise conversations about consent in every context and help you to talk with your young people about whether they are ready or not to try things they may have heard about. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at...

A straightforward question, with a complicated answer! Transparency is usually our go-to when it comes to talking with young people about their safety, but sometimes it’s not quite that simple. Adie found this question difficult to answer and reflects on her thinking with Tom. Join us in our season finale as we challenge ourselves with a very sticky question. You’ll find more questions and answers...

Grown-ups aren’t always great at having vulnerable conversations, even though we’ve had loads of time to practise! In this episode we talk about the unique considerations and pressures young people face when it comes to opening up about their experiences, and the things adults can do to make it easier, safer and more supportive for young people who might be seeking help. You’ll find more questions...

We’ve received so many questions about online influencers this year!  In this episode we talk about our own journey of changing how we address these questions in class and offer tips to help caregivers unpack the drivers and solutions to harmful attitudes online.  You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Ser...

For our second interview episode this season, we turned to Ebony for an answer to this question. Ebony is a counsellor and crisis response worker who has extensive experience helping people in family violence situations. She really opens our eyes about the nature of family violence and the victim/survivor experience.  We talk about how to spot the signs and support a young person in a harmful situ...

Putting your heart out there is scary! This week we talk about why this fear is so common and the social pressure that young people are under when it comes to dating and intimacy. We offer practical advice on how to use consenting conversations to create safety in vulnerability. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assa...

Talking to your child about pornography can be really daunting as a caregiver. In this episode, we dissect the ethical questions surrounding pornography and suggest how young people can think critically about what they might be seeing. We also discuss the impact that pornography has on consenting intimacy, and cover strategies for preventing harm. Tune in as we lift the lid on a taboo topic. In th...

Is jealousy ok or is it a red flag? In this episode we explore the line between expressing big and difficult emotions and coercive control within relationships. It’s an issue of rising concern in Australia as we’re only just starting to understand what is considered ‘normal’ and ‘okay’ within teen relationships today. We’ll cover the basics of what coercive control is, what it looks like and how w...

Part 2 of our conversation with Renae about harmful sexual behaviours in young people.  If you haven’t listened to part 1, please start there!  Here in part 2, Renae explains how to talk to kids about sexual behaviour and the current best practice when it comes to prevention and intervention of harmful sexual behaviours. Heads up, this episode includes explicit conversation about sexual harm. In t...

For one of our toughest questions yet, we are bringing in our first guest!  Renae Pepper is a psychologist specialising in children and adolescents engaging in harmful sexual behaviours, and she’s joining the podcast to help answer this very sticky question.   It’s a big topic; in part one of our conversation Renae explains the impact of trauma, the causes of harmful sexual behaviour in young peop...

Welcome back for season 2!  We’re getting straight to it with a very sticky subject, emotional manipulation. We’ll discuss what manipulation and grooming behaviours look like, why it can be hard to detect, and how it undermines safe, consenting intimacy. Tune in for practical insights on recognizing red flags and empowering young people (and yourself!) to handle these challenging situations. In th...

This is one of our favourite questions we’ve been asked! Adie and Tom talk through what we can do if we realise we’ve caused harm to someone, ways we can reflect and how we can change behaviour. The episode also discusses the lack of good role models in owning our mistakes and the gap in our community support for young people who have caused harm but want to change. Findings from the 2017 National...

Sadly, this is a pretty common experience. In this episode, Tom & Adie talk about the warning signs our body gives us when we feel unsafe, what our options are, and what it means to be an ‘Ethical Bystander’ when we see someone in distress. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Fac...

This can be a really scary prospect for people. What do we do when a breakup feels like it’s becoming unsafe? Adie & Tom walk through what our rights are and what kind of supports we can access personally and professionally. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://...

Technology moves faster than we can keep up with. Young people are dealing with social situations and expectations that adults often can’t even comprehend. In this episode, Tom & Adie talk about the crazy world of online messaging, sexting, nudes and how to manage your boundaries in a constantly changing landscape. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qs This podc...

Heads up, this episode will include explicit conversation around sexual harm. This is a tough one – There are so many reasons why someone might not want to get help after an assault, and it can feel like an impossible task to know but also keep it to yourself. In this episode, Adie & Tom talk through our options when someone discloses to us but asks us to keep it to ourselves – Who the profess...