Spiritual Firestarter

We have all been criticized by someone at some point- school. parent, partner, work... When done consciously, criticism CAN be an integral part of growth! Many of us know however, the damage it can cause when done unconsciously. How our healing and awareness are crucial to routing through it clearly- What to look out for in others and how to demonstrate empowerment in your response.

My kid dropped something- it shouldn't be a big deal...So why are we really flipping out?? How generational trauma shows up in even the simplest thing going wrong... What's really going on and what to do if you want to change that crap.

We've all been there- the trying to "do it all" shitshow, especially as parents (and up that as traumatized parents!). Reluctantly, I allowed my higher self to (finally) take the damn wheel. And I was shown so beautifully how doing something for yourself is not only crucial to feeling good and present but leads to making real ripple effects on the world around you.

Healing is beautiful and has changed my life for the better. We've all had moments that CONSISTENTLY doesn't feel right- situation, relationship, where we work or live... There was a tough situation I was in recently where I thought, "if I just heal more, do more inner work, change my perspective, then it will be ok! I must be the issue..." Spirit shocked me with what was really happening, and it...

We all have thoughts, ideas and dreams and we get super excited to share with someone! I had to learn (the hard way of course) that not everyone is meant to receive our ideas. And how I learn from this with parenting my kid...

Some of us had a parent physically absent, some of us had the parent there but they didn’t meet our emotional needs (emotional abandonment). A surprising way the shadow can show up as an adult that a lot of us write off as "something else". And how to work with your shadow so you stop projecting that crap...

Before healing and awakening, I was an emotional wall.  A recent event went awesomely sideways, and I was called "Dramatic"!! (Gasps dramatically)  We may have heard this from parents, partners, even friends...  What being "sensitive" or "dramatic" REALLY is and what it reveals about the person SAYING it.

Shadows are sneaky...because we don't really want to see them… If you've gone through trauma, chances are your shadows are trying to control SOMETHING- partner, kids, schedule etc. And that silly mind of ours will try to convince us with plenty of reasons why it's care and not control... A question that helped me get to the bottom of an area I finally realized I was trying to control...

For many of us, it wasn't safe for us to bring mistakes and problems to our caregivers growing up.  Besides the punishments, there was the extra fun guilt and shame programming... that wouldn't just hurt you then but stuck to you like glue for years to come! I started doing 2 main things with my son and I already started seeing the payoff even at 6 years old...

We see tons of content on Emotional Intelligence, controlling our thoughts and emotions, being more "conscious"... we know this is good so why can't we do it sometimes?? Because most of us were taught the opposite- "look what YOU made me do!" from parents and caregivers growing up- That the OUTside environment causes OUR emotions... By re-training our brain to catch and control the "Interpretation...

We have all been there- either as parents or as bystanders- the "public meltdown"... (enter horror movie music)... Especially if you come from a trauma background yourself, you are fighting a double battle when your kid flips out in front of others. We hear "it takes a Village"- what "Village"??  Cycle-breaking can feel like you are up against everyone else in the room the thing is happening...

There has been a TON of posts on social media about traumatized adult children going “no contact” with their parents recently and I was tagged in a bunch asking for feedback. I went through this personally.  We say we're "no contact" but are we REALLY?? There was a major realization that came from it, and as cliche as it sounds, it changed my life...

Where my Hermits at?? (OR those who would love to be but feel they "can't"? ) Before Awakening and healing I LOVED being alone... And after healing I STILL do!  To some, that may sound anti-social or "mean", but there is MAJOR difference between the unhealed and healed versions of it...

We want something to work so badly that we try to convince ourselves that it's something that it really isn't. As humans we've all done it at some point- relationships, friendships, jobs... Sometimes the idea of seeing the truth of the situation is too painful to face so we ignore red flags. Spirit had to literally close a place to stop me from ignoring what I already knew....

All parents understand this, but even if you're NOT a parent-  If you have ever tried to tell someone they are doing "something wrong" in front of others... HOW you approach someone will determine if they TRULY hear you and will show if either (or both!) of you are being led by your heart or drug around by the ego...

My ego HATES me sharing this...but nowadays I acknowledge them kindly and do it anyway lol. You will have to get really honest to get through this one, even if it's just with yourself- have you ever gotten annoyed or angry that someone seems to have/had it "easier" than you??  Especially if you had a crazier "than your average bear" childhood and/or your siblings had a different upbringing than yo...

What started as a silly battle for the remote between my kid and a family member, turned into such a bigger lesson. So many of us were raised with people that could "talk the talk" but "walking the walk" was a different story. Requests to kids are "easy" to do, but can YOU do the thing you are asking for? And what to do when our reactions get ahead of our awareness (because we're human and it happ...

We don't get this ONE thing we wanted or thought we needed... Something TERRIBLE happens to us... It doesn't feel good at the moment I know, but what if you always knew it was blessing that we don't know why yet. An amazing story of how something "terrible" happening was a blessing that resulted in a literal miracle....

Selfless, sacrificing, gives her all to her family... There was something I was looking forward to for a long time and then something "came up" for my husband... I had to choose who I was going to take care of, and it wasn't easy. Try this visualization technique if you have trouble choosing yourself too.

A trip to the movie theater with my kid and his friend went sideways omg... You will never know the depth of your healing in calm waters... Why keeping up with your healing is so important for when the shit hits the fan, because as humans it will.

Christmas/Holidays get "interesting" when you Awaken.  Last year, I wanted to "wake everyone up" and/or hide lol. So, you would think that another year of un-learning would lead me to hate it even more, right? Something happened that shocked the shit out of me (and I think my family too...).

It can be exhausting. Sometimes I feel like I'm in constant hypervigilance with consciously handling family when my kid says or does "something"... This was a super stressful situation that needed handling on both sides to see the real issue. This story can help especially when a kid feels jealous or resentment of a younger or older sibling/relative.

We've all been there- I had a situation that was out of alignment, but I didn't know what to do... So, I made a move, ANY move to give the Universe more "play" room- it got way WORSE?!  That's definitely how it felt, but even that was a Divine step, I just couldn't see how yet. The craziness brought on a huge realization that changed my thoughts on my parenting as well as what it means to be "on p...

Awakening has changed my perspective on so many programs that were running my entire life- the big guy is up next!  The idea of Santa has shifted for me, my mom was super thrilled of course. A specific event opened up my awareness on why I couldn't stick to the original story. How I now talk about it with my kid that doesn't kill the "magic" while still maintaining honesty.

I thought I had a good gratitude practice going... My son pulled me into one of the most profound gratitude moments I have ever had, and you should do it too!