Speak Your Mind Unapologetically Podcast

Find out why not speaking up is hurting your financial wellness, and what to do about it. This is a two-part series with a total of 16 powerful ways for you to protect your money by being more assertive. In this episode, you'll get 8 ways, and another 8 in the  previous episode . In this episode, you'll discover: ✔️ 2 things to ask your accountant or financial advisor before you decide to work wit...

Find out why not speaking up is killing your money, and what to do about it. This is a two-part series with a total of 16 powerful ways for you to be more assertive with your money. In this episode, you'll get 8 ways, and another 8 in the next episode . In this episode, you'll discover: ✔️ Excuses you tell yourself to not take charge of your money ✔️ Why employment benefits are usually not used an...

Let's face it, women face many disadvantages at work: Male-favoring workplace cultures Dominating and aggressive male personalities Gender bias and gender pay gap Double-bind effect Glass ceiling Limited childcare support Sexual harassment Discriminated when pregnant or with children Automatically assumed to be less committed than men Limited sponsorship Women are often talked over, interrupted, p...

Have you ever written an email or letter to someone who you were frustrated with? It's tempting to send a scathing message to someone to prove them wrong or to express how miserable they made your life, because it feels really good to express yourself. However, when the main goal of a letter or email is to vent off frustration and to prove yourself right to the other person, then that is an angry...

Are most of your compliments a "great job" or "well done?" Those are shortcut compliments, the least effective form of positive feedback. They are vague and don't provide any insight as to what you liked and why you liked it. They are also ineffective to change behavior because the compliment receivers will not know what behavior led to the compliment. Limitation 1 – Did you know that many people...

Not all judgement is created equal. You can't get rid of others judgment of you, but you can police the access doors to your inner sanctuary. Here are 12 questions to help you know when to not take judgment and criticism seriously: Will their judgement matter 3 years from now? Can their judgement cause you any real harm? Does the judgement have any significant meaning for you? Are they actually ju...

Do you know the difference between introvert, shyness, passive behavior, and social anxiety? Many people confuse those terms and use them interchangeably. It took me a long to understand the difference. It is useful to understand what each one means so that you can focus on what you need the most. Introversion is about your energy. Shyness is fear of people's judgement. Social anxiety is extreme s...

Worry about what people think is like a lasting fog on your happiness path. Don't worry about what people think of you, worry about what you think of you. Here is how you can increase your focus on yourself so you can stop worrying about what others think of you and start being free. Complete the following phrases: "Success is …", "My top values are …", "The purpose of what I do is …", "My top goa...

To feel more confident, often all you need is an outside perspective to get out of your negative overthinking. Here are 8 ways to change your perspective on a negative interaction. Write it out as if writing to someone else. Consider who you are and what you stand for. Share it with someone who will give you honest feedback. Research it to gain more knowledge. Play your own devil's advocate. Ask f...

Find out the secret sauce to speaking up with assertive communication in a heart-driven way. Heart-centered assertive communication is communication that brings people together to help each other out while at the same building the relationship. These are the 10 principles to keep in mind as you are assertive in a heart-centered way. 05:39 Courage 07:20 Candid 09:19 Curiosity 12:25 Centered 13:26 C...

The top reason people shy away from speaking up and expressing their needs, boundaries, desires, true thoughts, and feelings are their fears of speaking up. This happens especially with those who don't like to confront others or to engage in conflict because of these fears, that many are very aware of but don't know how to overcome. Any people pleasers out there? Nice people? When you don't fully...

Do men not take you seriously at work? Being a woman in a male-dominated workplace is not easy.... Do guys question everything you do? Your credibility? Underestimate your intelligence? Even guys with less experience! Do you feel like you have to constantly prove yourself? Unfortunately, sexism and gender bias is a real thing! And being the only woman in the room or one of the few around makes it...

If you are the kind of person that is very nice, or if you want to make sure you don't hurt other people's feelings, or if you really want people to like you, chances are you dread conflict and confrontation. Ironically, by avoiding conflict and not bringing up important issues that bother you in a timely manner, you may end up hurting people, being mean, and pushing people away from you. Sooner o...

Is fear holding you up from speaking up? One of the biggest challenges people face when trying to speak up comes from inside: it's their fears. Fear of backlash, fear of being misunderstood, fear of upsetting other people, fear of retaliation, fear of being reported on, fear of not being liked, fear of being labeled difficult, fear of bothering people, worry that you'll be ignored no matter what,...

It can hurt when someone responds to what you say by saying, "are you on your period?", "you're too sensitive," or "you seem very emotional." In the example I share in this episode, this businesswoman responds to the accusation in a very assertive way in five simple steps. She imposes her boundaries and stays positive in the end. Get the show notes here. Responding to unfair accusations is part of...

This is the best time of the year to review and celebrate your accomplishments, learnings, and experiences. How do you review your year? Join me as we honor and acknowledge your year together! This episode is part 1 of a 3-part series that will walk you through your year-end review with eye-opening questions. These annual review prompts will help you reflect on, appreciate, and celebrate your year...

Many people think they have to be aggressive to get ahead in their careers because of the aggressive work culture in many companies. But they are not willing to be that kind of person. And the worst part is they feel that if they don't want to be an aggressive, rude person, then they will certainly stay stuck forever. The reality is that you can be a nice person and get ahead at the same time. You...

Do you feel like you're always being judged by others? Do you feel like people judge you unfairly? Does it bother you? Let me show you how to worry less about being judged. Judgement always feels like a threat, but most of the time it isn't. And in the few moments where there is a real threat, you have more influence over the outcome then you think. Not all judgement is created equal. You can't ge...

It can feel intimidating to speak up in meetings with many people, that have people more senior than you, or where everyone speaks at the same time. Speaking and participating in meetings doesn't have to be difficult!  In this episode, you'll discover 7 great techniques to easily insert yourself into those meeting conversations, so that you never have to enter and leave a meeting in complete silen...

No one likes to be interrupted. Everyone likes to feel heard. If you feel like people interrupt you often, walk all over you, and don't listen to what you have to say, then there are some techniques that can help you better handle interruptions in an elegant way. In this episode, you'll find out many strategies to handle rude interruptions graciously. To learn more about how to stand up for yourse...

In this interview, Asia shares 3 ways to promote your work in a non-weird way, how to become the CEO of your career, and the dangers of people-pleasing for your career. Asia is the founder of the bad boss breakthrough initiative and Bridgewell professional services. Asia is a leadership and empowerment expert, professional coach and speaker, and coaches accomplished professionals who are already t...

If you don't have a confident assertive non-verbals and body language, people won't take you seriously even if your words are impressive. Non-verbals include posture, eye contact, hands, head, voice, and gestures. In this episode, you'll discover how to master your non-verbals so that you feel more confident, feel respected, and heard. To learn more about boosting your confidence with assertive co...

Do you struggle with any of these communication challenges at work? Feel underappreciated, under-valued and not recognized for your hard-work? Often find yourself quiet in situations where you wish you had said something? Ruminate and replay responses over and over in your mind?  Feel conflicted between speaking up and being a decent nice person?  Are afraid of sounding mean, aggressive, or rude w...

Saying no and setting boundaries is challenging for giving people. Do you ever: skip your already short vacations; take work calls during dinner? Work more after hours more than you'd like? Accept unreasonable deadlines? Take more work trips than you'd like; Take on a work that is other's responsibility? Take the hit for other people's mistakes? Work often during your vacations? My friend, it's ti...

Confidence makes us feel good, increases our performance, and also changes how other people treat us. The question is, how can you quickly increase your confidence? I interview Paulette Dale, Ph. D., professor Emeritus, and author of "Did You Say Something, Susan? How Any Woman Can Gain Confidence With Assertive Communication" to find out how to build confidence with assertive communication. In th...