Single Mother Survival Guide

In this episode, I'm exploring what actually creates happiness after divorce, and why it's often not what we think. Many of us believe we'll finally be happy when the divorce is finalised, the finances are sorted, the co-parenting settles down, or a new relationship comes along. While those things can certainly help, lasting happiness doesn't have to wait until everything in life is fixed. I share...

In this episode, I'm talking about what I believe is one of the biggest mistakes women can make after separation - staying emotionally stuck in the story of what happened. While it's easy to focus on the practical challenges of separation, the emotional patterns we hold onto can have an even greater impact on our healing, confidence, and future. I explore what emotional stuckness can look like, wh...

In this episode, I shift the focus to parenting toddlers as a single mum, a stage that can feel incredibly demanding and overwhelming. Alongside the tantrums, big emotions, and constant needs, you're also carrying the full load of daily life, often while feeling exhausted and stretched thin. I introduce the Circle of Security approach, which centres on one powerful idea: your child needs you as bo...

In this episode, I introduce the concept of emotion coaching and how it can completely shift the way you parent your teen. For many of us, we were never really taught how to handle emotions growing up... often learning to suppress, ignore, or fix them instead. So when our children express big emotions, it can feel uncomfortable and hard to know what to do, or even trigger us. I share how emotion c...

In this episode, I'm talking about what it's really like to parent teens as a single mum, and why it can feel so intense and overwhelming. Beyond navigating teenage emotions and behaviour, you're also carrying the full mental load of running a household, managing finances, and handling co-parenting or solo parenting dynamics. While I'm still learning in this stage myself, today I share a few pract...

In this episode, I'm talking about how to help your child study especially during those early high school years when everything can feel overwhelming for both you and them. I share a different way of thinking about studying, not as something kids should automatically know how to do, but as a skill that needs to be taught and supported. We explore how creating emotional safety, staying regulated as...

In this episode, I talk about one of the hardest moments many single mums experience - when your child says they want you and your ex to get back together. If you've ever heard those words, you'll know how quickly guilt, sadness, and self-doubt can come up. I share why your child expressing this doesn't mean you've made the wrong decision, but rather that they are trying to process the changes in...

In this episode, I talk about financial independence and why it matters so much in the life of a single mum - not just practically, but emotionally too. Through my work with women over the years, I've seen how closely financial independence is tied to emotional independence. When you begin to feel more capable and in control of your finances, something powerful shifts within you. In this conversat...

In this episode, I talk about high-conflict co-parenting and why it can feel so overwhelming and difficult to navigate. If you're dealing with a high-conflict ex, I want you to know, you're not crazy, and this isn't just about two people who don't get along. I explore how these dynamics are often linked to the nervous system, and how understanding this can shift the way you respond and protect you...

In this episode, I talk about something that isn't often spoken about after separation or divorce - the identity crisis that can follow. While so much focus is placed on the logistics and practical changes, many single mums find themselves quietly asking, "Who am I now?" when everything familiar has shifted. I explore why this transition can feel so destabilising, especially when you've gone from...

In this episode, I talk about something many single mums struggle with after separation - how to stop letting your ex control your mood. If a single message, email, or interaction can ruin your entire day, you're not alone. This is a common challenge that comes up again and again in my coaching work. In this conversation, I share why this dynamic happens and offer a few practical tips to help you...

In this episode, I talk about the emotional rollercoaster of dating after divorce or separation. For many single mums, the idea of dating again can feel exciting, overwhelming, and even a little terrifying (especially if the dating world looks completely different from when you were last single). Some women jump straight back in, while others feel scared or swear they'll never date again. In this...

In this episode, I talk about something that comes up again and again when I'm coaching single mums: the idea of needing closure. Many women feel like they can't truly move forward until their ex apologises, admits what happened, or finally understands their side of the story. But here's the thing - closure doesn't have to come from the other person. In this conversation, I explore why waiting for...

In this episode, I discuss something many single mums face, but few people prepare you for - your first weekend without your children. The silence, the empty bedrooms, the strange feeling in your body when the house suddenly feels too quiet. It can feel deeply unsettling, like a huge emotional shift that no one warns you about. In this conversation, I share why that first weekend can feel so hard,...

In this special 500th episode, I take a moment to reflect on the journey of the podcast and the many conversations I've had with single mums over the years. After hundreds of episodes, coaching sessions, and messages from this community, I've noticed a pattern in things that come up again and again.  This episode is a distillation of the patterns, fears, blocks, breakthroughs, and truths I've witn...

In this episode, I'm talking about co-parenting and why it can feel so triggering - sometimes even more than when you were in the relationship. If you've ever wondered, "Why is he still affecting me?" or felt frustrated that one text message can shift your entire mood, this conversation is for you. I explain why co-parenting is such a uniquely complex dynamic - distance without disconnection, resp...

In this episode, I'm talking to the single mum who's quietly wondering, "What is wrong with me?" If you've been feeling more emotional, more exhausted, or less able to cope than you used to, this is for you. I share the important difference between change and transition, and why feeling disoriented or overwhelmed doesn't mean you're broken. It may simply mean you're in transition. And that's somet...

In this episode, I talk about the invisible shock that can follow separation, even when you were the one who chose it. There's a myth that if you initiated the breakup, you should only feel relief. But separation is still a loss, a rupture, and a nervous system shock. Mixed emotions like grief, sadness, confusion, and relief can exist at the same time, and that doesn't mean you made the wrong deci...

This week, I wanted to have an honest conversation about something we hear a lot as single mums - "You're so strong." While it's often meant as a compliment, I want to explore why that phrase can sometimes feel like a burden rather than support. When you're juggling work, parenting, co-parenting, emotional stress, and maybe even a hostile ex, being told "you're strong" can quietly reinforce the id...

When we go through a separation or divorce, it's not just the end of a relationship; it's the unraveling of almost every part of our lives. Our routines shift, our finances change, our plans for the future are rewritten, and our sense of identity can feel completely shaken. Everything we thought life would look like suddenly flips upside down, and the impact of that runs far deeper than most peopl...

Your 40s can be a season of transition - physically, emotionally, and hormonally.  In this episode, we talk about how to work with your body rather than against it. You'll learn why awareness is the key to navigating this stage with confidence, how to adapt your habits to support your changing body, and why prevention and self-care matter more than ever. Links mentioned in the episode:  To support...

Dating as a mum is a completely different world compared to dating before kids. It's not just about chemistry anymore; it's about compatibility, respect, and the kind of energy someone brings into your life (and potentially, your children's). In this episode, we're diving into the realities of dating as a single mum - the emotional hurdles, the practical challenges, and the powerful growth that co...

Today's episode is all about the emotional rollercoaster that comes with sending your child off to school - whether it's their very first day in kindy, their start in high school, or another big transitional year. While we're busy sorting uniforms, stationery, lunchboxes, and the endless school admin, there's a whole other layer happening quietly underneath: our emotions. For mums (especially sing...

Rebuilding confidence as a single mum after big life changes can be incredibly difficult. But here's the truth: confidence isn't something you're born with, it's something you rebuild , one small step at a time. In this episode, I share five gentle yet powerful steps to help you reconnect with your confidence and sense of self. You'll learn how to acknowledge where you really are (without pretendi...

As single mums, it's so easy to start the new year feeling like we need to do more - being more productive, achieving more, earning more... But what if your "best year yet" wasn't about doing more… but feeling more? More joy, more peace, more confidence?... In this episode, we'll take a step back and reflect before we reset. You'll be guided through gentle self-reflection questions to help you und...