simplicity of happiness

Worry fear and being scared is often routed in the past or the future. Most often the worst a moment right now can be, is unpleasant. Worry and grief often comes from the past, from something that already happened. Fear and anxiety on the other hand comes from thoughts about the future. As the future is never present it is only the thoughts that create the anxiety. The thoughts are created by your...

What scares you most may be, what you secretly desire. I am convinced that every one knows the feeling of fear. * fear of being hurt * fear of failure * fear of not being liked * fear of being left alone * fear of being unimportant * fear of being forgotten There are a ton of different reasons to be scared, Only very few deal with physical harm though. While it makes sense to fear pain and stay al...

It has been a while that I moved from Berlin and it has even been a few years more that I started my journey to minimalism. There was a time when I could not let go of excess stuff. While my income was increasing I purchased new stuff every once in a while but I did not let go of the old. I used to have closets full of clothes, most of them I never wore. After I found out that less could actually...

Don’t we often mistake the symptoms for the cause? Somehow this seems to be a a very humanly behavior because we don’t only do it for ourselves. I have recently been on a road trip through Germany and I was shocked to see how many forests all over the country where dying. A result of the heat I thought and a research showed that they actually die because of some bugs. But the bugs have been there...

In preparation for this episode I wanted to look for something special at first. Then I realized, that it doesn‘t matter if it was episode 200, 300, 1000 or any random number in between. It is always the most important episode that I am recording at the moment. Life is a progress and always now. Therefor it also doesn‘t make sense to feel grief about the past or anxiety about the future. I found o...

During a coaching I was reminded of a metaphor I once heard and am going to tell you in this episode. What does this metaphor mean for your life? What can you do about it? Follow me at: https://patreon.com/flohjoe https://instagram.com/flohjoe https://youtube.com/flohjoe https://facebook.com/flohjoe

I kept myself busy while being locked down and build myself a little farm in the mountains. As so often I get inspired when doing something else. I had a lot of hatching eggs lately and they have been teaching me patience. Some of them hatched way earlier than expected and other took for ever and although there is basically a living bird inside the egg there is nothing you can do to release it. If...

With a lot of quiet time there is space to think. About life and what it means to us, to me. What will happen when we don‘t put the money on the table and expect the most for it. Most people on earth being locked away gives plenty of room for other things. Such as nature, or reflexion. So I ask myself, what if we take this time to not ask for the biggest bang for the buck, but ask ourself, what we...

I struggle at the moment. I trained myself over the last year to always look out for the positive. Every crisis has a chance to grow and still it feels awful to be in the middle of one. It is easy to loose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel. One thing I learned to cope better with the frustrations is to be absolutely open and vulnerable. Communicate the struggles. By finding words there i...

The current situation is affecting me as many others, but since we decide ourself how we deal with it, I am raising the question, what I/we could do with it. What is it that I could do, to help you in this situation? Shall I do a daily show? Shall I cover specific topics? Let me know! florian@simplicity-of-happiness.com Follow me at: https://patreon.com/flohjoe https://instagram.com/flohjoe https:...

As we talked about growth... there is always room for it. You will not reach the end of growth, because you can also move on from the position you are at in the moment. I had a 15min speed coaching session with John Lee Dumas of Entrepreneurs on Fire. He became as financially successful as you you can be with a Podcast. Even for him there is room to improve, because becoming successful in one thin...

The beginning of this year has been in the name of change and growth. Mainly how to embrace struggle, failure and backsets into a learning possibility and the opportunity to grow. A belief and mindset that helps you on that journey is the realization that what brought you here won‘t get you there. When you reached a plateau and that is were you want to be, all you need to to is continue as before....

As you know, I love the ocean. I love sailing and it makes a perfect metaphor for life. It also is a decent tool for coaching, mainly because of the lack of distraction. You have a clear routine and in between a lot of time where you can’t do lot. You can’t go anywhere and even on the boat the options are limited. That might come close to the natural daily routine of our ancestors and gives you pl...

In the last episodes I talked about the up & down cycles of success (and happiness), the opportunities, and the possibility of growth. All of these need you to see and value your achievements. Often we are so busy being busy that we don‘t see our progress and achievements. As an example I give an overview of my own achievements in a year that did not feel too successful while doing it. Yet I was l...

Growth happens at the edge of your comfort zone. When everything is running smooth in your life, it looks to the outside world as if you are improving at the moment. What is actually happening, is that you are putting the growth into practice that you achieved in your last downside. The last year put me through a lot of ditches and it did not always feel great to go through them but I was able to...

I made plans in the past and meant to realize them. Then life happened. Things came different and and I realized an even bigger dream. You see, plans can be helpful and it depends a lot on your psychology, weather you need more flexibility or a set of rules for yourself. In any case, it might be helpful if you keep your bigger picture in mind. So often we get stuck in daily routine, in the next st...

Imagine you were a professional basketball player. You’d need your time off every now and then. Concentrate, heal, recover and refocus are natural cycles of life. I became aware of that again after some weeks of podcasting vacation. I needed to refocus and put my hands on other projects and it brought to my attention that we need to allow ups and downs in everything we do. This natural fluctuation...

Each time that I am visiting the desert I learn something new. Although I already know about the magic of the desert I am surprised every time. In Sahara I am very close to the one I want to be. When I am without distraction, sitting in the sand and watching the beautiful desert, I find time for thoughts that give me new ideas. Apart from that there is something new to discover each time I visit....

How often do you think about your own legacy? By legacy I mean everything that will remain after you are gone. What do you want other people to keep in mind about you? After I asked myself that question for the very first time, my mindset shifted. Once you bring in a longterm perspective into your decision a lot of them might be taken completely different. A story that brings my thoughts to the po...

Sometimes I think that I have it figured all out. After all, I did so much coaching with others and am well aware of my own desires and wishes that I am the only one who does not need to have an own coach. Guess what, that ain‘t true. No matter how experienced you are, it always helps to get an external view to reflect yourself. Your unconscious mind will always find justifications for everything...

A week ago, I talked about the tiny steps that will help you achieve your biggest goals. Another way to look at the very same process is slowing down to speed up. So many of our largest mistakes happen when we rush into something. Being slow, like traveling on a sailboat will make you much more aware of your surroundings. Not only will it help you to notice more but also enjoy it so much more than...

I f you follow me and my work for a while, you will know that I want to take the big steps, reach the big goals immediately. Again and again life teaches me to take tiny steps though, because in the end, the biggest goal is just a combination of countless tiny steps. Once you focus on your next tiny step, everything is possible. Follow me at: https://patreon.com/flohjoe https://instagram.com/flohj...

Sometimes things are difficult in Tanzania. People lack a lot, what we take as granted in the industrialized world. I had my own struggles as you might know and decided to let go of sunk costs and move on. I talk a bit about Django. Tours, the new project and what fascinates me about East Africa. There is still there is so much to learn for us. How to take things easy, have a positive view on the...

I talked about this concept before. What affects the quality of a situation the most, is not so much the situation itself but your mindset towards it. Almost every incident in life can be seen from two different perspectives. Everything you love comes with something you don‘t. You will need to accept the downsides to become happy with what you are doing. I had to experience that the hard way over...

I am slowly catching up with the last weeks, where I have been, apart from Mt Meru & Kilimanjaro, one week riding in beautiful Provence. It was the hottest week on records in Southern France. Therefor we chose a tour we had never done before as a group. It took us high up the mountains and as far away from any tarmac road as possible in France. It was also the first time for me, to be able to focu...