Shawna Scafe, Professional Counsellor
Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting
Helping women and moms simplify their homes, hearts and lives. From decluttering to mindsets to intentional parenting. Shawna Scafe is your Nerdy Girlfriend and Counsellor, and mom of three, who is doing the work with you. Shawna Scafe runs a therapy practice in British Columbia Canada. She talks about the enneagram, being a mom of three, marriage, and creating a simple life. She is a Christian who is also undergoing her own faith deconstruction (affirming and inclusive therapy)
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May 11, 2026
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163. Have fun with your kids, on purpose + reasons we don’t have fun 14.04.2022 35:16
How to have more fun with our kids. It is OK if you feel like you aren’t enjoying your kids and if having fun with them is not happening or is hard to do.  There are a lot of reasons why we aren’t having fun and I want to talk about those and then share ways to bring fun into your family, on purpose   In this episode we talk about: The cultural image that makes parenting look...
162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives. 08.04.2022 16:47
When we want others to think well of us, what is happening is we are buying into the cultural myth that WE are all good, all the time. And then our EGO steps in to defend this truth and make us look good all the time. But this comes at a cost, it disconnects us from others. What if we can allow the not so good parts of ourselves to be seen and accepted? What if people don’t HAVE TO to think...
161. Why having LESS matters, the benefits of decluttering and minimalism 01.04.2022 20:44
Ever wonder if decluttering will be worth your time? Does minimalism really matter much? This question was asked in a recent survey I held and I thought it was so valuable. Because we all want to know that going through the work of decluttering will be worth it. Sometimes we need to hear about the benefits to help motivate us to start and move forward with the work of simplifying.  I’ll...
160. Getting dressed can be a keystone habit, creating an easy wardrobe / INSIGHTS from the 30for30 closet remix 16.03.2022 23:33
This is a continuation of the insights we had in the #moms30for30 challenge, where we wore 30 items of clothes for 30 days.   This challenge was a way for us to shop our closets, wear clothing items we never wear (cause we always stick with familiar, right!?), put together outfits, and get dressed each day.    In this episode we cover: The power of visual data aka taking dorky...
159. Wearing your fave clothes, mindful shopping, trends and style, and pride vs vanity in moms getting dressed each day / INSIGHTS from the capsule wardrobe challenge 16.03.2022 18:00
In this episode, we are recapping the moms30for30 capsule wardrobe challenge. I will be sharing the insights I have learned and the ones shared by the ladies who joined in this round.  Listen to this if you are curious about a capsule wardrobe, simplifying your closet, being more intentional with clothes shopping, being mindful about how trends impact you and finding your personal style, and...
158. MVP/ Do you typecast your kids? How labels impact our parenting and our children 04.03.2022 26:40
Hi friends, welcome to an MVP episode. These are episodes I have shared over the years that I have had feedback on that they have been particularly helpful. I am sharing these for those who missed them the first time around and for those who want a refresher.  This MVP episode is all about the labels we give our kids and how it changes us and them.      In this episode we talk...
157. How I tackled decluttering my office and kids craft drawers + how I handle the resistance to decluttering 24.02.2022 21:16
This past week I decluttered a few spaces in the home, the kitchen craft drawers and the office closet.  These are areas that had become unruly with stuff and clutter. They have been on my list to declutter as we need to start clearing out our kitchen and dining area to prepare for an upcoming kitchen reno.  In this episode I share: How decluttering one space can require decluttering of...
156. 3 things to know about feeling negative emotions 17.02.2022 18:05
We spend much of our days avoiding the emotions we don’t want to feel and panicking when we do feel those negative emotions. But then what happens is we give control over to the emotions and build up our lives hustling away the ‘bad’.  Over the years I have learned a lot about emotions that has personally brought me freedom from fearing emotions. This is something I have als...
155. If I talk about hard things is it complaining? Or venting? 08.02.2022 23:41
How do we talk about hard things? For some of us, our emotions seem overwhelming and we find ourselves dumping them out onto those around us. For some, our emotions seem unacceptable and we find ourselves bottling them up. Neither of these strategies really helps us process our emotions and make progress with them. I think we all find ourselves either emotional dumping to bottling at different tim...
154. What to do now that you are motivated (simplify getting started) 02.02.2022 10:36
We are feeling ready! We have stocked our motivation with books and podcasts and tedtalks, and we have our sneakers on and we are READY So what do we do??  It is normal to start making a list of all the changes we want to make and pursue a massive overhaul of all the things we want to see changed.  This is NOT the sustainable way to make change. It feels so necessary to do all the t...
153. How to move from ambivalent to ambitious (making change takes more than just willpower) 02.02.2022 14:36
How do you go from sitting on the couch staring at your phone to DOING the THING you said you WANTED to be doing? I want to teach you how to spot AMBIVALENCE and how to address it, so you can go through the steps of moving from ambivalent to ambitious and feel ready and motivated to make the changes you want in your life.    I reference the ‘last episode’ and since I recorded...
152. How to declutter the closet to make a capsule wardrobe (that works with your life) 27.01.2022 21:54
In order to do my capsule wardrobe challenge (#moms30for30) I decided to do a big closet declutter. I’m sharing my takeaways and tips to help you do that big clothes declutter, make refined decisions about what stays, and have a strategy to build up a capsule wardrobe that WORKS FOR YOU! Cause, you need a wardrobe that works for your lifestyle,  your taste and your body! The steps of my...
151. Capsule wardrobe closet remix challenge, the #moms30for30 25.01.2022 11:36
The 30for30 is a popular closet remix challenge. This February 1st I will be hosting a #moms30for30, which is a challenge we have been doing since 2014, where we wear 30 items for 30 days.  You can learn so much about your relationship to your clothes and how to make your closet WORK FOR YOU!    The build-up to the big closet declutter: Packing outfits for a trip How do you feel whe...
150. A new approach to habit change: routine and habit refinement 12.01.2022 14:06
The new year brings a lot of thought to the goals and habits we want to have.  I have a new tool for you to try if you are feeling overwhelmed and frustrated with all the work that goes into creating new habits and stopping ‘bad habits’. This is called habit refinement.  A new tool to try for making habit change With this tool, we do a habit audit to get awareness around what...
149. How to find what matters to you (uncovering your personal values) 03.01.2022 19:24
How do you want to spend your time? Your energy? Your space and money? When you decide in line with your values you will feel intentional and purposeful with all your little and big decisions.  Knowing your personal values helps you learn more about what matters to you, how you want to show up and how to make confident choices in your day and life.  But many of us are out of touch with o...
148. Why even make family Christmas traditions? (+ ones that didn’t work, ones that did) 03.12.2021 17:54
Family traditions are something we often think about as we start having kids. Many of us are looking for traditions to bring into our holidays that help us make memories with our kids. Sometimes we even feel an urgency to find the ‘right ones, right now’.   As we start to incorporate these new tradition ideas, sometimes they don’t always work. But here is why I think it...
147. Intentional phone habits and boundaries, using your phone ON PURPOSE 18.11.2021 24:03
Would you like to be more intentional with how you use your phone? Do you want to set boundaries and take back control of what your relationship with your phone looks like? In this episode, I have tips on how to do all of this, and I share my own personal phone boundaries that you might like to try too. Make sure to get the worksheets to help you create your own plan for creating intentional phone...
146. Feeling addicted to your phone? Understanding your phone habit + worksheets 09.11.2021 16:15
I get messages from moms, and coach women who feel like they are addicted to their phones. They share how it pulls them out of their presence with their kids and their lives. It sucks up their time and they feel like they never have enough time. It draws in their attention and they are scrolling social media that does NOT make them feel any better about themselves.  It seems that our phone us...
145. You aren’t alone mama, I go through that too 03.11.2021 19:58
I knew I had to share this episode as I heard more and more coaching clients tell me how much they appreciated hearing me say that I don’t always enjoy my kids, that I was a mom martyr, that pregnancy was hard.  I keep hearing how much it matters to hear that they aren’t alone in these struggles of motherhood.  In this episode I am talking about: Feeling like you aren’t...
144. How to lighten the mental load of DECISION FATIGUE 20.10.2021 17:44
We hear a lot about the mental burden that moms carry. We have so many things on our minds about all the people and all the things that need to happen PLUS all the things we want to be doing for ourselves too. It is a weighty mental load that we are carrying around.  I want to talk about a concept that will help you see some ways you can lighten this mental load. The concept is decision fatig...
143. How to let go of IDENTITY CLUTTER 13.10.2021 19:12
There is a type of clutter we ALL have in our home. It is identity clutter – you know those items that for someone we are not – but rather for different versions of ourselves: our past self, our aspirational self, our socially-compliant self, and our test self.  I walk you through these four types of identity clutter, how they challenge our sense of self and what we can learn from...
142. What will change cost you? (Paying the status quo or investing in change) 05.10.2021
We all feel this sense of  ‘ideal self’ that we want to be moving towards. It is safe to assume a lot of us desire some change on some level in some area of our lives. But we need to consider what change will cost us. We can’t ever change if we aren’t willing to make some kind of investment in it.    Seeing where we need to make an INVESTMENT in the change we...
141. When shopping isn’t making your life better (mindful and minimalist tips for shopping) 29.09.2021 20:23
Feel like you are shopping too much? Want to bring a minimalist approach and mindset into how you shop? Every season we seem to be bombarded with the latest fashion trends – a marketing strategy that fast fashion uses to get us to keep buying all the latest colours and patterns.  I know I feel like I need to buy a new wardrobe each season and need to remind myself of everything I alread...
140. Give your discomfort a purpose #uncomfortableonpurpose 22.09.2021
I challenged you to get uncomfortable this week. Now I want to dig into doing simple things that serve a bigger purpose. Giving your discomfort a purpose to work towards the vision and goals you have for your life. I want to break it down, keep it simple, and encourage you to drop your all-or-nothing mindset.  This past weekend  I did another Abundance Day  (aka Yes Day) with my kid...
139. Are you TOO comfortable? And what is it costing you? 14.09.2021 14:57
I love comfort (#typeninevibes) and I know that a lot of my comfort-seeking is more the AVOIDANCE of discomfort.  I don’t want to be uncomfortable.  What things make you uncomfortable? For me they have been things like:  Taking my small kids out in public Working on the conflicts in my marriage Exercise Getting up in the mornings Doing dishes Decluttering and organizing my hom...
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