Simpin After Dark

This week we're diving into H.E.R.'s song "Hard Place". It's about being torn between leaving or staying in a relationship that is no longer making you happy. As much as we may receive good advice, or know exactly what the right thing to do is, it isn't an easy decision to make. We also talk about trauma bonds, which is when one person or both people in a relationship are unable to leave each othe...

This episode we're finally talking about one of our favorite R&B girls, Summer Walker. She had too many bops to choose from on her album Over It, and we couldn't decide, so we picked "Riot" off her 2019 EP, Clear. It's all about expressing to someone that you need passion in your relationship, and that some boring, too-easy love, isn't gonna cut it. It's so relatable because we've be...

We're talking SZA once again, because it's SZA. "Garden (Say It Like That)" from the album CTRL, is all about being vulnerable and the insecurity of not being worth the love you're getting. It's so scary to acknowledge that sometimes you really do need that reassurance from your person in order to feel confident and loved. We talk about loving someone so deeply that you just pray they won't change...

This week we're talkin "Keep It Pushin'" by Russ ft. Mahalia. It's all about someone wanting to focus on themselves and having to cut someone off because it's not going anywhere anymore. Mahalia sings from the perspective of the person being left behind, being told to not wait up for a text at night. The lyrics are harsh but straight up and very relatable on both ends. Sometimes a relationship's o...

This episode is real slimy we love it. We go over the song, "HOMEGIRL" by Leven Kali, ft. Smino and Topaz Jones. The chorus is literally "that ain’t my bitch, that’s my motherfuckin’ homegirl, don’t be a snitch, we ain’t doin’ nothing wrong, girl". You know it sounds messy. We talk about all the perspectives in this situation and whether you should snitch or not? We also talk about open relationsh...

This is our petty episode and we go in for another hour long convo. This week we get into Kali Uchis and Rico Nasty's song "Aqui Yo Mando". It's in Spanish so Ashley translates some lyrics and Victoria talks about her flakey date experience. We also talk about second chances and why they do or don't work, or how many chances you're willing to give someone before you cut them off. This episode is f...

This episode we talk about Kiana Ledé's song "Attention" off her 2020 album, KIKI. It's about starting fights with your boo and doing desperate unhealthy shit in order to try to get attention and salvage a dying relationship. Our friend Stephanie, who is studying and training to become a therapist, comes through as a guest, and breaks down maladaptive schemas for us. We figure out what some of our...

We're taking it back this week with some T-Pain, "I'm Sprung". This is a major simpin song and we love a good R&B throwback. We talk about all the things we do for someone when we're sprung and how it feels like you're hypnotized. It's that honey moon phase of falling for someone and being so blinded by love that you may miss red flags. T-Pain is being smart and recognizing that this girl is o...

This week we do part II to Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion's song, "WAP", with Kory as our guest again. There is a lot of double standards in the music industry due to patriarchy, and lots of misogyny so we address those topics. Women in rap catch a lot of heat for being sexually explicit and liberated. There is an unspoken rule where if a woman sings sexual lyrics, versus rapping them, then it's...

We're talking about "WAP" today by Cardi B featuring Megan Thee Stallion. We also have our first ever guest on the show. Kory gives his male perspective on pick me's, baecations, and other juicy topics. We cry a little bit that Covid 19 ruined our hot girl summer, then we get straight into a tweet about which type of girl is more likely to get cheated on - the perfect girl next door that does ever...

This episode we're talking about the king of f*ckboys, Brent Faiyaz. We picked his song "Fuck The World (Summer in London)" because issa bop and it covers some great topics. We talk about how shady it can be to text someone that your partner has a bad feeling about. Sometimes it's innocent but the betrayal of finding out it was always what your gut was warning you about is the worst. From Brents p...

This episode is pretty self explanatory. We talk about SAYGRACE's song "Boys Ain't Shit". It escalates quickly, we talk about a lot of different controversial topics. Why do we excuse mens behavior by letting them off as boys? Why do we call women females, but men, men? Also should men contribute more financially than women in this age of feminism? Another wild card, child birth and pregnancy. We'...

This episode we break down our feelings about UMI's song "Open Up" off her recent EP Introspection. We talk about how hard it is to be vulnerable in new relationships, especially after being hurt. It's hard to open up and let people in, and building trust is even harder to do when there are little red flags. You need to find a balance between finding someone who accepts you and all your flaws...

Today we talk about one of the best breakup songs ever, "Frontline", by Kelela, off her 2017 Take Me Apart album. It's about that pivotal moment, when you've finally worked up the courage to walk away from a relationship that is holding you back, and you feel unstoppable. This song is empowering and focuses on holding on to that feeling before you cave in. Break ups are hard but listen to this alb...

First thing is first we LOVE SZA with all the love we have in our hearts and soul, and CTRL is an album that has resonated on so many levels with us and we are so happy we get to talk about it finally. We talk about SZA's song "The Weekend", and we asked our listeners to send us voice memos or messages with their opinions and experiences about it. We go through the submissions during the episode a...

Today we talk about "Temperature" by TeaMarr, which Victoria found while watching Issa Rae's show "Insecure" on HBO. It's about how her mood changes so easily when she's around her man. We've all been there - you're having an amazing time with your boo then they say one wrong thing and it just flips the entire mood around. But maybe secretly you're still waiting for them to fix it so you can do wh...

We cover some good topics today with Jessie Reyez's song "Imported" ft. 6lack. We talk about being a rebound or finding a rebound after a relationship, which we say is the best way to get over a person but can still be messy. Jessie talks about faking it till you make it which we interpret as sometimes having to pretend you're over someone until you finally are, or maybe faking the love in a...

This episode we talk about Saba's song "Broken Girls" off his album Care For Me. It deals with toxic relationships and being attracted to people with issues and how unhealthy it can be. Sometimes we attract the lessons we need to learn in life, and sometimes we attract the love we think we deserve. Just gotta be conscious of the choices we're making when it comes to the people we're giving our tim...

This episode we get real simpy talking about Kaash Paige's song "Love Songs". We relate to her lyrics about meeting someone and falling for them and sadly realizing after a while that their energy isn't matching yours anymore. We've all been on both sides of that situation, you start off with certain expectations and it sucks when reality falls short. You start off opening up, have cute nicknames...

It's our 10th episode and we're unofficially naming it Simpin After Drake. Drake is the pioneer of the simpin movement so it was only right to honor him by doing the simpiest song of all time, "Marvin's Room" off of Take Care. We talk about drunk dialing your exes, why we do or don't leave voicemails, feeling like you're better than the new person your ex is dealing with, and pouring your heart ou...

Today we finally talk about our queen Ari Lennox. "Broke" ft. JID is such a dope song with a cool theme we wanted to talk about - Dating while being broke. Does having money make it easier or does it complicate things? Or does being broke complicate things more? As broke babies ourselves, we discuss how having to work all the time and making ends meet can take a toll on a relationship, but hopeful...

Episode 8 we talk about the amazing song "Time" by Boogie ft. Snoh Aalegra, off his album Everythings For Sale. This is a sad one y'all! It's about two people being on different wavelengths in a relationship. Someone only trying to come through super late at night and never when they're sober, and the other person wanting it to be more than that and holding on even though it hurts. Sometimes we se...

We're finally talking about the ultimate simpin hours icon, The Weeknd. "After Hours" is one of the singles he released from his album also titled After Hours, and it's the perfect song for S.A.D. We reminisce on f***boys and their f*** ways and cry about it. Why is it so hard to be honest and loyal, and how do you expect someone to want to come back after all the things you've put them throu...

We had to do it to em again with Kehlani. She dropped "Valentine's Day (Shameful)", so we couldn't just not do another episode for her. We talk about acting cool when you're actually upset, and hiding your feelings of jealousy to not seem crazy. We also talk about red flags when starting a relationship, and how we handle forgiveness and the fun part called "letting go" that comes after that. It's...

This episode we talk about "Do U Wrong" by Leven Kali ft. the amazing Syd. It's a song about meeting someone you really like and being extremely straightforward to get them. It's hard to find people that don't play games so this song's take is refreshing. Both Leven and Kali let the person they're after know that they are down for whatever and that the ball is in their court, so we talk about how...